in your home,who do the housework usually?according to our tradition,it is woman who does housework most,because they are house wifves,man usually goes out to work to earn money,to support all the family.but now,woman are not at home all day long,they need to find a job outside to share the economic burden,so they are tired after a day's work as man.under this condition,who do you think should do more housework.and actually,some housework must be done by woman,such as raising kids.so is it man should do more housework or not?
share with us,thank you!
[question posted by angela2006]
responses and comments:
Usually me and my husband doing together the housework every saturday or sunday. Monday until Friday, i cook. If i cook, that's mean my husband will cleanning the dishes. In Saturday and Sunday, my husband cook, then i cleaning the dishes. That's already our aggrement the first time we married. So... the housework not only for wife in our family ^_^ [julianarw]
it same to me ,but acctully ,My boy freind (furture husband) alway deal most housework,not I push him ,just he think I am not good at deal the housework ,for example sweeping,he alway think I deal not so clearly ,washing ,he always afraid I washing his shirt colorful. so ok ,I give up ,and he deal most housework ,in that time,I think lazy women sometime is good. [jasminejlcn]
My husband and I both work and we both do housework. We both have "chores" we do. We both look after our child. It's pretty equal and fair. [pkosher]
Yep that's our tradition but im fine with it. But lucky me we share the chores together. He do the guy stuf like gardening, washing the car and dog, roof and electricity. while i do the cooking and sweeping the floors. We do the laundry together. [bluishrose]
traditionally it is the woman who do the housework but in this generation both are helping each other. Man and woman of course has its own definite roles as to its gender but as to life man and woman are equal so as to knowledge are not only for one but for all. The woman can do what man can do but has its limitation depend on its capability likewise also for man to woman. Well, life is tough sometimes that woman now a days need to work to help their husband, their family for them to live and for the guys alone to survive by themselves has to learn to what woman can do specifically housework. [cheenlly]
in my family, my mom do all the housework except cooking. my dad cook for us, because he can cook delicious food. frankly, i don't think my mom should do all the housework, and i feel my dad should give her a help, but my dad thinks it is a wife's job. and he even washes his socks, but my mom had never regretted about it. now i live with my boyfriend, and we do all the housework together. sometimes he does more than what i do. they are our own house, so we should clean it by ourselves. [wonderful1]
housework should be a chore shared by all members of the house who are able to clean. Just because a woman stays home instead of putting children in day care does not mean she is not doing anything helpful for the family. just because she is in the house most of the time, does not mean her husband has no responsiblities of the house. she has plenty of things to do with tending to the children, she should be recieving help from her husband to take care of the home. the house is his to, the chidren are his to. being a family means taking care of each other together, not one person taking care of everyone and everything. [kimberlyjt]
Since I'm unemployed (just a housewife), I do almost all the housework, except washing clothes and hanging them he he he he... I'm sure that when I find a full-time job later on, we'll be sharing our housework. ;-D [ailema4ever]
I think everybody is responsible to the family, so everybody should share the housework. It is not a must for a woman to do the housework, the man is also responsible to it. [youless]
If husband and wife both work outside the home, both should share the household responsibilities equally. That means cleaning and childcare. I stay home with my child, so I do the majority of the housework and childcare, but my husband still helps. I don't do it because it is "women's work." I do it because, financially, it makes more sense for me to be home than for my husband to be home. [marciaj]
Yes, normally its believed and thought that the woman of the house should do all the chores at home and thats whats followed still traditonally in most houses even today. But i think times are changing now a days with the wives also going out to work now a days. So, i think even the men now a days realise and see for themselves that the wives are stressed out managing the work place and also coming home to raise kids and keep working all the time at home too, and i think its natural for the men to lend a helping hand to the women and in most families this is what is happening too, both partners come home and each one has thir own area of work and they divide the work amongst themselves, thus helping each other too. Raising the kids also is not the sole responsibility of the woman and both parents must share the responsibilty, so that the kids are also close to both parents. In our family too, its not just my husband and me who share the housework, its even our kids who do the same, and i think thats always better that ways. [vinzen]
Men should pitch in their fair share. Mine does. He doesn't do much, but every bit helps out. [Sacrificialclam]
I agree, and I'm glad you at least appreciate the efforts he does. I've encountered plenty of women that don't. [theprogamer]
I do 90% of the housework. We both work full time, I as a Teaching Assistant and my husband works for a pharmacuetical company and does shift work. He does 'a bit' around the house but it doesn't equate to much really. I have 3 kids who I am trying to get to do a bit more around the house but I'm not getting very far with it. To be honest he does things around the house but it's not the way I like it done so I guess that's my fault isn't it? [Scorpio2111]
In my house I do most of the housework and my husband does most of the yard work. We have a large yard so its actually pretty even. However, when there is a lot to do in the house, he does help out even without being asked. And on the flip side when there's a lot to do outside I pitch in. We really share the responsibility of keeping our home neat. [maybebaby]
I think it is normal that man and woman do the housework together. Here in my house, normally I'm the one do the housework, but sometime, if there is a reason that I can't do that, of course mu husband would like to help me to do some part of the housework. Also with raising the kids, we always do it together, not only me but also my husband some time do baby sitting our children. Just have to communicate each other about what should we do in a day. [nyumix]
In my case also it is the woman who does all the housework. And even after getting job outside she has to come home, cook food and feed her family. It's really boring. My mom did the same. But these days me and my sister help her alot in the house hold chores. And dad used to also help her a little bit when we were kid. But I think house hold chores should be shared and done equally. [diillu]
I think both the husband and wife should share the daily house work. If the husband has a hard day at work, that doesn't justify that he should be free from chores where as the wife would have to do it regardless if she has a hard day as well. Of course, there are certain circumstances where the husband works more hours than he gets to sleep and has very little free time except on the weekends. Even then he could help out on the weekends. But until the husband starts working in the coal mines all day for a few pennies, I believe the house work should be divided equally. [insanity01]
I don't think of raising kids as housework, it's a responsibility of both parents. I also think the household chores should be shared, in particular if both partners are working outside the home. They can take turns, or divvy it up by who has the time when. My daughter and her husband trade off chores so they don't get quite so sick of them lol. [cremechese51]
If husband and wife are both working, they should also share household chores. Children should also have their share of maintaining the house. This is not really for the purpose of getting all the jobs done nor to make their life a little harder. This is to give them lesson about responsibility. Because sooner or later they would have their own big responsibilities, they would at least have trainings already on small responsibilities thus, big responsibilities should be easy enough for them :) [christineli]
I think woman and man should share their house work.We are also used to in my country that woman made all the work, while man support the family, but that is no more, women wants work too and have carrer, so if she come home from work she is same tired like man.But it is sad a lot of men still think they are working harder like a women and let all the work for them.I definitely think the couple should share their work. [laurika]
I think both woman and man should do the housework since they are the one who own the house and family.Housework is not only for woman.Man must play a role too and must not depends on woman.If both are busy outside..they must also spare times together doing housework.Even if the woman may be a full time housewife,man should also help in certain areas. [dianagnes]
My wife works in the city during the day,due to the kind of money she earns.When she gets home she starts with the housework,(laundry,vacuuming,beds etc)The only work she allows me to do is the cooking,( I'm a very good cook)other then that,I fill up my day by going to the gym,just to keep on looking and keeping fit for her and she is very happy [PacificChief]
If the man goes out to work then the woman should take care of the home. Then on weekends they should share the housework together. My husband shares the housework when he is home and even shares the cooking. [TerryZ]
Here in my home, we all do the housework. I firmly believe that everyone in the house must obligue himself to do work in here because anyway, it is our house and we should be responsible with every detail. Even my 4 years old child takes part in the house chores. He does little things fit for his age. [hersmart4ever]
Hdello angela2006 Quite simply, I think that who ever makes the mess should clean up it. [Transdisc]
I think everyone in the house should do their share ! The women of today also work very hard so everything should not be put on her ! The man should pitch in also even if they are the only one working the woman deserves some time off as well. [marylouu69]
I think it's not a question of who will do the housework. I think it's everybody's job to do it. A little help from family members can lighten all the houseworks. Parents should teach their children to help and not just grow lazy kids and too dependent on parents to do everything for them. Housework is a tough job. I honor those moms or dads who stay at home and do all the chores. I think we should give them credits to them. [jhanna]
My husband and I both do housework. He also cooks sometimes. Women need to work now because the prices on things keep going up but the pay doesn't increase. And also, raising children is both parent's responsibility, not just the woman. [southernpixie]
Hi angela, When both the husband and wife work outside the home, they should share the housework. It would be very unfair for the woman to come home after working all day, and then have to do all the work at home as well. The tradition was fine when doing the housework was the womans job. Blessings. [Pose123]
With us, because we both work right now, whomever is lucky enough to have time does housework. It works out that my husband does most of the cooking, laundry, and dish washing and I do most of the cleaning. [cutepenguin]
both me and my wife don't want to do the housework ,so we hire the clock worker to clear our housing every week [lgwlong]
Since i live with my parents,we have to help out with the chores.Mom do the housework most and my siblings help to play their part too.U can't say that since man have to work outside,they doesn't need to do house chores at home.Everyone must contribute in order to obtain a comfy and clean home.Houseworks are just simple task,though it's tiring.There are times and certain task must be handle by men,so they should have to play their part.There is no more or less in this matter.It's a matter of heart .It's a matter of yourself.If you want to have a nice home. [Zhanec]
Traditionally, the woman does the housework while the man go out to find food or to earn for a living. In my case, I stay at home with my 3 kids while my hubby works in another country. He comes home every after 3 months, when he's home he does the houseworks like handyman, cooking, other chores because he knows housechores better than me. Sometimes, I heard in other families that the woman earns for a living while the man is left to do with the chores. Whoever is the one to do the housework, the most important of all is that there is an understanding between the couple, a set goal to accomplish for the good of the family, love and care. Good luck to you! [meaculpa]
My wife and I both work. We have a house maid who helps out with basic chores, such as cleaning the house, making sure the flowers have water, cleaning the surroundings, and doing much of the laundry. Sometimes, she also cooks, especially during the day. Some other chores, like preparing dinner and taking care of our kids, are shared between my wife and I. My wife does most of them. I guess it's a natural instinct on her part. But I try and help our where I can. [nickventere]
Yes it is usually so because women are more organised & traditionaaly always lived at home.But now the scenario at work is changing so do the working pattern should chamge.As woman is ready to share the economic burden in the house so is the man should be ready to help the woman in houshold work.It is not about doing everything but helping her like she might cook but he can cut vegetables.She can clan cloths he can claen the utensils like this.It has to be shariong & working togethet as the time has really chaged & is changing fast. [rb200406]
We have our househelp to do the house work since me and my husband are both working. But when we're home and the househelp is on a day off then we both share the house work. He, my husband that only female should do the house work alone. He knows how to clean the house, to cook, laundry, iron clothes, and to fix broken things at home. But he doesn't do those electrical repair and car repair too. ^___^ [dhedows118]
It should be shared and both genders should appreciate the efforts of their spouse. A lot can be done by one person but it gets tiresome. Sharing the responsibilities lessens the burden for both members in the household. [theprogamer]
Hi,friend,I have to do more housework at home.My husband admits that he isn't doing enough.I usually say to him" Could you please help me with the housework?"lol... [wm69love88]
Hi Angela, A good family needs no ego, and if ego is present, then the smooth cordial atmosphere will not prevail. So according to me bith the husband and wife, and if the children are grown up means, every one of us must share the house work. There is no point in marking lines that these work need to br carrird out by the women and some by men. One thing we must be clear about, that we are doing our own house work and we are not doing for someone's else work in the world. So we must not make any distinction between the works to be done. Take care and happy mylotting. [saivenkaat802003]
well, i try to do some houswork once in a while, because i think that when you live with other poeple in the same house, you should also be contributing to that... [Unl3ashed]
The man should pitch in his fair share as well, whether he works or not. It's only fair. Just because the woman stays at home does NOT mean she sits on her arse and eats popocorn all day long. [CletusVanDamme]
Its not matter of compulsion that only women is meant to do housework and men earn now things have changed a lot both work to earn as well as share the households...i feel it totally based on each others comfort level who does the work and who does what work...Both can share and be of help to each other [infoguy]