What do you think about those girls,who graduated from university,just stay at home make themselves more beautiful and dream to marry a rich man.In their mind,to be a housewife is better than go out to find a decent job.
They can live a simple life without the pressure of employment.They just do the housework day by day.And in the large leisure time,they can play cards,reading,shopping,to do something like that.
What's your opinion about their action?
[question posted by dinohe]
responses and comments:
Hi there!happy I think those kinds of girls are the ones who doesn't want any responsibilities in life. They are the ones who relies on others for a secure future. With that kind of actions it somehow reflects that they are lazy people because they don't want to work. Ciao!wink [iskayz]
Hi dinohe, If they are lucky to find a man like that who will support them with all their needs and wants without working, I will say, great for them and that is fine.. We have different dreams and perception in life and I know a lot of us are lucky to live a life like that.. In my case, as much as I want that life, LOL! We can't afford it..I may not work that is fine, but my husband's income is enough for our needs and little wants...Not the big wants like travel and lavish shopping..LOL! so, I have to find a job also and help with savings for the future! [checapricorn]
yes u r right checapricorn ! I m working as my husband has a very low income... n I earn more than double of him so i have to continue.. I got a small gal.. i keep in creche... which i really dont like but cant help it.. But sometimes i really feel like staying at home and playing with my daughter and just watch TV as now i dont get 2 mins also to watch TV.. [mumbaiLady]
har har har. well being a palin housewife is not an easy thing to do. if they are willing to be a housewife or dreaming to be one they should be prepared. my wife is a professional singer, and when she got pregnant she decided to just stay at home and be a plain house wife. now that our child is 2 years old she said it is not an easy job but she is enjoying it. a lot of chores and still she is making a great job. not all woman can be like this so this better be thinking twice. [se7enthbird]
I agree. I am going to college to pursue a career yet, I am unhappy bacause all I ever really wanted in life was to be a mother and a loving housewife. Everyone was born with a purpose and my greatest strength is taking care of loved ones. Why should society decide that everyone has to be working and out there making money or else they don't amount to anything? Money does not make happiness and I am sure almost all pp would agree that someone's love and care for you and your children is more precious than anything and in the end its what matters! Not only this but it usually takes someone being at home cleaning and running errands and taking care of children when the world of employment does not usually allow a whole lot of time to get these tasks done...you'd be running around every day on your day off and stressing every night after work to do it all! And personally I do not believe in working to pay someone else to raise your children! The way child care fees are now...sometimes that is all couples work for. [amandaonfire25]
Well in my opinion, it's hard to do that these days. I think they would be lucky if they can find a man that would take care of them and support them like that and the girls be happy with that. I think there is also a big difference in whether or not they have kids. I think there is also a big difference in girls who are lazy and just want a man to take care of everything and the girl not do anything and then there are girls who just want support from a man. Personally myself, I don't ever want to be a housewife that just stays home. I would like to be able to work but when I do have kids be able to spend lots of time with them. Which would be hard to do both. I just don't see myself being happy staying at home cleaning, cooking and taking care of the kids. I think I would need to work at least some just to know that I am making some money and to have work. If I ever had the chance to stay at home and work and take care of the kids there is something I would do. Hopefully it's at least a couple of years before I have kids though. What about you, what do you think? [o2bnocn]
I think also that some girls do and don't like that independence. [o2bnocn]
I have been married 40 years and never have considered myself to be a housewife. I went back to school evenings when my children were little, got multiple degrees and worked after they were in school fulltime and never stopped. I think a happy woman is a better wife and mother. My husband and children are very proud of my accomplishements. But I also required my husband to be part of raising the children. We both cooked and so on. He worked nights and were home when they got home from school. Remember marriage is a partnership. [Barbietre]
I am a wife but I never dream to be a housewife only. I graduated form a university when my husband told me that I should stay at home I really insisted that I want to work. I dont want to waste my time because time is gold for me every single minute is valuable to me. [jlaparece]
Maybe being a housewife can be so free and don't need to face any pressure problems,but one thing for sure,sooner or later,this lady will feel bored of this kind of lifestyle. If for me, I will choose to find a job to occupy my time even I have married with a rich guy. If I stay at home,being a housewife,spend all my time on shopping and so on, I think I will become so unaware with things happen outside. I will feel myself very outdated with knowledge,and some how maybe will face communication problem with husband. I think it's better to find something to do rather stay at home doing nothing but wasting money. [yenwie84]
dinohe you must be young and a guy, have you any idea what is entailed in keeping house? washing clothes, sweeping, dusting, cleaning , cooking washing dishes, takeing care of kids, grocery shopping, taking care of kids,now when the hell' is a woman going to find time to read and shop, you are a dreamer for sure. most women I know would love to work at nine to five job and be done when they get home. housewives are on call 24/7 and its not an easy job byany means. [Hatley]
First of all, I am a housewife and I don't like the title "To be a housewife or to find a decent job?" In my opinion being a housewife is already a decent job. I have 3 kids and being a housewife is not a simple life and it is not an easy job. And as for leisure time, WHO HAS ANY LEISURE TIME? I have 2 mentally handicapped kids (My 9 year old and 10 year old both have Autism disability). I also have a normal active 3 year old. I am very very busy all day long. I work very hard. Yes, I did attend College, but when I became a mother, I made the decision to stay home with my children. No, my husband is not rich. He makes an average salary, but the bills get paid. And as for making myself beautiful, (Who has time to put on makeup?) I barely have enough time to brush my hair! But, of course I still have enough leisure time to post this comment on MY LOT. [rebeccajean]
You can be a plain housewife if your husband is earning enough to feed the whole family or if it's absolutely necessary for you to stay at home (e.g. if you have alot of kids and no nanny). Being a housewife is alot of work and it's okay to reward or pamper yourself every once in a while. [ganda8831]
Hello dinohe. I'm guessing you still haven't met a "housewife" who's not into pure leisure time, playing cards, shopping, and doing any activity that simply oozes of just having the great time of their lives. I'm a college graduate. But even before I entered college, I was already working. Before I thought of pursuing my college education, after my high school graduation, I started working at a factory. And when I was in 2nd year college, I was doing part-time jobs. To tell you honestly, being a housewife is not a walk in the park. And I'm saying this based on my experience. When you have an 8 hour job, after working hours, you go home and take the much needed rest and sleep. Then you wake up again the next morning, and you do the same thing. But being a stay-at home mom and wife for more than 4 years, it's a lot harder job. And because of that, I have great respect for those women who juggle an 8-hour job and being a mom and wife as soon as they get home. Being a stay-at-home mom or wife, is not living a simple life. It never was and never will be, in my case. Because I make sure that I do good on my responsibilities and duties as a wife and as a mom. I take good care of my husband and my son. And the housechores are another matter. Taking care of the household chores itself already takes A LOT OF TIME.rolleyes It's a different situation for every woman who chooses to stay at home. And before I forget, there are women who doesn't even have the time to pamper themselves with beauty regimens because they are too busy taking care of their family. [jcj_111776]
I think everyone has the right to live the life they want to live. It's not my place to judge them. I work because I have to, not because I enjoy it. I would love to stay home, take care of my house and my husband, and then do something part time that I enjoy, such as work in a bookstore, library, or write. I have no desire to be a career woman, but I also have no desire to be wealthy. I just want to be happy and comfortable. [galadr1el]
hi,dinohe. I'm a housewife and I'm working too. If i can be a housewife and not working i will. But that doesn't mean i'll waste my time away. I can enjoy my hobbies and i can travel, read books i like, learn a second foreign language. That's the life i've always fancied. [shinymood]
Hey,dinohe.The girls you describe is really stupid.How can they think that marring a rich man and making themselves more beautiful are the whole meaning of life.Of course you can choose to be a housewife after getting married,but you can pay more attention to your family,like children and husband,not only your apperance.If a woman only care about herself,I don't believe she can be either a good wife or a good mother. [MizukiZHR]
I didn't think they still existed, but I suppose if that's all they want it's not my business. There's them, and then there's the uneducated women who have a bunch of babies before they're 25. I suppose it's better to be an educated "housewife" than an uneducated one. [LisaHW]
If they are married to a rich man they don't need to find a job. They're job is to take care of the family.It really depends. If they have decided to be a housewife and they see fulfillment in taking care of the children that's already a noble job. [jenalforque]
being a housewife is no easy thing. IT is the most difficult work. first there are no fixed hours,no pay no definite description of what is expected of you and so on. You do the job for love of your family. but unmarried girls settling into this routine is bad. They have to find something to do... rather than wait for prince charming to come and pick them up. [naseeha]
My husband and I had this discussion the other day. Neither of us understands the thinking behind spending the money to go to university to get an education and then never using said education. I think it is a wast of time and money. I went to high school with girls who's only goal in going to college was to get their MRS degree. How ridiculous if that is your only ambition in life that to me is sad and pathetic. I think it sets a bad example for any daughters one might have. To set that example for a girl is criminal. For you to show girls their highest ambition should be to get married and sit on their butts all day is horrible. I will get off my soapbox now. [slcharger]
this is based on the qualificateion the wife is having ,, if she is educated and have the desire to earn money ,, she can be the job goer ,, if not ,, see my blog and earn money from home,, or just sit in home and time pass with this great my lot and make money ,, thanks [chennaipc]
i thinks this is right if i am rich and my wife was graduated from university i like is just stay at home i don't like he is find the job no need job and no need money because i am rich all have to do is stay at home? and stay with me? and my son. in the job and work there are so many pressure and problem in my house there are no pressure and no problem because my wife is not doing anythings happy postings? happy [ken18neth]
I know a woman who spent several years at a university, found a husband with a degree at a high paying job and never has held a job with a family of 3 children. She chose to go to the university but never did get her degree and her husband makes enough to support the family and they have put one daughter through school........she actually had several scholarships, and they currently have 2 in college. I know another who went to nursing school and graduated, got pregant and now sits home and lets the government, her boyfriend and father pay for her to live! What do I think? I think they are both lazy and selfish for not being a part of contributing to the household. The second is using the "system" and letting everyone else pay to feed her baby when she could have her license and be a nurse and feed her herself. I fed my 4 without the help because I've always thought that they were MY responsibility and no one else's. I wouldn't have felt right if I hadn't worked and paid to feed and keep a roof over my kids' heads. [idowrite72]
Ideally housewife is a better option because she can attend to the house more than a woman working together with husband. But reality bites, some couples just could not afford if only the husband works so they really need to work together to be able to spend their lifestyles in comfort. With regards to the degree it would totally depend on woman. If she likes to practice her education then fine but if she wants to focus her attention to her family then it is also fine and good. [rsa101]
my personal opinion everyone has right to choose their life style, i respect their choice. at the same time i don't think it's a easy thing to be housewife. many housework has to do everyday ,children education, take care of the old, maybe it's boring. so if she really the truth, she want to do ,i must say she is bravy woman. [meggiehan]
I salute to those kinds of women who sacrifice their career in exchange for a good family. Our high school valedectorian who graduated cumlaude in college and is a Certified Public Accountant had been a housewife for more than 10 years now. It pays to take care of your own children. [dorisday1971]