My spouse is a housewife. So does no job in the outside.But she does all household works.She cleans floors,dishes and washes cloths.She also cleans our bathrooms.She goes to markets and buys all necessaries. She cooks and makes our meals.In a sentence she does all works of the houses. I only go to office and sometimes go to market.She is not earning money. But the hard works she is doing or other house wives do usually we don't value their works and love for their families.The housewives always try to make the family happy .In return they want nothing.Really they are great.
[question posted by bhanusb]
responses and comments:
That is very sweet! Im sure your wife will be glad to know that you value her so much! I agree that the job of taking care of the house is a difficult one and should be more appreciated! I think many people dont realize just how hard it is until they try it for themself. I think anyone who stays at home to take care of everything for the household will tell you that it is a difficult job. But it is completely worth it to know that your family is happy! [derlilaStern]
Yes I have realized it whole heartedly. I'm grateful to my wife. [bhanusb]
Thank you for that. I have worked all of my life with a job or my own business but my efforts at doing that AND running the home, are never really met with appreciation. My husband grew up in a home with a lazy mother that was literally a pigsty that was falling apart. I not only clean, but I do repairs on the home, decorate, and pay for most of the things for repairs and decorating out of my salary. I have to say that my husband cooks and does the food shopping, and helps with some projects at home, plus, along with me, helps babysit my granddaughter, but somehow he never really gets it that what I do is worthy. But he thinks all that he does is worthy. [nanajanet]
Thanks. I am married almost 34 years and just accept the fact. Although I have been told by others that he had bragged, now and then, about things I have done. So, I can live with that. I am not one who needs constant kudos as I have good self-esteem. My husband, on the other hand, does not, and he seems to need that more than I do, so when he does a good job, I say so. Should he do the same? Yeah, but his father never did and he is much like his father. Both honest men but not ones to give out compliments. [nanajanet]
I am a stay at home mom/house wife and believe that it is one of the hardest jobs. I cook, clean, wash dishes, clean bathrooms, do the groceries, etc...and ofcourse, all of this for no pay. I am also taking care of my two young kids (under 3) and drive my two older kids to and from school. My husband is at work most of the day - I am glad that when he comes home, he takes over and gives me time to myself. I think housewives are not as valued as they should be. [leyisa]
Yes housewives are not as valued as they deserve. Women get appreciation.But appreciation without value is not worthy. [bhanusb]
I think even though a woman stays home and doesnt make any money they still are working. All housewives try there best to keep a house up and keep food cooked. If it wasnt for housewives then there would be alot more to take care of for yourself and no time to relax. In a way it is a job for them it isnt always easy to keep a house clean do all shopping make sure bills are paid, do the laundry etc. but they do it out of love respect and care. [mnk202]
If the housewives works are valued by money then that will be much more higher than their husbands earnings.Husbands should realize it. [bhanusb]
As a housewife, I've been saying this for years. It's true I get room and board for doing my job and a little spending money, but if you had to out source the jobs I do I'll bet it would be over $100,000 per year and that doesn't count mental and physical support. Thanks for bring this up [savypat]
I totally agree with you.We husbands are very miser to understand our wives. [bhanusb]
i've never had the opportunity to be a housewife until recently, when i got laid off from my job. though i still don't do a lot around the house, i have gained a new respect for all that a housewife does for the family. you are very sweet to think of your wife in such terms. you sound a lot like my husband. [flyinglove]
Thank you very much. It's pleasure to me that I'm like your husband. [bhanusb]
i agree with you completely that housewives are sometimes not being valued at all as people think that they are not earning money... but actually their jobs are the hardest and it is a 24/7 job... i'm glad that there are still people like you who value housewives... your wife must be very happy to hear about this... take care and have a nice day... [lingli_78]
If the works of housewives are valued by money that will be much more than their husbands income. My wife will be happy. But I'm unable to lessen the load of her works. I hope more men will realize it. Thanks. [bhanusb]
Being a housewife is an occupation. It is the hardest work ever in the world because they work very hard to please others but they didn't get payment for it. Only some appreciation from the other family members. Housewives should be appreciated because of their work is not easy and they work 24/7. [liquorcs]
Only appreciation will do nothing. I think government should allocate a handsome allowance for the housewives. [bhanusb]
Yeah, they are great! This is the reason that I like the drama, desperate housewives! haha [hiddenwing]
Have you any doubt! [bhanusb]
wishing you the best in your relationship! [grinjaguar]
Hello liweiwe, I wish you will be a good housewife like your mother. But try to break the tradition. [bhanusb]
You are such a dear and what an awesome post, you should make certain that your wife can read this, she will appreciate it. I am a "spoiled" stay at home mom and housewife and while I may not always do all of the things you have mentioned I appreciate it.. [meandmy3]
Thanks for your appreciation.My wife is glad.But I have to do something to lessen her load.Why are you thinking you have been "spoiled"? You are a good mom and a good housewife. [bhanusb]
It's good to know that you value the work that your wife does even if she does not actually earn money. Many men perceive housewives as "second class" and do not treat them equally. I especially admire housewives who take good care of their children because no matter how much money a husband brings to his family, the children would not grow up well without proper care and guidance. [angelajoy]
A good housewife is also a good mother. The attitude of some men towards their wives should be changed. In any way housewives should be treated as "second class". [bhanusb]
Being a housewife is a very difficult job. Just imagine, one works 7 days a week round the clock without even getting paid. Housewives are the supermoms. They are great. They should always be commended with their undying service for the family. [lesliexious]
Husbands should relief their wives at least one day in a week.That day will be for the husbands and they will do all household works. [bhanusb]
Thank you. That was nice. I know your wife would be so happy to know that you value the kind of work that she does around the home. It is never easy to keep the home as pretty as it should be and all those cleaning and cooking can be very tiring indeed. [alindahaw]
Yes I value her work.But I should be her helping hand. That's not possible for me.Because I remain out of home for my job.I feel guilty, [bhanusb]
That's great to take care of the children. If the maids sometimes are not good they bit children and it is good the mother is the one who took care of the children and the house because nowadays if the children learn from others they think that is good and they follow the bad examples of others. Mothers give the beat things for their children. I love a God fearing mother who loves her husband and children so dearly. Mother is the lamp of the home. "No other success can compensate in failure in the home."-David O. Mc Kay. Mother plays essential role in family. Family that prays together stay forever. [Bradpete]
Yes in a family mother's role is most important. I agree mothers are the lamp of the house. [bhanusb]
I could be ignorant and say thats where they should be, but being of sound mind I know better. My wife is a diamond round the house also. I work from home office so I get to see all she does every day, all as you mention plus looking after the new baby. Well, I do try to help where I can but more often than not she takes over, maybe she thinks I can't do household chores as good as her, I have to say I'd agree with her. For all her hard work I, once a month, send her to a spa for a long relaxing weekend, she seems to come home happy relaxed and raring to get back to the cooking and cleaning...... [chriss121]
Thanks chriss. You are a good husband. You understand your wife's sufferings and try to heal that [bhanusb]
Yes, i am glad a husband spoke. lol but really, i am glad someone appreciated OUR work, housewives / wives.. i am not exactly a housewife because i am working ouside my home but then i still do my duties at home. Thank you. [jazel_juan]
I'm not representing all husbands.But I feel for the wives who work out side or in side their home.Thanks jazel_juan.I'm always by the side of women.I think women are still oppressed. [bhanusb]
Hi bhanu!your wife is really lucky.house wife can do any work including job ..but wants nothing in the end.all she really want is some appreciation.she will search that in the eyes of husband and happiness of kids.if she can see that she will ask nothing more.i hope all husbands can understand this and make their life happier.thank you for bringing up this topic. [kalaga]
Hello kalaga, I hope all husbands will value their wives and understand them. [bhanusb]
My mother had jobs while she was raising me, but many years she stayed at home with us, along with our grandmother. We sure took that for granted! I look back now and realize just how comfortable and happy she made us, and all the work she did to make us a good home. This is a great gift out of love for the family -- I agree with you, housewives ARE great! That is wonderful that you have such a lovely wife and pay tribute to her here. [AbbyS1]
Women have five images.These are mother, daughter,sister,wife and beloved.In all respects they are successful. [bhanusb]
husbands should be proud of their wife, household hold chores is not easy to do there's no end and being a parent too is tough. we value them not only for the husbands but also for the children.... [becnh83]
Yes I'm a proud husband.I wish all should be. Thanks becnh. [bhanusb]
Congratulations, ah, such a good wife married, i hope you cherish him. [tom99x]
Thanks. Yes I'm lucky. You are just 18. I hope you will get a sweet spouse. [bhanusb]
I was married in the year 1992. I living happily with my wife and i blessed with one male child and he is studding in 11th class. My wife is government employee. She will do all every thing in our house. She prepare the food and tiffen, then she leaves to her job. We can not thing life with out wife. She was dutiful wife towards the child and me. She will under take every thing good or bad for welfare of the our family. She will wakeup in the early morning and go to bed late in the night. I am very lucky man in the world, because i got very good and beautiful wife in my life. [basireddi]
Really you are a lucky husband. Being a working lady your wife looks after your family and does household works. I salute her. [bhanusb]
Being a girl i know what you are saying is right and home management is tough than all other manangement, irespect all house wives and really wan to be one but question is are they very secure being housewives doing nothing, some time it also happenes that in a trouble some situation they are not able of doing outside work and suffeer a lot i think we should respect all housewife bu we should also make them self sufficiant [truptidandekar]
Yes you raised an important question. The housewives are not so secured. They should be well educated so that in times of need they can do outside job. There should also be social security arrangements for the housewives. [bhanusb]
My mom is a housewife and now we are growing up. She is the backbone of our family. My dad is a sole supporter of her every role. Me and my wife also follow her each and every instruction. But, many men do not respect women who work outside the home. They think that gogernment unfairly promotes affermative action for women in the work place. So, it is very difficult for a women to gain resapect who tries her best. Simply ignorence and ego problem may be the reason. I have seen it near to my door. [Buddha9000]
Wives work inside house or outside they should be respected. Because the work for the family.Their works should be valued. [bhanusb]
I can't help to feel my tears in my eyes. You're wife must know how much you value her and her hard work for the family. I'm a wife too and though I am the one working for the family, I also do the things your wife did inside our home that is why I really understand how hard for us wives and mother fulfill our duties to our husband and children. Though it is hard, we still feel satisfied at the end of the day if we our family happy. [Danielle010507]
Women as housewife and mother their role is great. They are like our mother earth.Their tolerance has no comparison. I salute them. [bhanusb]
Yes, perhaps it is becaused of such "masculinity" the world was lead by male, husband is the head of family ! Some religions Christian also told than wife must obey her husband while husband must love his wife, according to Islam as far as I know husband is the family leader, even some sect refused woman sit as their poltical leader. It is nice hear your opinion which gave high valae to woman or wifes who is not merely take over all our home jobs but still they usually "unpleasantly has to serve her husband at night" hehehehe... but even my wife have her bigger role at my family because she is working and her salary is bigger than mine, hehehe (smile again), left home early in the morning and back home at evening and of course she has still to complete her most important job description at our room hihihihi and if we have baby she will undergo working 24 hours a day ! Viva housewifes !! [justinus]
agree ! even personally now I think it would be better we dont use the word "serve" because our wife is not our servant, but unfortunately biologically there was a lot housewifes told that they did only to serve her husband, for instance in bed she actually reluctant or tired but at last it was thier duty to serve her husband, it's a kind of dilemma, thanks [justinus]
I agree completely with this point.I also consider house-wives do a great deal of work.A good house-wife remains busy whole day.She has unlimited works to do in limited time.She doesn't earn money but she can manage all types of money matters so efficientely as compare to anyone else.I am a working women & to maintain my effiency at my work place, some times i leave my works at home, uncomplete or to do those works later on.But a house-wife does her work properly completely & efficiently,without any complaint.She asks nothing in her favour to perform her works at home.She is the best management planner of any family. [shilpasjoshi]
First I welcome you in myLot. As a working lady you properly valued the housewives and their contributions to their family. I hope every husband should understand his wife which you are feeling. [bhanusb]
This is a nice tribute to women that "work" at home. I wish that there were more men that think like you. I'm serious, most men think that because a woman stays home that she has nothing to do. That she has plenty of time on her hands. That what she does is not worth anything, so forth and so on. I sure hope that many men read this and rethink how they feel about their lady that stays home! [moondancer]
I hope so. Thanks. [bhanusb]
Hi bhanusb, Your wife is a very lucky women to have a thougtful hubby like you... To me, Housewife is a tough 24 hours job, No pay, No day off,most often unappreciated by her family members and yet resignation is impossible!! [azlin_04]
Hello azlin, I don't know how far my wife is lucky. Appreciation is like gaseous.But of course I'm thoughtful. Thanks. [bhanusb]
I work a lot in my house doing everything you just said. Doing dishes,laundry,cleaning floors and bathrooms. I also work outside planting my garden and flowers to make the yard look nice. I even cut my own grass so my husband don't have to do that when he gets off of work. And I make sure dinner is on the tabel when he gets home. [strawberrybaby39]
It would be nice if they had something special for house wives who work very hard. but we all know that wont happen. I work hard to keep my family and myself happy. I like to keep a clean house and a beautiful yard with flowers growing all through my yard. [strawberrybaby39]
I think that is awesome that you would say such wonderful and appreciative things about your wife! I stay at home and take care of the house and kids as well. My husband always tells how mu ch he appreciates all that I do for him and our family. I also tell him how much I appreciate him working so hard for all of us...it is definitely give and take. When someone tells you nice things like that it really makes a big difference. [4ofmyown]
Yes Both husband and wife make the home sweet home. Both should understand each other Both should also appreciate each other's works. [bhanusb]
he work your wife is doing is just like me , i usually put my family in the first place , i can don't go out with my friends and stay at home to look after the kids , give up my job, my friends , i can give up anythings for my family [janiceines]
You are a good mother and a hard working housewife. I think your husband appreciate you and value your works. Thanks for the response. [bhanusb]
I am glad that you wrote this article. It is nice to know that there are some men out there who appreciate their wives. I'm not saying that mine doesn't because I know that he does. But there are some men and even women out there who think that if you stay home and take care of your house and children that you are not really working at all. A housewife or homemaker (whatever we are called nowadays) has so many jobs and not one is paid for. I am the cook, the maid, the nanny, the nurse, the doctor, the hairdresser, the teacher, the secretary, and so much more. I cannot even think of all the titles I hold, but not a single penny is given for any of these jobs unless it is done outside of your own home. I do not think that it is fair. Being a wife and mother is the hardest job anyone could ever have and I think that we deserve to be paid for it and not looked down on by people who go out to work. [jedopi]
Like your husband and me few men realize the housewives and the hard works they do every day and night.There is a Hindu goddess who has ten hands. This is symbolic.That means a woman works by the capacity of ten hands.I support your comment that the housewives deserve to be paid for their hard works.But you jointly should rise your voice. [bhanusb]
Thank you Thank you Thank you!It is so refreshing to hear this from a mans point of view. I am a stay at home mom with a 3 and 4 year old. Not only do I do all of the house work, shopping, cleaning, I mow and do most outside work and wash the vehicles. My husband loves that I can stay at home and it makes me feel good when he says he doesn't know how I do it. He never gave me greif about quitting my job when I gave birth, so in turn, I do more than I should to show my appreciation for that. We have a really good system in our house that he can do all of his hunting trips and what not, as long as I get to do my hobby. It works for us! [foursox212]
I'm so glad that so many responses I got specially from the housewives. Yes I feel that they are so deprived. Housewives should raise their voice for their social security.They should also given allowance from the government for their service to the family. [bhanusb]
I'm married and my wife is a housewife. she is a great person, she never complaint to me. Sometimes i want to give her a gift, a very expensive gift. But i don't earn enough money to buy such gift. so i only can gave her one kiss and simple a word, "Thanks". I do that everyday. And everyday she smile at me. believe it. [Boombastik]
Many thanks Boombastik. You are sympathetic to your wife.How nice your wife.I think your kiss is enough for her. Because she knows you love her too much.By the by congratgulation you for joining in myLot. [bhanusb]