After meal,there are so many dishwares to wash,but who to wash it,maybe in most of families,this work is belong to wife,I think it is traditional,but it is unfair to woman,I think all family member should do housework,maybe they can take turn.
In my home,my father always does it,and he also a good cook,the food is so delicious which is cook by him,I think my father just like a housewife,he does so much housework.
I think I should do something,hehe.....do not be so lazy.
What about you?
Who do housework in your family?
Do you often do some housework?
[question posted by tracy1985]
responses and comments:
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Thank you for your response,my friend.I am from hangzhou,where are you from? [tracy1985]
im the one who do most of the job coz im the mother of the house, but sometimes i get help from my husband when his home and not working, i don't have a problem washing the dishes coz we have a dishwasher. [nnsb75]
wow....thank you. [tracy1985]
I do most of it. I guess cause I am mom and I work from home. Both of our children have their own daily chores. And my husband loves to cook on the grill in the evenings. It all just seems to work out:) [newadd]
You are welcome. Have a wonderful weekend:) [newadd]
We share the housework in our home. I tend to do more of the laundry, but when it is a busy week, my husband pitches in and keeps the laundry caught up for me. I do the same for him with the dishes. Things really run pretty smoothly because we both are willing to pick up for the slack of the other. Now that our son is getting older, we keep him involved with the housework, particularly in making sure things like his shoes, toys, etc are picked up everyday. It is working too, because he is quick to point out when me or my husband forget to pick up our clothes! [amyann16]
it is fun for family to work together.enjoy weekend. [tracy1985]
My wife and I used to do the housework together, including cooking, cleaning, washing the dishes, ironing and just about anything that's needed to be done in the house. She does some, and I do some, but we always work together based on a set routine. Now that I have gotten a maid because of my mother-in-law, the maid has taken over all these tasks, and I just play the supervisory role. But my wife and I still do the groceries each week. [lexus54]
hehe....maybe you are right,all husband should do like you,but I am afraid that not everyone can achieve it.it is easy to say,but hard to do.Most of them can not insist on.so absolutely think you are a employable husband.hehe...if I get married,I will do like you.thank you. [tracy1985]
yes it is so unfair for the wife to do all the work since everybody ate. i have no husband im a single mom of four kids and my kids share chores. we have schedule to who is going to wash. i make my kids share the chores around the house it makes them grow to be a responsible person. [roniroxas]
thank you very much [roniroxas]
Family members should work as a team, so whenever we don't have a household help, we divided the task. When my husband is around, he does the cooking, both of us marketing, my daughter does the dishes, while my son feeds the dogs and does other errands. It's not a joke to be doing household chores all by yourself. For our soiled clothes, we bring them to the laundry, so that takes care of basic chores, except cleaning the house, which could be done only once a week. Children should be trained early to help out in household chores. [psyche49f]
yes,I think family is a team,they must work together.then they will achieve their goal.thank you. [tracy1985]
*hush* i have been complaining bout this on one of my discussions..i was doing all the house work at home..i do the laundry, the dishes and cleaning of the house though i have a brother and lil sister to hoping they will help out..they just don't they are very lazy..i don't wanna see a house full of mess that is why no matter how i ignore doing house work i just can't..i just can't live like a jungle wheni have feet and hands to work on it..mama just can't help me do this because she is a full time working mom..while i also work full time but i dont want my mama to work more of house work..she is just so tired of her work..i am tired too but i can manage, i just dont want my mama to work more of her spare time to rest..while my siblings just do nothing..sit, eat and mess up the whole house..their just up to no good but a shame.. [angel_of_death]
hey tracy1985, i help my wife at the chores. so what if i'm the man of the house. i also assign my kids to respective chores at home. it really helps ease out stress for my wife. you know, division of labor in your home is a good idea especially when your kids are growing. it helps them learn the values of being organized in life. [mdasco]
all my family member do housework [syahmixp]
My husband and I both do work around the house. I prefer to do the yard work, and he usually works inside. But we both do both, depending on who has the most time. Sometimes it is me and sometimes it is him. He usually cooks - out of self defence! [DJ9020]
All of us do in this house. We all share the responsibilities in this home. It works out easier for us this way there will be no fighting. [Lifez2short]
In my home,the housework mainly be done by my mother.However,if women just stay at home and do housework,it also can creat great value.If we hire a Nanny to do the housework,we will spend a lot of money which is even more than men had earned.So women doing housework at home is also a job,it's just misunderstood by most of people.So no matter who do housework in the family ,she or he should be respected by all of the famiy member. [yunlong]
haha,i think your father is the good man,your father is a example to my father,lol......My father cannot do this things in our family. In our family,do this things in my grandma,she has do the cook career before she retire.now,when after meal,my grandma will do this work,my mother will do this things once in a way,my mother must work everyday,so she don't have time to do this. I think when i marry,who will do this things?I wish i and my wife will do it together.i do the wash work,and she do the cooking work.I wish i don not be to lazy.the best wishse.lol.....A happy life in the ahead. [fengbo]
Well, since we are now renting on our own, me,my bf and our child are the only ones on the house...my bf does the cooking and washing heavy clothes and i do the cleaning, dishwashing and washing lighter clothes.. [bettyrose20]
We have a domestic worker that comes in 3 times a week. SInce it is just me and my fiance and we only eat here in the evenings, we leave the dishes for her when she does come. I do the spring cleaning about once every 2 to 3 months (what can I say, I like a clean and organised house) but she does all the daily cleaning and washing. [keda69]
I do most of the work but we all in the household. I want even my kids to learn how to do the house chores while they are still young. Its for their sake that is why I get them involve in these tasks. Its fun to do house chores together. Its like a happy family. [hersmart4ever]
In my family, as you have said, its my mummy who does all the house work. It doesnt mean that my Daddy is lazy or something. He is actually very busy man and has lot of work outside the home. He has to manage a lot of other works outside the home, about which mummy need not worry. In that case, I dont think its unfair for the mummy to do all the houseworks. Daddy takes care of the outside works and Mummy taking care of the inside works. Its a perfect work sharing, isnt it ? [senthil2k]
Traditionally the kitchen belongs to women. My fallows the tradition. My children help her in kitchen. I sometimes help my wife in cooking. i don't know any thing about dish washing and cooking and other things. It is better not to interfere and spoil the whole show. [asmurthy]
in my house my mom does all the household works.and she's a working women.my father doesn have time to do those.i have a lot of time ..but i a "born lazy".but now,since my mom has a heavy work load,she feels very tired in the dusk.thank god that im on my holidays.so i prepare tea for her in the evenings.and i help her in maintaining the house. [sandeepram]
Hahaha.. it seems that washing dishes is a hot topic here. The easiest to me is to wash your own dishes. The last one to finish the meal will have to wash up the rest of the dishes. It is tradition that the wife will take care of all the housework, and in tradition, the wife does not work. Now, in the current era where both the husband and wife work, it does not necessarily mean that families need to upkeep tradition. I feel that both the husband and wife should share the housework load. The children too, if they are of a certain age. Anyone who is free and available should help out and share the housework.... unless he treats the house as a hotel. [whyaskq]
In my family we all do house work..!! Except my bother...!! He is just too lathargic...!! Can't do any thing..!! In my house my mother cooks the brek fast,my father cook the dinner and I cook the lunch!! I do all cleaning dusting and sweeping. And maitaining..!! I love when people do "team work". But when "working" things comes up on just one person ..I just hate it..!! Why one why can't we all..!! So we are kind of happy in this field of life!! he he. [stella1989]
yea..thast good dani..!! A nice way to keep people working..! It really help them to be in control..!! I like that. Even I have the same habbit. I can make people do work within the time limit. Its an art. [stella1989]
yep,i don't housework when i am growing up,but i did it a lot when i am young. [rockyyy]
We divide our chores. The boys have a list of daily chores nd a list of weekly chores. I wash the dishes they dry and put them away. My oldest will wash laundry during summer months and durign winter months I wash it. My youngest dries all the laundry except during winter months when they are in school athen its up to me. I fold and they put it all away except mine. My mother tried to tell me I was being unfair to my boys but you know what I think they have just the right amount considering the chores she used to pile on me. they have to keep their Rooms clean, take care of their dogs, and help with dishes, laundry, and general cleanup I don't think thats too much considering 99% of it is their mess in the first place. [dani4082]
I always do the housework unless I am sick my husband will take over. [aprilgrl]
Right now we have a combined effort. I can't do a lot of up and down steps, so things like doing laundry falls on my kids and husband....... But over all its a joint effort...... Each of the kids is responsible for their own rooms...and well that's a chore in itself..... My kids tend to treat the floors like a trash can, so I make them pick up the messes they make.... But it is a joint effort overal.... Mooch [oneandonemakesix]
My boyfriend thinks that the housework is my part. And till he earned more,than me it was OK. But now I work more and I earn more. He does a little housework, but he lets me do it. I do not like it. But he is the kind of man who would say, that the fact that he does not do it, it does not mean that I have to do it. But if I do not care with the house work, that who will? [Dolcerina]
I as a child had my fair share of chores to do,now as an adult I have even more I feel for those who have children and are single parents because they end up with all the work as I get to share my work load so I feel blessed that I do not have to carry the load alone so I have time for my hobbies and such.It is nice that your family shares the household chores. [funnysis]
my mom does all the house work normally, but yes sometimes my dad also does that.. it doesnt matter by the way who does it but my mo does it as a routine, also when she is unable to do it, we kids carry out all the things...no problem. [Zerzis]
in my opinion, i thnk husband n wife do houseworks...wife will do the cooking, tidy ups, sweepings, washings, n for the husbands i thnk no one even realise this, they will do the plumbing, painting,electrical wirings,n wood works :) if u guys think tht the husband don do housework at all...u r WRONG...as wht i mentioned above is wht husband do for their part...:D [7521186]
We share the house work. Two adults and 2 kids. Any of us is bound to do some dishes, wash the floor, take out the trash and any other chore that needs tending. A family is a committee to some extent so particpation by all members will make the family stronger as a unit. [Willowlady]
I do my house work us a wife because my husband who make money and cook so I'm the one who wash a dishes.But most of a time I take my husband to ate out so I have no work to do!...lol... [subrecary]
I do the house work at my home and that is only because I want it done right the first time and I am not saying that most men cant clean there are the few choosen ones but I will do my own cleaning and I mow my own yard and everything else that is left my boyfriend can do. [hoghoney]
We all do the house work. Nothing is left for one person to do. I think we should all remember what tired feet feel like. It's a terrible disgrace to leave house work to the woman. It is not just the woman who use them. I will never leave that for my daughter as well. We buy throw away plates when we can. it is a very good feeling to ease up on the dishes. The bathroom chore is my daughter's. I still clean the sink after I use it. I also clean the toilet more than 2 times daily. Your father is a great dad. [giftsandbagscom]
I do the dishes, my hubby hates them and my kids don't get them clean enough. The kids put them away though. My kids take out the garbage and are supposed to clean their room, HA!! I separate, fold and put away the laundry. My husband takes the down to the washer/dryer for me. I normally cook, but my hubby does sometimes. I clean the house basically by myself. I sometimes get very little help from hubby/the kids. [misheleen73]
My boyfriend and I both do housework. I do a bit more than he does, because he works full time outside the home and I work part time from home. But it depends on how busy I am at any given time. For instance, this past week I had a big writing project that took most of my time, so he did most of the housework when he got home from his job. Normally, I do more of the housework while he is at work. Kelly [kelly3]
Everybody should share their part in doing housework. Parents including adult children should give a helping hand. More hands will only make the family chores lighter for each. This is a family responsibility, it is in the best interest of the family to be helpful to one another. [terry11]
In my home everyone chips in, so the work load is not too much for just one person [missportmore83]
Hi, tracy. Take turn? Good idea! In my family, my mom does it mostly. As you mentioned, housework might be done by wife among most families. It's unfair, isn't it? Who make the rules? I'm still a university student and live in my Dorm most time. If I'm back, I'll do some as much as I can. I've grown up and should do everything I could to reduce the burden of my parents. By the way, what my father cooked is also very tasty. I can't wait, I'll eat... ^.^ Have a nice day! :) [mexshyl]
In my household we split the jobs up. I often am the person who cooks the meals and washes the dishes. My children put the dishes away while my fiancee wipes off the stove and counter tops. Once he is done I will sweep and mop the floor. We try to do everything in our household this way so that everyone participates in cleaning up the messes we all make. I don't think that it is fair for one or two people to clean the mess up when five or six people made the mess. Plus it takes less time to clean if everyone pitches in. [KissThis]
Hi,tracy1985! In my family,my mom is the one who does the most housework but my father and I do help her a lot.All family members should share the housework and especially for children. My mom and my fathers are good at cooking so that I'm very lucky because I can enjoy the delicious food when I stay at home. [shinjiao]
I think house work should be shared among the family members living under the same roof. Maybe a schedule can be worked out so that it would be fair for all. I think that at most households, the mother is the one who does the housework, so it's kinda rare that in your family your father does it. It's sort of a good thing for each family member to do the housework because if the person who does the housework is sick or unavailable, the rest can still keep the house clean, tidy and can feed themselves. Nowadays, most households have maids to take care of the cleanliness.Therefore, the person who does the housework may not even be the family members but an outsider. This is because the people in that house are either really busy or really lazy. [nurulsyafiqah]
I am the one that does all of the housework in our house. I have a 2yr old who helps out alot. On a rare occasion my husband might pitch in and help but usually it is me and my 2yr old. She even keeps asking when she can wash the dishes lol. [fatragu]
During weekend i do the dishes. I help to do chores at home, but during weekends only because at weekdays, sometimes i came home late and tired. My father also cook for us, he is also a good cook compare to my mother. My parents are so multitasker since they are the ones left at home everyday. We the siblings, help them but during weekends only. [grecychunny26]
Since I am not working right now I do almost all the house work. I clean, do laundry and cook. My husband cooks sometimes. When I was working he would occasionally help out with the laundry and vacuuming. Whne my kids were old enough to do chores they helped with dishes and had to keep their rooms clean. As they go old enough they learned to do their own laundry. [jillmalitz]
Hey t1985, While I do the majority of the cooking my man does the majority of the housework b/c he will just go behind me & do it over if I do clean so I just let him do it. +'s 2 U :D [meme0907]
My grandparents do the houseworks in my family. [fengbo]
I my family i do the cokking work and for dish washing and all that work, i have a maid servant. i can do all the cleaning , cooking, ironing, dusting, maintaining, gardening, and all the work related to house but i am not comfortable to do dish washing. if my servant is on leave , my hubby helps me out in it , he is very helpful and helps me alll the time in kitchen. i m in business with him all the time and he is with me in kitchen alll other house work full time. we both help each other . [aweins]
Hi tracy, I agree with you. Though traditionally houseworks are done by wives, but I think that houseworks should be equally shared. I do most of the housework, but sometimes I get my sons and husband to share the houseworks too. My husband love food so he does the cooking. [ellie26]
My wife does all the housework. She does not like me getting involved in it, as she is not working. Once in a way I do some work like vaccuming and polishing. I go to the kitchen when we prepare something like french fries or potato chips. My son likes it when I do those as he also can come to the kitchen and play the fool, which he cannot do when my wife is cooking. [josephperera]