it seems that the housework belongs to woman. some men in home never do anything to help their wives. what's your idea about that?
[question posted by Canteen]
responses and comments:
I certainly believe that husbands or men should do their share of the housework... especially both husband and wife are working... or when only the woman works and the husband stays at home... and even if the husband works and the wife stays at home to take care of the children... Gone are the days when it is viewed that women are the ones who should do all the housework... it should be a give and take process... [aseretdd]
Im kind of old school when it comes to the woman or the man cleaning the house. If both the husband and the wife are working then I think they both should clean. If one is at home then they should clean. I stay at home with the kids and I coke and clean and do the shopping and the laundry, feeding theanimals and taking out the trash. I really dont mind it. My husband takes over when he gets home from work. He watches the kids on the weekends when I go Scrapbooking and he cooks on the weekends to. So I think its an even trade. [angie91500]
I believe that men are just as capable cleaning house as a woman is. My boyfriend and I work together to keep our house clean. He takes out the trash and sweeps the floors. I do the rest, cooking - laundry - dishes - and picking up around the house. If both are employed it's even more essential that the man help out since they both are bringing home paychecks and don't have all day to clean. If a man lived by himself wouldn't he have to clean some of the place up or would he rather live like a slob? It's not that hard, nor is it time consuming if 2 people work together to keep a clean home. [miller1978]
whether we like it or not , men also have to work for making a home . Then only it will be a sweet and happy home . No doubts about it happy [mvsrao]
I agree to this. They family is made up of husband & wife then comes children Boys must be trained by mothers to do some work then only as they grow up they will help their wives too. [suganrekh]
men should be involved in housework, the home belongs to the man and woman and there is need for both parties to work harmoniously to put the house in order. some men claim it is women's work to tidy up the home, i am a man, i do tidy up my house whether my wife is around or not. thanks [okwusman1]
If you think that a wife should go up the roof to fix it, then that's total equality, goes with plumbing, electrical wiring which are all part of the house. Anything related to the house is indeed housework.happy Anyway, some things are still recognized like role play. We can't deny that men should do their roles in one way or another. Exchange of roles do happen though lol [ratyz5]
I was just implying on certain roles are just recognized to be around different aspects when it comes to gender. Not really applicable all the time. happy My mom also does DIYs all the time at home. I even helped her out most of the time. I learned how to mix cement and we even raised walls on three sides of our lot lol [ratyz5]
The question is not.. should men do house.. work..but CAN men do house work. That is the question! [NeoComp]
i think everyone can do housework, at least it's not hard to learn. some men can certainly do some housework, but they just don't want to do it. that's the question. [Canteen]
Dear friend, As a male I do houseworks. I do not find any wrong or awkwardness in doing that. Some times I enjoy doing it and als0 cooking too. Most of hotels here do have male maids and also male cooks and chefs. [SHAMRACK]
It depends. If your husband likes do housework, he would help you. If not, I'm afraid he would quarral with you. [iamsarah]
I see absolutely no logical reason why men should not do housework. and when they do, it shouldn't be considered "helping their wives" as it is not her task and hers along. it should be considered looking after the house. [Galena]
i think they should obviously do. it is truly the advantage. now women are balancing career and work at home. why should not men? they should try to take the responsibilty equally. [subha12]
I dont have any objections with that statement whats wrong if man does house work?? when my mom is out of station me and my Dad will do all the house work ... I dont see anything wrong in that statement.... [maathav]
As a married couple, man and their spouse should share their responsibilities at home. The husbands shouldn't leave the housework to their wives only. Everybody must share the burden and be resposible. It is fun to do things together and we tend to understand our spouse better by doing things together. Besides, it make work lighter and easier. [goldwin65]
It's not something like giving birth that only woman could do. I don't see any reason why man can't do house work. YOU are right that it seems that house work belongs to woman... but that is something that we can do change. I mean, if we want to do it, we could easily do it. My husband help me in everything even in household when he knows that I need him to do it for me. And most of the time he do it voluntarily. I dont see anything wrong with that. [lucky_witch]
Men and women both do housework. Both can do it and both should do it - unless you can afford a maid. My husband and I (and the kids help out too) do work around the house. Whether its a DIY type of project or just doing the dishes. [SukiSmiles]
I believe that men should also share chores around the house. This practice is done here at home. My father helps out a lot. He cooks, maintains the house, he also helps us do some cleaning. My dad is very industrious. He teaches us to be very responsible with ourselves and our surroundings. I think doing chores should not be a gender issue, it should be practiced by everyone. [onewickedsoul]
my dad is that nice,too. he cooks for us. but he isn't good at arranging house stuffs. it seems that in China the best cook always is the father, not the mom. but usually it's the mother who cook in the daily life. when the house comes the visitor, it's the time for father to show off. LOL. [Canteen]
I think both sexes should do their share of housework, but it also depends on the living situations. If the mother is staying at home, she would probably do more housework than the father. If the father is staying home, the same things apply. To assume that the housework is a duty that belongs solely to one sex is ridiculous, and I hate when people insinuate that. Marriage/relationships are a partnership. Everyone needs to do their share. [Antithesis]
I think that men and women both should help each other out in the household, with cooking, chores, ect. It is not just the womens job or just the mans job. However, i do think that that if the women is not working and the man is she should have the house clean and some supper mad. But if she does not feel like doing it sometimes that is ok. Doing household chores together doesn't make one or the other feel like it is just his or her job!!! Make things fun, turn on the radiop and dance swhile you are cleaning. Love your wife and your husband and show it as often as you can and you will not have problems as far as who's gonna clean the bathroom this time!! [adrianspike]
Rather than splitting that between men and women, I would be more inclined to say, that each should tackle what comes easiest to them. I live with my brother, and he does parts that he doesn't mind and I do other things that I don't mind. It should work the same way with a couple as well. That way you can stay away from things you abhor doing. [IddiKlu]
I think there is no different who do it,the man also should do it.The home is build by the two so they all should do their best to make it better and better. [lishiwei]
yay! houseworks belong to anyone. as long as you live inside one roof, you must learn how to cooperate with one another. lol. i do chores that requires muscle and my brother do the laundry and vice versa every other day. one of his many reasons is that he believes in equality (i think he just want to skip another muscle-tiring chore). if my husband thinks otherwise, hah! hh's be digging his own grave. lol. [puccaLOVESgaru]
Absolutely the men shall help you with the housework.I think we all dislike homework,so why donīt share it [Zoegas]
Why shouldnt they do it??...its reaally only fair that a man should share the work. Fair enough if they work extremely long hours and the wife doesnt work at all...maybe then its a little different. [ruby222]
I think men should do their fair share of the housework looking after the children. My partner helps as much as he has time for and when he comes home at dinner time he will take over caring for the girls so I can cook dinner without them under my feet as i always worry they will get hurt. Im lucky though as his mother also had this way of thinking and he was taught to look after himself aswell so he is more than capable so why shouldnt he do half of it [kezabelle]
I am single and live alone, so I do all of the housework myself. But, if I had a significant other, you better believe he would be doing housework. Being male doesn't make one superior and too good to work in the house. [bam001]
I think that men should some of the household chores. I mean the woman shouldn't have to do everything in the house. Men can help out now and then to alleviate some of the stress their wives have especially if the wife is a working woman like so many of us are. [rmuxagirl]
in my opinion it should be equal between man and woman, especially if both also working for the family. [nyumix]
Who said that the housework belongs to women, do you know in all the hotels you cannot find any women in the kitchen. Even in the houses most of the husbands will help the wifes during the holidays. [sbalu7]
Yes,he can help his wife. Why should wives do the work all the time? They don't get free sundays? [rrahul]
If you live in a house, you should contribute to the upkeep of the house, regardless of your gender. I think it is a sexist stereotype to assume that men should not to housework, or to assume anything else because of gender. [danishcanadian]
I think they should share the work too.. most especially if both are working to make ends meet. Life is really hard now adays, sometimes people need to at least work together to make a living and to have better life for everyone. If they cannot help, at least they should not be leaving all the mess around. [chiyosan]
I think that it would not hurt the male ego one bit to help with the dishes and all the other chores a woman does.my husband helped with the kids and did a few things around the house but he could cook up a storm and never wash dish one but as he did the cooking I did not really mind the washing up. [Hatley]
Of course! All of us have to do our share in the house! [janujennifer]
For all you men out there who still refuse to do housework,here is some food for thought.It's the new millennium, the macho man has been replaced by the considerate man. Offering to give the kids a bath goes a lot further than flexing your biceps. showing consideration is the new turn on. try impressing your partner by doing your share around the house. [lyz021113]
I think that all person who live in a household should contribute to housework, even if it means to pay for it. However, we train children to do chores and get them to learn how to do housework and that is whether they are male or female so why is it okay for man of the house to NOT contribute to cleaning, he was taught as a child as well was he not? Who said that Man should not have to do housework I think that is absolutely ridiculous. I also know a lot of men out there who can not stand a dirty home and will go above and beyond to keep the house clean. So I think that honestly, there are men out there that will do the work, because they know better. [sanell]
All people in the world are born equal. The man should help his wife and his mom the housework sometime. Don't rely on them. If the man do housework, they'll feel the emotion which his wife's and his mom's experience. [pooh08]
If the man is the bread earner in the family - and the wife stays home as a homemaker - well then I do not think that he should *have* to do housework, but I do believe that there is no reason whatsoever that he can not pick up after himself, and I think they should be expected to pick up after themselves. [Modestah]
Nope. Not in my house. My husband does the dishes and usually vaccums and folds clothes when I have way to many to deal with. I dont allow him not to have a chore! Even my 4 year old daughter loves helping me fold clothes and put clothes in the washer or the dryer. She also loves to help vaccum! I love it. My husband doesnt mind though. He actually enjoys it. [magrylouyu]
Why does housework offend a man's ego....it has something to do with the patriarchal society which belittles the individuality of such people who "dare" to help their wives.. [rukki123]
With the work world the way it is today, it should be shared thing since both are working and both are tired when they get home. There is no reason that men can't do the housework as well as the women. If the man doesn't help, it is because he is either lazy or he is a chauvinist and lives in the past when it was expected that the woman did it all since she was home all day. [idowrite72]
Hi there...i think that a man should share the housework..indeed they should!!!...just because they are male doesnt make them immune to vacuuming and dusting!! My hubby used to need a shove in the right direction...but when i was out at work and he was at home...he always tried his best!!..OK..so maybe it wasnt perfect..but who cares???..he tried and thats the main thing!! I also brought my son up to be able to do house hold tasks..and it paid dividends...because he can look after himself. The one thing that hubby isnt good at is cooking...but he will try!!!..but its not his forte at all!!....but he will open a can..or make a sandwich..or lol..last resort go to the fish and chip shop!! But thats all you can ask...that they try to help...and i think thats only fair!!! [ruby222]
I think that men should help with housework , but it depends how much they are out at work , i dont think it,s fair to make them do stuff when they have just got in from work after a long day ,but on days off or weekends they should help a bit . [pumpkinzz]
Was my answer deleted? I could swear it was. Anyways guys should and most DO help with housework. The problem is plenty of women don't count what guys do, or they say "not good enough", or some of the task they do escape the attention of their wives/girlfriends. Again, I have to ask: HOW does lawn care, heavy hardwork, home maintenance, auto maintenance and other high end tasks NOT contribute to the household? To me housework is anything that contributes to and helps the household. If the tasks I mentioned were not done, the house would fall into disarray, and soon after the city zoning/administration would cite the household for such poor upkeep typically. Not to mention the other factors of living like this (increased chance of pests, house isn't as clean or safe, etc). [theprogamer]
It all depends on how do these men grow. Why because some parents want their child to be more masculine and be the boss. Mean, when they put their own family, they should do all they can do to earn money for their family. That was their job, to work hard and earn more, so when they got home, what they will do is rest or play with his children. Some doesn't, they want their child more independent and should learn even house chores other than work. They even let their child to be independent to learn some household chores like doing the laundry, keeping the house clean and cooking their own food. This are some samples and this is where they view how things will happen. In some cases, due to their love and don't want thing hard for their wives, they help or if they don't know house chores, they try to learn about it. While others are only if needed or emergency like their wives are giving birth or sensitive during pregnancy. If they are rich, of course they don't have to do so and all they have to do is call their maid. [alexigne]
It depends. Men are supposed to be the one to work to support his family, so he may be at times busy in making money, though its not unusual for men to do the housework sometimes. For a couple or family who dont have house helpers, husband and wife should share with the household chores esp. when both are working. [longbangod]
I think it's a bit old fashion to believe that housework belongs to woman only, man are just as capable to do it. If man and wife are both working the should split the housework between them. [Jody20]
too rite a man should do housework, he makes half the mess so why no clean it up after himself! i am a believer tho that if a man has been out at work all day he should not have to do the majority at all but at least make an effort and try to help! [graceandowen]
Of course men should share housework with women! Actually, my dad enjoy washing the dishes and sweeping the floor very much!I think men who do housework are much more responsible for their work and lives! [wnbwnbwnb]
Men should help their wives whatever way they can. [elshaddai123]
Why not? I see no reason why they should not. If you live together,for me itīs natural to share the housework. [Kahawa]
yes they should. if they live by them self they would have to clean right. [pandora31]
I am a stay home mom/wife and I do believe that is my job to keep the home,as my husband id gone 5 days a week he will help when he comes home to give me a break,but I also think he shouldn't because he should relax with the little time he does get to be at home with us,but housework has never killed a man or woman,I think 99% it should be a shared thing. In today society I think men are more willing to help out around they house then they was just 10 years ago.My hubby does dishes and laundry and helps pick up around the house,because he feels lazy when he sees me the only one up doing anything,and he wants to help not that I ask him to do anything,except garbage duty. [sassysammy81]
well this is one my hubby an I agrue about I feel he works at least 50 hours a week so he shouldn't have to but he feels with my handicaps I need help around the house so if I am having a bad day where I can't get to something he will try to get to it an i tell him not to worry about it I will now if the guy isnt working yees he needs to help [enola1692]
It's unequal that woman work housework and man don't do that. My future husband is the person will help me the housework, help his son/daughter do homework and somethings like that. [pooh08]
Roles and responbility are changing,due to the modern world,world is changing very fast,so people right are changed.In the past,woman had the responsbility to the domestic household work,but day are becoming modern,man are getting more interesting in the household job.May be,it will better to exchange job.People are boring to perform same job everyday.So changing job,can make the new challenge even more interesting and very enjoyable. Nowdays,we can see man,are working in a hotel,restaurant,as a chef,cook,which they are performing great better than expected.Woman are becoming more educated,performing good role in their field than man performs. One hand,it will better to exchange job,makes both,more enjoyable,fun,interesting. I don't think,there will be problem to do womans work by man,man works by woman.It will be better to co-operate,like exchanging programs.Those who are better,experiences in the field,they should got the chance to work. [rastamangp]
yes a man should do house work he is also part and parcel in a family [suganrekh]
Hello Canteen Ji, It is rubbish and i totally discard that man should not work, at this age also, I pass my sweet time in my kitchen at least two hrs/24 hrs. and help all members in my family. I might be an exception, as this is my Hobby 'cooking'. befor marrying too, I had my own kitchen, i am always interested to cook and feed others. i enjoy it. So i wish all men must help all thier women in kitchen. have a nice time. [chintoo07]
Of course man should or I say must do housework. My motto is: Man or no man, as long as you live in this house, you mus share in housework". If this criteria cannot be met, please go find yourself another place to stay. But of course the final detail celaning belongs to me. My husband's helps out especially in drying the clothes, washing dishes and taking out the garbage. I do the floors and bathroom and cook. [eagle_f15]
Of course man must do housework. This is my motto: Man or no man, as long as you live under this roof, you must share in doing house work. If this criteria cannot be met, please go find another place to stay.!!! My husband does help out alot especially in taking out the garbage, wahing the dishes and regularly drying the laundry. I do the cooking, marketing, bathrooms, floors and etc. [eagle_f15]
hi Canteen, how's your day? happy anyway, i see no problem man doing housework. i feel proud of it instead.. however, it remains as normal situation for women to do such tasks. thanks for posting and sharing this....rolleyes cheers and God bless... [delgar]
I believe they should because we never know there are times that the wife can't able too.Like she is sick or gone somewhere, the husband can do the housework with her absence.Husband's role is to work to earn money for the family but he can help at home whenever is needed. [giePortlandOR_08]