This is one thing I was rather hardcore on for awhile a year or two back. But I got to know myself a little better, and realized something. I can do all my own cooking, all my own cleaning, all my own laundry, all of my other chores, pay all of my own bills, balance my own checkbook, basically do anything I need done right now - heck, I already do. I don't need a woman to do that stuff for me - it's nice, of course, but I much prefer just to spend time with her, for us to be physically affectionate, and for us to connect not only as lovers but as best friends. It's nice and its convenient for her to enjoy housework, but it's not that important.
What do you guys think? Should your chick do the cooking, Cleaning and other chores, or do you agree with me?
[question posted by hassanchop]
responses and comments:
Let me first congratulate you. You're learning rather fast but got some way to go. Share with the chores, the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. You have to remember this. The happier she is the happier you'll be. If she's feeling miserable, you'll wish you were in a concentration camp being tortured by anyone but her. ‹(°¿°)› [jumpinjack00]
go go go!!!yeaaah!!!! i agree [dangerdvd]
To be honest, I share all the household chorus with my wife, equally. Whether its cooking, laundry, cleaning or looking after the kids, we do it together. But these days she started complaining that I spend too much time on my PC! [SunSix]
Okay, I'm not a man, but yay!!!!!!! It seems as though you've realized something that many men still haven't come to understand! I don't mind being the one to do all the "womanly" things around the house, but help is greatly appreciated. [MissRissa74]
a friend posted a discussion about these "womanly" things (my husband thinks that they are just that too, lol) and they are considered womanly until they are made into a career then a man tries to jump on it, but would not do it for Free in the home, such as janitor, chef, tailor, carpet cleaners, bus boys, ect.. kind of funny, huh? [lilttownmommie]
I think it is the mark of a true man if he can look after himself, if he can not, to me it is not a wife he is looking for, but a mother substitute and psychologists such as Freud would have interesting things to say blessed be, keep on posting [ESKARENA1]
I'm not a guy, but if all I had to do was the cooking, cleaning, laundry etc. I would be a very happy girl. If I wasn't already happily married, I'd sign up in a heartbeat :) [AskAlly]
AskAlly, are you saying you're subservient? What do you mean by, if all I had to do?" How much do you have to do? [jumpinjack00]
I agree with you that we men must share our work with our life partners in every possible way and I think in this way our bond will only increase with each other. [wasim989]
She say anything about maybe breaking a nail? lol couldn't resist the shot and I'll happily take any beatings dished out over it.lol [nw1911guy]
I'm glad you did learn it and I agree with you because it's fun doing things together. [alchemistrx]
Hooray! I love to hear a man say that. Good for you. Independence is wonderful, isn't it? [visitorinvasion]
i agree it is great for a man to be like this...i believe a man should want their woman, not need her to take care of him. [kaspyv]
You've learned a lot, good on you, big guy [katyzzz]
Does your partner really enjoy housework? Cause if that is the case pls share her happiness secret with me! :) [cinturina]
Housework! I'm trying to get my husband to help me with our children. I have two boys and they argue constantly. [WandaG]
One question.. are you a Muslim? Muslims mainly act this way. A man can cook, clean and do the laundry, men are not handicapped when it comes to that! If a woman wants to have a career, why not? whats the problem? In the West, women and men have same rights, and I like that. From a males point of view, I say that during marriage a compromise must be set. That is, the male and female both help each other, with the house work, maybe even with the accounts and expenses. This is the 21st century, things are changing, and this of equality is a good thing! Regards! [kurtdon]
Thanks for not reading the whole post Kurtdon. [hassanchop]
Realy women are not property that one need to possesed and then use at will and any how. They are just like you, having the same filling and trying to live the way you want to live. Thus, It is good if you suppport them and not to allow them do all the household work alone. I love woman and want to see her by my side always. Women are wonderful thing to be with. [uskolabu]
I think seeing guys do the household chores is cute, anyway there's nothing wrong with that. I think you want to apoil your partner. I think you are a responsible and good, very hawdworking too! Imagine you managed to do all those stuffs. That's wonderful, congratulation. [faylinn_chaeli]
Well, I consider myself told!!! I had you down as Mr Neanderthal, with your pockets full of Pit Bulls and your wife dragging the next Firkin of Newcastle Brown in for your evenings television viewing. ;) lol Isn't it nice how we are all apparently so PC? Caring sharing, independent and loving Mylot scribes. Where are all the U.K. Tykes gone? Is it true that somebody laced a factory full of Bisto with female hormones? That would go some way to explain it? It's got so bad, we don't even hear the word "Chick" no more lol Well Mr Hassanchop, I gladly apologise, and would happily share a sinkfull of washing up with you any day...The Newky Brown is still on offer is it? lol [nuffsed]
Well, there's nothing better than some Newcastle during a Chargers game! [hassanchop]
women is not alone responsible for cooking,and other domestic work. eating,cooking, washing our clothes, keeping our house clean is all the work of people who live there. so the better thing is do our work on our own without depending on others.but if any risk arises we can help each other [umapratyusha]
I for one am not male but i agree with you that it shouldn't be titled as womans work. I also think that you are going to make a very special lady happy one day. You seem like a really great guy that is atuned to a womans true desires!! [ronita34]
yeah ofcourse every female agree with your words if the is affection with them. [rubininidhish]
umm..its pretty good to do all ure wrk bye ureself..u see m also in +1(high skoo) grade rite now..nd i do most of the cookin stuff all by myself...nd also the cleaning part...itz so much fun doin the wrk for ourselves.. :) [sunnycool009]
From my point of view I think it's insulting to think that there's anything a woman can do that I can't do. It's not a question of choice, is it? It's a question of showing whether you care enough to really share everything that needs doing. I've been happily married for 32 years and we have ALWAYS shared the chores. It's no big deal. A guy was taking the mickey one time because he saw me hanging out a few towels to dry on the washing line. I told him that if he felt hanging washing out was a threat to his masculinity he had got much worse problems than me! Six months later the guy's wife had had twins and he was frantically hanging out nappies (diapers) on his own washing line! [Noot54]
well it feels pretty good...wen u do ure own wrk all by ureself.....u see m in +1 grade (high school) nd i do most of my wrk all by self...frm cookin to cleanin..nd all.....itz so much fun doin this.. :) [sunnycool009]
I do not believe that. I believe that the essence of a woman is doing more than the household chores. Women are also equipped to do the work outside the home. Men should also share the responsibilities at home. We should develop co-existence and gender sensitivity. [XXPOHXX]
its nice you think so.many guys dont think so.they consider women as their slaves [riyasam]
Congratulations. But I guess, it is better if you share household chores. Anything done too much is bad. You might wake up one day that you are all doing the chores.^^ It is not bad to pamper your wife but not too much. It is better if you maintain fairness at home. [dexterous21]
commendable point of view. I am sure a woman would like to do things for her husband but its rather nice to think that you did it because you wanted to not because you have to or that its what he expects you to do. [hazelle]
its primarily women responsiblity, however i would love to share these work with my wife whenever i get time.. thats pleasure in sharing some of your life partners work. Im happy in doing it. [alextki]
i agree with u in sahring household works nd the waqy u treat women..impossible to find people like u.. anyway m there like u...women needs help in doing household works..men shud do it themselves inorder to get some acquaintence.. we have just eated what they cook for us.. just taste the dish that we have cooked..it gives more pleasure [jayaramayodhya]
You sound like a gem. I think with both couples working nowadays the work should be shared. A woman should want to do these things not because she has to do them. A man who thinks like you is very valuable, I like your thinking. [venshida]
I think people need to share the responsibility. As for it being more convenient, what's more convenient about someone else enjoying it? If it means you can do it together that's one thing, but a man should still offer to help out even if the lady he's with insists on doing it herself. She needs to know that he supports an equal partnership. [danishcanadian]
I'm glad my friend that you don't now see cooking, cleaning,doing laundry etc as womens' job and have started doing your household chores. i think that both partners should share all the responsbilities including household chores so that we dont' overburden our partners and through our deeds and action show how much we care for them. Yes and that will allow couples to have more quality time for each other so they that can enjoy and have fun. Beides if girl is unhappy doing all household chores there is bound to be strain on the relatioship. [banta78]
forgive me for this, and i'm not a guy,but with all of the enlightenment and understanding that you say you have come to, and that IS good that you have learned more respect, then why are still referring to a woman as a "chick"? I think, from a womans perspective, that household duties should be shared. If a woman stays home and doesn't work, then yes she should do the majority, but any relationship should be balanced duties, no matter what they are. [samsonskola]
there is no rule or law that only woman should do all the home laundry and other works.now a days all are doing all theworks and nobody is having the right to say that only woman are doing these type of things. [yrteja]
Did we just hear a man admit that he was wrong? Someone mark this day down. Why shouldn't males do at least half of the chores? You do after all make at least half of the mess, usually more then half but I will not get into that. I am sure that she appreciates you actually doing things and not just expecting her to do them as it seems you were doing. I do have a question for you though... What brought about the change? [razcal2267]
i think all the household work should be leaft for the ladies....men should only indulge in the deeds that they are supposed to do.. [metalfreak]
Sounds like you want a "slave" and not a partner. Of course men should share equally in the chores and housework. [simplytraffic]
I think that all the work should not be done by women, men should share them works like cooking, dusting, laundry and other house work. And also I think that all the work should not be done by men only. [Mubashar1988]
Well thats refreshing to hear. when I first read the title I though Oh no not this one. Im glad you help out with chores around the house. Now if only more men would think like you women wouldnt have to complaine so much. [TerryZ]
No this should not be the case one should always share and distribute work!!! [atifzia7]
my husband seems to think that i need to do all these things. which is okay for right now because i am not working. but when i worked full time i still had to do all these things. sometimes i had to wear dirty clothes to work because he did not do my laundry. i would have to buy foods that were easy for him to cook so i knew my Kids would eat for the day. i am just worried that if something happened to me how he would manage everything. i have to give him an allowance out of his paycheck just to make sure the bills are paid. i don't think he even knows what bills we have. i keep the check book and debit card and if he needs to use it he has to ask. but i agree with you, men should help out so they can spend more time with each other. [4MYGIRLS]
i am from the philippines and was brought up to be well rounded at home since i am a woman. so, when i met my boyfriend from sweden and spent two weeks with him here in the philippines, i was amazed since he was helping me out at home. most filipino men let their women do everything for them at home. so, i was surprised that my swedish boyfriend helped me out in almost everything. i think it's better this way. the two of us will work together when at home and enjoy time together after the chores. i am just so lucky to have a man in my life like him. [maryannemax]
I help my wife in cooking, cleaning, and washing etc. it is not only mentioned a womens work, now a days womens are very much competitive to mens, they had already proved that they are equal to mens in all aspects. [johnmanohar]
im glad you have this feeling and respect for women and dont expect them to do all those things. most women like doing it for there loved ones,my hubbie was the same as you when i met him and he still does some of those things, not because he has to but he helps me out as he knows its alot for one person to do and raise two children. but there are men out there who think its the women job and they will not lift a finger to help. and thats sad, great discussion [sarah22]
For me if had wife, she must do that cause i must work to get a money or for doing my responbility, and i think the girl must be do the cook,clean, and for anything housework because that her responbility. [UcoksBaBa]
Yes...my mother do all the things as said above by u...and also other things say maintaining the house in proper way...she must complete the work with some plan and do that one correctly.... [sureshmoe]
kudos to you!! Women appreciate men like you. In this time and date, it is important for men to know the ropes on keeping a house not because they are forced to know it but because they should. Mutual help and understanding is key to keeping a good home together.. [kitokito]
What a good man you are!!! My hubby is the same way. He has no problem doing housework at all. We both work and we both take care of the house so we have more time for each other. [corimcl]
I'm thinking that way of thinking is finally going out of style. It used to be the "norm" for the man not to lift a finger. Now it seems like most men are helping out around the house. Both partners should share chores equally. It shouldn't all be placed on the woman. [mygreyparrot]
no this statement of men is totally wrong if the women are talented and hard working and want to do job let them do so....................... [kshitij786]
Finally a guy that gets it. My husband and I share in all the chores around the house. His friends tell him he is just whipped. We both work we both take care of the children and if we do the chores together than we get done faster and I am not exhausted from doing it all myself. We get to spend more quality time together. I think it's great that men pitch in. I don't understand why a man goes from taking care of himself to getting married and expecting the women to do it all. The wonder why we are always complaining. [limosonia1]
Your pretty nice kind of guy. Yeah, you can do all the chores from cooking down to balancing your own checkbook but you also need company. Nobody can totally live on his/her own. Somehow human depend on certain individuals around the environment he/she lives in. [cuhkiz]
sorry i cant i am not adjusted to cooking or cleaning but i can do the outdoor work in our society it is woman"s duty for all household work yes the trend is changing [sibananda]
My friend had problems with her husband being hard core about the same issues. But it took years of fighting to make the husband realize what he was putting her through. Not to mention they have twins at the time. She got so tired of him that she wrote down a schedule on the refrigerator of what he was to do and when he was to take care of the kids. [feeding11]
a lady in here... I really appreciate what your doing for your woman. and i also think that guys should experience those things. it's a plus points actually. [makaira]
i think its both, for me its ok that i do the chores or my girl do it for me, i guess its matter of whose willing to do the chores.. if you can do it both and at the same time maybe that could be fun too cooking together is fun dont you think? i think its sweet to those thinks once in a while and spend time to her doing normal things in ordinary time. [mayomagic101]
I think that that is what we should do. I am much too young to tell, but I have promised myself that I would love my lady and do everything for her (I have a specific lady in mind ;). If she wants to do the cleaning, cooking etc. then she will. But if she feels miserable that way... I'll help her or I'll do the stuff. Just to make my love happy. :) [cillerman]
I thought things were different in west and USA. But now i realize that all these junk work we selfish men left for them. Not a mark of civilization. I used to offer my help to my wife but she always refuse saying that I make a mess of things in kitchen. So I help her in other house hold matters like arranging the house,dusting the shelves , arranging the dress etc. It is high time that we be aware about the value and dignity of any work. [raveemenon]
From the wifes point of view I love having my husband take part in the house hold chores and the cooking. It helps me out alot considering we also have 4 kids to take care of. I am a stay home mom so yes I do most of the work but when he gets home from work he helps with the kids and a few basic things to give me a hand. For me it shows that he respects me and what I do. sometimes we even cook dinner together. We love to cook in the crock pot. [magikrose]
I definately agree with you. It's nice to know you can do everything you're spouse can do. They'll love you for volunteering to do the dishes or what not. [k1tten]
I think you have a really great outlook on life. :) I do all of our household chores, but that's because I'm the one who has the time to do it. My husband works two jobs so I can go to school, so the least I can do is deal with all of the cooking and cleaning. [akuseru]
Women is not a slave, they are not required to do all the housework by them self in fact the housework is a shared work. The word house mean everyone that in the house has the responsibility to do the work. Women should be treated equally as men and nowadays alot of women are working performance are on par with mens. Women is a companion that you love and not a maid . if you want someone that do all the chores for you then you can just hired a maid. No women should be treated any less than men. Anyway that is what i feel, if you are not agree with it doesn't matter . [victorwzj]
oh my god i can't belive that there are persons that still belive that a womans place is in the kitchen or at home staying with the kids .that is so lame and tipical for you guys to think.i think that a man should share the house work,think this way you will have much more time to spend togheter and if you help her around the house she wouldnt be so tired.i think a woman should be treated as youre equal.you now women have been raised since littel this way because if you could all remember littel girls shouldnt play with Cars or robots they only have to play with Dolls and cooking toys,girls should never play with Football its a stupid mentality.practicaly they learn littel girls what to do for when they grow up as if a girl couldnt play with a ball its totaly unfear but theres nothing we can do about it [PIITZY]
I wonder how many women will read just the title and reply to this thread spitting venom and fire. I'm glad you realised that you can do all those things. :) [BittyBiddy]
My son usually does the laundry and the basic cleaning in his house. His wife helps out, but he does the majority of the work. In fact, he seems happiest when he's mopping, vacuuming, dusting, running the washing machine, or folding clothes. Before they bought a washer and dryer, he did the wash (including baby clothes and his wife's clothes) at the laundrymat. I went with him, since I also washed there. On one occasion, I became aware of an old couple seated near the area where my son was folding clothes. He had washed about 9 loads that day, so he was really stacking them up. My 2 loads were finished, so we were enjoying conversation while he worked. As we talked, I noticed that every few minutes, the couple would look in my son's direction and smile, then look my way and frown. I couldn't figure it out. Why were they frowning at me? My son finished folding, packed the clothes as usual, and prepared to take the first 2 bags out to his car. As he approached the exit door; the old man jumped up, rushed to open the door, and said to my son, "I'll help you with that, young man," then turned and glared at me. Glancing over at his wife, I saw her glaring at me as well. That's when I got the picture. These people were upset with me because in their minds, the woman has been standing by, while the poor man has done all of the work. All the while they were there, the old man had been resting and talking, while his wife was busily doing the wash, which is probably what they expected I should be doing. What they didn't know is that my son enjoys folding clothes. It's one of his hobbies. He also didn't want my help with the bags. My job was specifically to keep him company; and when he finished washing, I was to remain in the laundrymat (keeping watch over the clothes) until he came and got the last 2 bags. Then, and only then, he would say to me, "Come on, Ma," and we'd leave. That was the way it was always done, and that wonderful old couple simply didn't understand that. [vdhill]
Yikes. At least you are learning. I do all of those things because I am a stay at home wife and mother right now and I choose to do them. But I gotta tell you, if my husband "informed" me that I was gonna do those things, he would sure be learning to take care of himself in a hurry. He helps me once in a while if the baby is being a bear and I just dont get to something like taking the garbage out or sweeping the floor, but for the most part all of the house stuff is mine. And trust me with 3 dogs, a cat, a 4 month old, and a husband there is more than enough to do. [moonmagick]
Well, that really depends. Right now, my husband works 80+ hours a week, so I don't ask him to do much around the house. However, when he's on leave, or when he has an easy rotation, I will ask him to help out. But most of the time I don't even have to ask him; he just pitches in. It's our home and he cares about it as much as I do. There should be no hard and fast rule about who does the housework; it's more about availability. If I was working all the time and my husband was home, then it would fall to him to get it done. [sndcain]
yes they are meant to do the house chores... so they should [executivedon_inc]
Not to mention, treating your lady right makes her WANT to do things for you. I'm glad to see you've matured enough to realize that a relationship is not the same as slavery! Work on the entire relationship and together it becomes one wonderful experience! [hockeygal4ever]
great post! please tell this to my husband! i feel like i spend day after day just cleaning and taking care of kids because im a stay at home mom. i dont mind doing it, but sometimes it would be nice to get a break! [AmberNormandin]
Great post! Thanks. Too many men seem to think that women are their "slaves" and have to do everything in the house even if they are working alll day too. Relatonships are about equality and sharing things - the good things and the bad - and that includes housework and childcare too! Your lady is lucky to have you:-)) [rosie_123]
Good for you, realizing you can do it yourself. A lot of men just say it's the woman's responsibility & go on. I am a stay at home mom so I don't mind the chores since my husbandworks, but it is harder to clean up after him all the time. He is capable of cleaning up himself so as long as I'm not let to do it all I'm fine. [jenn80webster]
I'm happy for you! I'm a woman and if there could be more men like you in the world then the world should celebrate. In my country, many people still think that women should do the housework so women are left with too many obligations without getting the attention that they deserve from their husbands. You're right! If men do the housework, or at least some of it, then their wives could spend more time taking care of themselves and maintaining their looks! Husbands need not look for a mistress. Good for you. ^^ [blackaquea]
well congrats for standing up and diong things for your girl, it makes her feel like you really love her and i agree with you, not only women but men can do those stuff too. :) http://www.swatcash.com/2787 [gboykey]
sure it should be shared...i mean, help out in the cleaning otherwise you are making a slave out of her. [mynatenyi]
Each half has his or her own roles to play. If only one of them is working, it wouldn't be asking too much of the other half to do the house chores. [KHyuga]
"it's nice and its convenient for her to enjoy housework" (LOL) I don't know anyone, male or female who actually enjoys housework. Let's face it, it's a string of boring, repetitive, unimaginative chores that bring no joy to anyone, and yet, someone must do them. Now, please come up with a sexist male equivalent for the word "chick" and this topic will be officially PC! Best regards, Buried Under Eight Pages Worth of Replies [SplitZip]
I am not married but I can answer this one because my mother does most of the house chores but I try to contribute a lot with her for example I cook on weekends, I do the laundry, cleaning, etc. mI don´t see why I shouldn´t contribute with things that for some people specially men are horrible to do but you can learn and even enjoy them. [jahvo6]
Many men can't really cook and do those household chores like you do, so they find it necessary for a woman to help them do such stuff. This doesn't mean they do not share affections. But like you said, the housework is not the important thing. It's the relationship with your partner. Those who are rich can hire cooks and other workers for their homes. [ephi4real]
well coming from a woman's prepective, I do the majority of the house work and the cooking, BUT my boyfriend does help around the house when i ask him too or if i am sick. but his weekly chores do include the trash and during the summer mowing the lawn, those are the only thing he does weekly unless i ask for his help. [missyd79]
Both of us are teachers. So we both work at home. Some time she cooks and some times I cook. Our both the kids love receipes of we two. Whenyour earning are low and if both are working then why only woman should work? Both of us do every and any work related to our family. We are happy with this. [sajodude]
that's the great way of thinking - if both work so basiclly both shoudl work. Women cant doo all the work but also cant be out of house works to do! [korek222]
i am a women and it is nice to know that some men can take care of themselves. i love to cook, clean and take care of my husband but it would be nice for him to do at least one thing for his self. [lvhughes]
Well my wife and I share most all of the house duties, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Although, she does the majority of the cooking, and she wouldn't have it any other way. =) I cook a few things well, like breakfast and about anything that needs to be grilled, or maybe things that come out of a box and have specific instructions. Just throwing a meal together though, she is much better off just doing it herself. Other than cooking though, we both do laundry, house cleaning, etc. I tend to do the yardwork (except for gardening), but it's only because I don't mind doing it (rather I like it most of the time) and I just beat her to it most of the time. She would do her share of the yardwork no problem if I let her. Now that I think about it, she cleans the house more often than I do, I may have to work on that. :-) Jim [jimbl75]
I disagree that women should just be tied down to the housework. When me and my husband were separated, I left him no choice but to do house chores and he did and got better. [sharon613]
I am a work at home mom. I make as much if not more than my husband who has a manual labor job outside of the home. I also look after our 5 month old all day, do laundry, clean the house, and cook. At night when our baby gets up I am the one who gets up with him. My husband figures because he actually leaves the house to work, that his job is more important and that I just sit on my butt (I am in web design). In all honesty this is a bad part of our lives and our marriage. I wish more guys would realise that women aren't subservient slaves made for having babies, and do housework. [shinydustbunnies]
With the stereotypical mindsset, we used to think that a woman should provide all the feminine housework jobs for a man.....as you said you as a amn can do all those chores, you are absoutely right with yourpoint. men are looking for a woman who can satisfy all their household chores including rearing after the children but on some point, have you ever thought that they are actually looking for a housemaid that could bear their child and eventually take care of their children for the rest of their life? [JMPILAPIL]
i think your wife is very lucky. there are very less husbands who think like this and who want their wives to be their best friends and i agree with you that its not necessary that women do the work [vityota]
It's best for guys (and gals) to know how to do all this stuff for themselves. I've met guys who are like you were, always depending on their mother and then girlfriends for that kind of thing. When a relationship ended, they'd then have to find another girlfriend so that person could do those things for them. So these guys were always dependent on other people for basic aspects of life--not a good situation to be in. [Idlewild]
I think in awomens point of view that no matter what sex you are you should know how to take care of yourself and when you are in a realtionship you should splitt the responsability! [michele609]
for me the house keeping duties should be considered equally for both of me and my women - we should do both all the things and just make a good time table to fit our needs and to ensure everything will be done :) [korek222]
You my dear friend, have just found the key to your success!!! LOL If you do not mind doing these things and would rather have the time to spend with her cuddling and being best friends, you are going to go a long way with this relationship. And in turn, she will do more for you in return!!! I think when men expect these things, they do not appreciate what IS doen for them. In turn, the woman starts to feel bitter and do not want to do them anymore. Be sure that when she does things though, to thank her. You would not believe how much a simple noticing, thanking, and a sweet kiss will get you! :) Congrats on finally figuring it out! Now, if more men that do not think this way would take a hint. LOL :) [brokentia]
touchy subject. its all in opinion it seems [Bakuhn7]
Thats great that you think that....we do cater to our men just in a different way then it was like 50 billion years ago. So congrats on thinkin that way and keep it up [Kelly1818]
I agree with you that we all can take care of ourselfs but it is nice to have a female around to share everything with you. Me and my girlfriend share all duties but at times she brings me Coffee in bed or does my laundry and thats nice to. [7nicole1]
I'm glad to hear that you have gotten past that hardcore phase of feeling that women should do that kind of work, and that now you see that you can do it yourself if needs be and that it's not just a woman's job. Really, the housework is just as easily shared, if both people are working in the family! ^_^ I applaud you for being so broad minded and willing to help out around the house! I hope that more men start to see things your way, although I think that in this day and age a lot more men have seen things this way ^_^ [shywolf]
no this not the right way to decide that women should do this or men should do this .male and female both r like two Wheels of a bike for example .if one will not work we can not go ahead so both of them have work together we can not say or order them to do the work this is for u n this for u thats it i wan t to say [abhineet_singh_kumar]
I have no clue what you are trying to say. [hassanchop]
Congratulation! You are truly independent. This must be a tremendous boost for your self esteem. The tasks that you listed are human tasks of everyday living and it is so important that each and everyone of us can look after ourselves. You will be cherished and loved and respected by your girlfriend and wife. It is also fun to share the tasks. Another bonus is you cannot be blackmailed ever by a girl who says I will do your laundry etc etc if you do etc. etc. [Lindalinda]
Exactly. I'm a bit OCD about my laundry anyways - I have a certain procedure I have to go through to make sure my clothes (especially shirts) come out fitting just right. [hassanchop]
I think nowadays, it is not like that anymore. of course the basic idea is that women should know better how to cook, clean and do laundry better than men, but I found out that it is not the cases anymore. What I prefer is..(well Im a girl).. to do some things together with your husband or partner or whatever, and spend the rest of the time talking, sharing experience or just having fun. Houseworks, if done together, will be done quicker and also much more fun. And also I think it is a great way to connect to people, and actually spend time together. Isnt that right? [babydolphin]
Well, you can always get a servent because i am lazy and my girl does all the work. Its not that i dont help her out (occasionally). But i dont want her to do all this either. SO i got a servet maid to do the washing and cleaning. Only cooking is done by my girl. I would cook if i knew how to. LOL. [taullyleo]
Nice thoughts, coming from a man. I guess a lot of other men wouldn't agree with you, but your partner is a lucky lady. You sound as though you have a good relationship there, and long may it continue. Brightest Blessings to you. :-) [Darkwing]
my husband still exspects me to do these things. I do all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, run around, bills, and take care of the kids. [stailgate]
That sucks. I basically don't completely trust anyone with my money, and as a current bachelor I have to do everything myself or it doesn't get done. Plus, I just enjoy cooking. I mean, is anyone gonna try telling Emeril Lagasse that his wife should do most of the cooking? He'd backhand them, then cook a fine cajun dish to refresh himself. [hassanchop]
1 part, agree with u and the other part, i don't. I don't think that just women should cook, clean, do the laundry and other housework. For me, u want to live with someone, yet u asked her do every housework. U love her or not? It better for u seeking a maid if u asked her do everything. So, each couple should tolerate with others. Do the housework together [kent_potat]
Am I not making myself clear enough here? Or are you just not reading my post? [hassanchop]
Definitely agree with you. Well it's good for you to know what woman do in the house so that in case you were left alone in the house you can do anything. And it feels better to be independent sometimes. Partners can help each other in the chores so that they can have some free time for themselves. [chokie]
My husband and I have this one figured out, too. We both do what we are good at - not what society tells us is the 'man's work' and the 'womans work'. Even women like to be taken care of. You are so right that a happy woman will mean a happier you - and a more intimate relationship, too. [payingforschool]
Housework aren't for women alone. They are not necessarity around always for our convenience at all times. Besides I believe it would be much a lot of fun if couples do things together. [trinidadvelasco]
I think its not one persons job. If you make the mess clean it up. You should always work together on things. It makes it alot easier and keeps things runnign alot smoother. People get tired of doing the same chores and things every day. [smalltownmtngirl]
Both my husband and myself are disabled and not able to work. We have 2 teenage daughters who help us out.....some! Even before we got hurt, both of shared the chores, the cooking and taking care of the kids. We have always done everything together and my inlaws swear we are life-ers. After he got hurt a lot was stuck on me, which ended up in me getting hurt. Now we equally share everything again and are much happier. I have to tell you, he can make roast that will melt in your mouth, much better than me. I can bake and cook, but his roast still beats mine. It is nice having a man who helps out. The only drawback, is he is hyper and needs things to do all the time. And that is a drawback I don't mind! [globell45]
I totally agree with you. When guys can do it then they should do it especially when they are not handicapped. If the others think that they need a little help from their women, then they can ask but not totally give them full responsibility since women also has other things to do, right? [MiLaw8]
I do not think a woman should do all the cooking and cleaning and other things as a couple should share responsibilities. One person should not do all the work. It is good for each person to know how to do each of the things that you mentioned. She should be allowed to go out and do things that she enjoys. Many women work full time jobs now so the guys should do some of the work as well. [kgwat70]
Wow that is so wonderful!!...I wish you could have a talk with my husband lol!!..He thinks that I should have all this done, take care of the kids and work..HAHA i dont think so!! [tishabake1103]
Well I am a woman and I agree with you. To bad some other men wouldn't learn that too lol. I work full time, and go to school two nights a week and all day saturday, I sure could use a little help with the housework and cooking then they wonder why your to tired for woopie lol. way to go you've come along way guy. All the best. [citygirl]
Yeah yeah yeah I thihk you are on the riht way. I always cook and only like to eat what I cook. Washing machine is for everyone not only woman and its so easy. [andrianoxxl]
I cook 5 nights a week as my wife works nightshift but I enjoy it so it's not really a chore. I usually help with washing and hanging out the cloths on the line on a Saturday morning when I'm not working, wash the dishes sometimes but don't always get the time! [chileman]
I can't say as i do a GREAT job, my house is not always spotless.. infact the only place that gets spotless on a regular basis is the kitchen and bathroom. But since he works for a living and i stay at home, i take on the responsibilites of keeping the house in order. I dont mind usually. but it annoys me some of the time when he could easily clean up little messes after himself instead of leaving EVERYthing for me to clean. He does try though. sometimes. when he feels like it. [Sissygrl]
Yea, I think that was woman job as wife he he.. No, not really I can do that myself but woman should do that because it was their job to make home clean and our job is get a money. *laugh* [istanto]
my thinking is also the same... women should stay at home and do the household jobs... and should take care of their family.. thats enough... [aruniitb]
why is it always woman who should do that work? Nowadays there is no guy who stays alone who doesnot know cooking and on viceversa there are lot of girls who learn to cook just few months before their marriage. Its all changing that all works are shared between the man and the woman. Lets all welcome the change and encourage the change. [survey_antony]
I think women can do all those chores is shes a fulltime housewife. But if shes a career woman, hell no! [hottie0728]
You know,I admire you for thinking that way.You know how to appreciate a girl and you are not ashamed to do things women are stereotyped to be doing!My husband is also like you,when he's on vacation (he's working overseas)-he cleans our house,cooks for me and our kids,does our laundry and he takes good care of our children whenever I go to work.I only see a few men like that and it feels good there are still guys like you around.Some men treat women as if it is their sole responsibility to do those things,which isn't right.It's not that I hate cleaing the house or cooking.I like taking care of my husband and kids,but I like it when we take it as a shared responsibility. [guia10]
i think it would be much better and more enjoyable if you do things together. in that way, you will get to be more intimate and work as a team. [joygermino]
I am proud of you my friend that youn are capable of doing both kind of work.I do prefer to be like you to do my own work be it cooking,cleaning.washing anything i am not biased about girls i feel men can do it better. [Bhutto]
dude,u make us guys proud to have that thingking.Men should do house chores just like the women and never feel ashame of it.I personally enjoy doing all those works on my own rather than depending on the girl.if v both can figure out a way to do alternate daily chores,it would be really enjoyable.Take it as a way to communicate with your lover .Women are ain't just a maid :P..haha [Zhanec]
if your in one roof i think its best to share all the household chores in the house...its not good to put all the load to the woman, man should learn also and help...as what you have stated above well i congratulate you for learning all those chores...your just one of the few i guess who are not dependent on woman... [vanities]
I am impressed by what you have learned. Keep it up! [mlylumad]
I think that is a very good idea. My husband helps me with those things and I think it is really great. I know it makes me a lot happier. After all men can do anything a woman can do and I don't think that it makes them womanly; I think that it makes them helpful and useful and it makes their wives very happy ;) [caribe]
no..no..no... women not to house work, tink about equally of man [telulas]
if they dont work then yes wamen should if they work and you dont then you should if you both work then you should share this is obvious to anyone who thing about it for 1 second [wepay2]
I am a housewife and honestly, I salute you for your choice. Its not because you make your partner lazy and all (lol).. but because of your mindset of the way you could take of the relationship.. always valueing the time spent together. Keep it up. You'll make a good partner. [cyndhirella]
if she have nothing to do. I prefer she do the house work, but if she is in the middle of something, i'll do it. [mataanjin]
Not all the time, there are cases that the wife is the one who is earning, how about that? Would you left all the chores to her too? I dun think so. Me and my wife is both managing our small business, but I don't rely on her to do all the chores, but most of the time she does her chores ^^, which I guess a reward for my being a faithful to her. :) [cruzades]
I WANT TO BE RICH AND I WANT TO GET A HELPER TO DO THE HOUSE HOLD WORK AND HAVE MORE TIME FOR MY GIRLS, HAHAHAHA [Ebradlei]
My husband and I try to share in the household chores to make it fair. If both people work, than I feel you should try to contribute fairly so there is no resentment. [amray767]
i prefer she doiong it, coz if she doing this she have something to do. better then if she goig ot for work. [mataanjin]
There are two life circle one is outer and other is inner, Outer is out of home and inner is in the home. Woman is made for inner all functioning. [zoopash]
you're cool dude :) nowadays its fun to do things when you're together and since our technology is modernized its easy to do different household chores example there's a coffee maker, washing machine etc...in addition, the treatment now is equal what the women can do, men can do it also and vice versa...i salute you dude :) [angelco]
but if can be a helping hand to our mother sister and spouses then it will be great [tttashish]
I wish my husband agreed with you, atleast to some point, I mean I don't mind cooking and cleaning, but he fails to realize that I can not manage to get everyting done all the time while I am pregnant and have 2 kids clinging to me 24/7. I know that since he works outside the home, and I am home all day with the kids I should do laundry and cook and clean, but sometimes I need a little help around the house, or atleast with the kids. The only time that we have to spend together is the rare occasion that he is actually still awake after I get dinner ready, feed the kids, give them their baths, get their pjs on them, brush their teeth, and get them off to bed and settled for the night, usually he is asleep by that time, if not though I will blow off doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen and my quiet time to spend time with him. I think that we would have more time if he would help out, maybe help with 1 of the kids so I could get done faster, or do the itchen for me or something. I only wish he agreed with you. [lilttownmommie]
I forgot to mention that our kids are 5 yrs old and 6 months old, before you think we must have time to spend together with me being pregnant again, it happened on a rare weekend when both of the kids were staying the night with their grandmother, and the baby was still sleeping alot so I had more time to get things done around the house, now at 6 months old she feels like she should have all of my attention 24/7 [lilttownmommie]
You are a very good person I get. Not all men think alike and they think women are there to do housework. Its a nice sentiment that you express when you say about affection and friendship. I hope all men would realize that women are not there only to do housework. Good luck and keep up the good work. [sherinek]
I agree with you. It is my belief that men shy away from housework not because they are MCPs n\but simply because they are unfamiliar with it and they would not like to fumble when they try and be laughed at. Women should encourage men to take up tasks one by one and not hand out scathing or 'giggling' criticism if the task is not well done. You know for most men their mothers are the reason why they did not get into housework. So my request to all young mothers out there: Please encourage your sons to do housework even as they grow up. [nanands]
My mom became single when I was 16 and she works outside the home, so naturally I had to take up my own work ^_^ [hassanchop]
I think it all depends on the situation. If my man works all day and I'm at home, I believe I should be the one doing all the things you mentioned. If he wants to share those responsibilities and take turns, that would fine with me as well. [rawpoet]
I think you are so adorable. And your discussions are interesting, they are basic, but you offer a very unique view. I have always looked at it as an unwritten rule, I do feel that somethings a man just shouldn't have to do for himself. Of course its fine, its your life, your choice. And of course, those things dont come into play until a certain stage in a relationship. But for me, I have always been that way. I am a caregiver, a homemaker, a hostess. It is as though it is natural for me. I enjoy doing the cooking, the cleaning, laundry. You can handle your own ills and checkbook, I dont get into finances. Lol! I just think that, as a man, especially if you're working, there are things you just shouldn't be bothered with. But I will admit this, I think more guys are thinking like you. Because I've been this way, the caregiver type, and I've always thought that it made a difference. It doesn't, I think that more men would rather just have a woman that they can enjoy in other aspects. Which is fine, of course. Its interesting to get a mans view on it- thank you for raising the topic. [MAAluv]
My husband pretty much does everything for himself and does not really need me to do all of that to him. So, I am greatful that he helps me when I can not do the house work or cooking. [Lydia1901]
I yhink this is works its for all but the womems do better that works but the mens have too help :) [Xixanatola]
If the woman does all the cooking, cleaning and housework, she's not going to have *time* to spend being physically affectionate. Never mind having any energy for it. If I'm doing all the cleaning, I'd rather be single - then I only have to do it for one person. [onesiobhan]
Yeah, i agree with u. I think that all hubbys/bfs must work with their gfs/wifes. Life parterners should divide their work equally and do it together but it looks a bit funnny here in Asia when a man does home works e.g. dusting, washing etc. If ur parterner does less work, she'll remain more fresh & will give u good company when u'll need instead of saying good night to u. I think so. [sweetie88]
Glad to see that you are helping her out. Believe it or not, by the two of you doing things together, they get done alot quicker and then you do have that extra time for cuddling. The more you do to together, the less complaining she will do and you both will have more quality time together. Play off of each others strengths & weaknesses. The more you help her do, the less stressed your woman will be and more willing to play a little slap & tickle. [mrsjumppuppy03]