Generally speaking, husband works hard all day outside the home and so wife often do the houseworks.
However, more and more wives hold the idea that they should take some measures(such as a helpful reward system) to get their husbands to Help with housework. In their eyes, hunsbands have never fully realized how hard it is to work inside the home.
Yes, for most wives, it would be wonderful if husband do the cooking and cleaning for them. Of course, many husbands have been pampered by their mothers and don't know when it is their time to do the cleaning, so they may give the wrong kind of help even if they try their best to help their wives.
So, what is your opinion on sharing housework?
Should a working husband participate? If your answer is YES, then why husbands should do housework?
[question posted by getbrowser]
responses and comments:
Dear getbrowser, I do not enforce anyone to do the house chores. As the modern world nowadays, both husband and wife are working. Normally at the weekend, they will share the work together. It is fun, helping each other, can finish the chores faster. Then, both of them can enjoy life together, relax and watch television. My husband will hand wash the clothes, and I will hang them out to dry. I will then fold the clothes and keep it in the wardrobe. Since we do not own any washing machine, this mutual understanding of sharing the work is automatically practiced. [Iriene88]
Yes...there is no doubt the husband should help when it is necessary no matter whether he is hard worker or not.... But it's not for cooking and cleaning or of wife's work...but more like moving a heavy bed or a work that a lady could not do all by her self.....women will fight for their right no matter how good the husband is....ninja [Misterwit]
A wife has the right to fight for her right....glareMoving a Furniture is something done very rarely. What about the daily work? [tingtong]
I think being married also means that it is a partnership in the relationship. Husband and wife should help each other. Yes, I think husband should also do some household chores. I believe that it is part of the bonding moments among the couple. The husbands works for eight hours for five days but household work is 24/7. Now, if the husband cannot help in the chores then it is just rightful to hire a housemaid to help the wife. Then that case the husband doesn't need to help in the chores rather he just have to pay for the helper. [larish]
of course. i help my wife with the house hold chores and we have a a policy clean as you go. it helps us maintain the cleanliness of the house before i go to work i make sure our bedroom is clean and they will just go to sleep once they enter there. i work at nights so i make sure the bedroom is comfortable. i also run errands and i also clean and wash the things she used after cooking. i set the table as well. [se7enthbird]
depends. if they're completely supporting me and i'm at home,i say no. support meaning with money i need to get household Supplies and a few little things i need.then i see it as my job. however,they can still keep their stuff at least organized-i don't need Tools scattered all over the house. if i'm working too,then they can help out.that's fair. [scarlet_woman]
I think that it is fine for a wife to do all the work at home if she is a home maker. If she is also working, the husband should share the work. I know that the husbands in our coutnry are not used to doing house work. They have never seen their father working at home. So, it will work better if we give the husband the chance to choose his choice of work at home. My husband is good at cleaning, but I am very poor at cleaning. So, he does most of the cleaning work at home. I help him with cleaning whenever I find time. He hates ironing clothes, so I do that. He is not fond of cleaning vessels, so it is mostly my job. He doesn't mind doing laundry. So, we share the laundry work. He is interested in cooking and same with me. So, both of us do equal amount of cooking. [daliaj]
My answer is a resounding big YES. Husbands should and must participate in household work. This may include some house repairs, furniture repair, fixing lights, disciplining children, making some projects, and other household chores that he can do. I don't like a man who just sit down in the house and cannot lead his family to do some work because he doesn't know how to do them. I prefer men who can work outside and inside the home. [learn2earn]
I think if both of you are working a full time job, it should be whatever needs done. he should pitch in. He should always pick up after himself. We are not maids, but that just never seems to matter. [Thoroughrob]
I do not know where you live, but most wives in my country work. Even if they did not, both men and women live in a house, as do children, and the house is the responsibility of the people who live there.Men, women, and children. Personally, my husband is at home in the house much more than I am, I work twice as many hours per week as he does. He cooks very well, and loves to do it. He can clean things in the kitchen better than I do. My work outside of the home is active, hubby's is not. [GardenGerty]
House work is 24 hours job. If child gets up in the middle of the night, the wife has to get up and take care of the baby. But husband is not working all the time. Moreover house work is a tedious work involving body strain. So I do not see anything wrong if husband helps wife in her household chores. [Buchi_bulla]
Me and my husband are working and i am happy to say that my husband helps me in the household chores. If i cook our dinner, he will do the dishes. If i wash the clothes, he will help me hang them, if i clean the house, he cleans the bathroom and he too cleans the refrigerator and the electric fans. It's a give and take relationship--chores are shared fairly hehehehe! [msfrancisco9369]
Hi,sharing the work by husband will work out 100% in the case of working woman,because she too work along with us and earning .We have to understand the tensions,hard work,tiredness in work for her too.So we have to share or divide house hold works. In the case of house wife we can help her,because she has sufficient time to complete house hold work,even if there are hard work we have to help her. THIS IS ALL MUST GO BY UNDERSTANDING..DON'T INVOLVE RIGHTS..THEY SOIL THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THEM. All the best. [Baluyadav]
I think it depends. IF the husband works outside the home and the wife does not, then it becomes her "job" to maintain the house. However, if they both work outside the home it should be a shared responsibility. IT's nor fair for them to both work outside the home and then when they come home he props his feet up to watch tv while she after working her full day out has to cook supper, do laundry and wash the dishes. It should be shared equally if they both work outside the home. [macdingolinger]
If the wife does not work then I think her job(and yes I know it is difficult) would be to keep the household chores up to date on ths inside of the house. I think she should also do the weekly errands such as grocery shopping and banking. This does not mean I think the husband shoudld just go home from work and be lazy. I think he should clean up after himself by hanging up his clothes or putting his dirty clothes in the hamper or laundry room. If he makes a mess in the bathroom he should clean up after himself and also he should help woth outdoor chores such as mowing the lawn and shoveling snow. Also if he fixes a snack after dinner he should clean up whatever mess he made. [muscles4me]
It depends upon the husbands if they want to help as most of them who are busy working the whole day want to rest while at home. Though when they are needed to help I think they will voluntarily do. During their day off however they do particular task at home that suited for men to do example fixing of anything that women can't do. They too enjoy participating working at home sometimes that not needed to obliged them. [bing28]
Husband should help their wife in household chores because now a days wives can't do all of the work in the house. Back in the old days men are pampered by their wives and mothers they never forced to help at home. My father don't help us in household chores even washing the dishes he don't do it right. [agv0419]
i do personally think that husbands should participate in some households too, even just simple ones like fixing the bed before going to work. most husbands just crawl out of bed and that after taking a bath will just leave the towels anywhere. have mercy on your wives! [flagella08]
i think if the wife is only a housewife, and the husband works outside to afford the family, then except when the husband is willing to help, orelse the wife should better not to ask for husband to join. but if the wife works outside as the husband, then i'll have the opposite opinion. they both need to do the housework together. or only if any one free to do it. [yolanda19191]
Hi getbrowser, Many women now work outside the home and in that case I believe both the husband and wife should share the housework. In cases where only one partner works outside I believe that the one staying at home should do the housework. Of course, if the husband comes home and his wife has a lot of housework to catch up on, then maybe he could help. In a good relationship this should not create a big problem. Blessings. [Pose123]
i have already begun to teach my son about cleaning and picking up after himself and pitching in where needed. i have taught him how to cook some things and how to do laundry and put clothes in the dryer. everyone, no matter what the gender, should pitch in around the house. you make the mess so you should clean it up and not leave it for someone else who you THINK should clean it up. not so in my house as my husband is a slob. [mikeysmom]
I think there is no mistake or problem to sharing housework as long as housework was not annoy their work outside the home.Actually as wife,I would not like to demand my husband to do some housework.But when he have a time,why not.Especially to take care kids.Many of husband think that take care baby only mom's work although kids need their dad too.But the important is just understand about our mom work at home is not more easy that your (husbands) work.So,apreciate it,give support and don't be stingy to commend or praise it.LOL [Zhizho]
I really think if the husband and wife both work fulltime away from the house, the chores should be shared. My brother is a good example of a man who helps his wife clean on the weekends. I think it's just great. My husband will not help with any housework at all. He has no clue how to wash clothes, dry clothes, run the dishwasher or vacuum and dust. It's been many years since I've worked full time away from the house so I do the bulk of the chores in the house right now. Am no longer working but do have someone come into clean our house about once a month. I clean in between the times the cleaning lady is not here. If the wife is going to help support the family outside of the house plus take care of the children and husband when at home after work, she should have some help. [carolbee]
Men don't realize how hard we women work to maintain a house! From the time we get up till the time we go to bed we are cooking, cleaning, taking care of children, volunteering at the school, doing laundry, gardening and lawn care, running errands, shopping and all the other things that have to be done to keep a household running smoothly. I never expected my husband to help but I would have liked him to do more repairs around the house. He always complained I had no time for him but wouldn't help me with my chores. I would have been happy if he had admitted that I had a real job that was important. [dragon54u]
I like the saying "Women hold up half of the sky." Now just think what would happen to the world if a woman said "I might not put the diapers on my baby right, so maybe I should not participate in that." My father told my mother that! He never helped her with anything! Everything he did not want to do she had to do or it did not get done. Here, generally speaking, husbands do not work any harder than women and it is ridiculous to expect the woman to work hard all lday outside the home and then come home and do all the housework too. But I know many women who did just that. Also think of this. The man retires but the housework never stops, so the woman in effect never retires. It only happens as long as the woman puts up with this abuse. Here we have a warning to all girls of marriageable age: NEVER MARRY A MAMA's BOY. That means look at the relationship between the man you would marry and his mother and if she spoils him do not marry that man! Clearly we do not have arranged marriages here. [drannhh]
oh getbrowser! This should be interesting! Here is MY take, however. I Surely think a working husband should participate in the household chores. I live in a country where it is normal for women also to work outside the home and also we have many immigrants from countries where it was normal for the woman to stay at home and work with the house and the kids. In MY household all things are shared. We both work outside the home and we are a partnership ..an equal one. Therefore the chores are shared and even split onto liked and disliked. Everything including laundry dusting vacuum cleaning plant care , dishes, dog.. etc etc.. There is nothing here that I cannot do and did before I ever met my wife so I certainly cannot expect her to do it all. BUT.. if the wife doesn't work outside the home?? And I come home tired? SHould she look after all anyway and just keep going ?? SHE has worked all day too.. and without pay! lets see.. say you made 400 coins a day.. for 8 hours work She makes nothing but looks after everything on the homefront.. so , in effect,, works for YOU, does she?! How good of her. So in all fairness you should split your pay with her.. so you will have 200 coins and she 200 coins.. right? WRONG.. HER job isn't for 8 hours , it is for, lets say, to be lenient, 16 hours with the kids and everything else to look after because you don't help at all.. You think it is HER job...hmmmmmm She needs to be paid so she must have YOUR 400 coins PLUS you will have to work ALL WEEKENDS and HOLIDAYS to catch up to what she should be making. YOu cannot afford to have a wife. You must not get married at all and you must do your own chores in the home. Choose the better alternative. SHARE all the chores. It isn't all that hard.. I know.. I am doing my share! And our relationship is the better for it. AND I am sure a man would soon have more respect for what a woman actually does! [fjaril]
Hello getbrowser, I am a stay at home mom so I do a majority of the housework but I am also fortunate enough to have both husband and children that also help me out when I need it. I think that times have changed and for the better I might add to where women are able to share the household responsibilities and are also working outside of the house a lot more than we use to. I have always been annoyed by men that think just because they work outside of the house and the wife does not that we do less work than they do..I know a ton of ladies that work outside of the home and still have to come home after a long day and cook dinner, clean the house, run the kids around, pay bills and etc but men claim they don't have to help just because they worked all day...it is bull! They want clean clothes or a hot meal they can help to get them as well. I think a marriage should be mutual on responsibilities. [froggieslover]
Well never been married, but live with girl friends I did plenty of house work, just not laundry or cooking...lol [solared]
i think whoever works the least amount of hours per week should do the housework,whether male of female [doormouse]
absolutely! my hubby and i both work (i only work part time outside of the house but have a home business). he does all the cooking and i do most of the other stuff. [cher913]
Nowadays, with all the heavy schedules that people have and so much to do for everyone I would think that a good husband would help his wife all the time. The good old days of leasure are gone, that is for certain. Most people have a job each and some have two or more. So its time to share the burden. [Bluepatch]
My hubby does whatever he can for me when home.To my objection angry! I feel if ,I am home all day without a child to tend to .I should be getting things done. If I worked it would be a different story,then we would share the responsibilities of the home.I highly doubt I will ever stop my husbands helpful ways though,I sure do try. [Capsicum]
You sound like you have a very thoughtful husband. As long as you don't abuse it which you sound like you aren't it's not a problem. Maybe he is helping out to spend time with his wife. [Chamorritamom]
If the husband is working full time to take care of his family he should not have to come home and do the cooking and the cleaning too. I always did all of the running of the household and most of the taking care of the kids, My husband did his part with the kids..... He was the one that also took care of the yard work. And i usually had a honey do list for him to take care of every now and then. Stuff that i could not do on my own. [dlr297]
"Should a working husband participate in houseWork?" Well how about a working housewife, should she have to do all the work, 'and in many cases also work outside the home? Yes let the hairy guys grab the tots and bathe them while wo rking mom does the dishes. Let him do the laundry while she put the kids to bed. Show him how to vacuum the floor and sweep, yes you have to take hold of that end and sweep with the other end. If the "bring me a beer" guy wants his meals cooked, then show him the kitchen sink and the dish cloth to wipe the table. turn off the damned televison until his tasks are done. let wifey sit down and watch tv just once. Yes and darned right he should participate, its his home too, and his kids too. if he wants a kid a year he will darned well have to help out.Why should he,well gee whiz is it not obvious he lives in the house with his wife and kids he should damned right have to help. [Hatley]
If both people are working then both people should equally share the housework. If only one person is working then the other person who is staying home should do the housework. I see lots of families where the man stays home and the wife works. I also think that if only one person works the working Party should still make some contribution to running the household - mowing the yard, taking out the trash, cooking a meal etc..... Because the only break the person who stays home gets is the one the working spouse gives. Communication is the key - agreeing on who will be responsible for what and how the running of the household will be handled. [wlee9696]
To me, God in his infinite mercy has spelled out the roll of a man and a woman( i.e husband and wife) in the house for peace to reign,aside that both are also made to help and assist each other in any situation they find themselve.A man who truly love his wife will want peace for her.Looking at it, mostly housework if too tedious could be beyond what a woman could endure,it could expose her to stress and stresses could atime led to a woman to loss her Beauty and other unwanted thing like not having enough care for the children interms of assisting them in to do their school assignment etc.So a reasonable husband should atime share housework with his wife,especially the tedious part of housework but not on demand. [petalkenny007]
I think if a woman is a stay home wife and the husband works for the living, it is the wife's duty to attend to the housework but the husband should also help especially if his job is not really a manual job that would leave him totally exhausted. If he is just staying in the office and has a very light task then he should also find ways to help his wife when he is at home. Now if they have children already and big enough to do the work then I think the children should also help. It is nice to see a family where each member is helping each other out. Now in my case both I and my husband are working and I am happy I've been blessed with a very good husband. I don't really need to ask him to do this and do that. As he arrives home from office, he would really do all household chores he finds still unattended, even the laundry, the dishes etc. I am really very happy and contented with the kind of husband that I married.happyrolleyes [salonga]
when im going to be husband in the future YES! even in a hard day work i would still love to cook for dinner and breakfast ^^V. . hmmm cleaning yes for some things... like garbage. Now a days even wives have to work coz life is getting hard so yes it is good to help each other even on household chores.. [vhinzstrife]
I think it will be unfair for the wife if the husband does not do his share in the household chores. It is a matter of being thoughful. Imagine the wife waking up early to prepare food for everybody, serve the family, clean up the house, give the children a bath, dress them for school, get their things ready, do the laundry while at the same time sweep the floor, tidy the bedrooms, clean the toilets, do the groceries, prepare food for dinner, attend to some school functions, go home finish the budgeting for the home, collect clothes from the clothes' line, do some ironing, fold the clothes. Do minor repairs and home maintenance. Prepare the evening meal, help out in doing the children's homework, then the dishes again and before closing her eyes at night perform her marital obligations. With these in her lists, the husband still refuses to cooperate, he must be fortunate enough to marry a superwoman. enjoy! [manong05]
I think that the household chores should be done both in equal. Whover is free to do he chores he would be th one who will do it. [junmae]
This depends on the situation, if the wife is working then the husband should help but if she does not, well he should still do housework that way he is being supportive. It is really good for a man to help around the house. Women respect men who do so. [lindiebiz]
Hi getbrowser, Nowadays, not only the husbands are working for a living but also the wives. I dont know if this true in your country but here in ours, there's a high percentage of professional women working to augment the family's income. Women here are even earning more than their husbands. In fact the wives are the one working hardest because when they get home they still have to take care of their children and their husbands. Some wives, soon as they get home they have to prepare a dinner for their husband and children. She still has to do other things in the household before she can rest. While the husbands, soon as they get home they sit and relax, watch TV and wait to be served by their wife. So unfair, is'nt it? So, in my opinion, husbands should do their share in the household work also. Because getting married and having a family is partnership. Gone are the days when wives only stays at home to take care of the children, the husband and the household. [triplejazzm51]
i think in todays world both husband and wife work outside to earn a standerd living.one should help his or her in the household work.i think husband should participate in household work because wife cannot manage house and children at same time it is duty of both of them to make there flat a home.husband should support wife in evry respect and ther should be clear division of work between them.it makes life of both worth living with love around.try this. happy mylotting. [mohitseth]
Of course,a working husband should do housework.When a man ask a girl to marry him,and he has prepared to be good husband.A good husband means not only he is the main charger of family income,but also his attentiveness to his wife. [Jeffest]
I agree that working husband should participate in house chores as far as possible.Afterall, both live together and there is no harm in helping each other.Well, i think cleaning would be one easy area, and for some cooking.Well,it really helps in the family bonding and creating a better home,sweet home. [UltimateAsoka]
Yeah husbands should help there wives in the work...household work...if she is busy in kitchen he may help in having bath for kids as it will be late for school...if she is busy in doing that he may help in cutting any vegetables...or any....but to do all the things there must be good understanding between them. until they understand eachother it won't work out. All men should understand that she too is a humanbeing not a machine to go on working...and they should come out to help how much they can.. if not everything....if so they can travel in there life journey with out any disputes..... [rorisricha]
Generally speaking, husband works hard all day outside the home and so wife often do the houseworks. Well, I am one of them, so I belong to the generals. lol And I don't think there is a difference between helping and not helping or participating in the household chores. I work 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. I work in an office. But when I find a place that I can help or I wish to help if I don't feel too tired from working in the office, i do my share. I can cook, fill the water tanks with water, manually gets water from the jet pump using pails (this is what we call, "pag-igib ng tubig"), and sometimes, my wife will ask me to help her in the laundry to make the work done faster. I can't say I am a great person but most people envies us, how sweet we are as husband and wife, though some misunderstandings cannot be avoided sometimes. [neildc]
If think about it, wives are doing hard labor at home. And I admit that I'm a lazy husband so when the time comes that wife starts to open her mouth to complain about how hard it is to be alone in the house with the kids... blah... blah... that's my queue to give up the remote control and start to help her. For me, its only fair that husbands find the time to help their wives with the household chores at their free time. Cheers! [ybong007]
My view is that if we both work we both share the housework and that's that. If I am at home more because I work part time I only expect help with say, the dishes. In other words labour around the home should be divided fairly without one person doing the bulk of it because that is how resentment begins. I see no reason why a man should not participate in household chores; after all as a woman I was not born with a label on my forehead that said "cook, cleaner and bottle washer"!happy [paula27661]
Yes, I do think its kinda important for a working husband to be able to help out with household chores sometimes. I feel a marriage is like a partnership and both sides have to help each other out to keep the house healthy and themselves healthy. [nijolechu]
I think if husband is out of the home for most part of the day so its really hard to make him work.but one can get help from a husband if he is ready and is free.or when the wife is really tired or ill.its no harm in helping wives in household chores.as wife might find it refreshing. [bluray]
Every situation is different, of course, but I would say that whether the husband should share house chores largely depends on whether the woman works, and whether the couple has children. If both the husband and the wife have full-time jobs outside the house, yet it is only the wife who is expected to come home from work and do all the household chores, I do not see how it is fair or justified. This was the situation in my family when growing up: mom did it all, and it infuriated me to no end. In fact, I think my solemn vow to never get married (broken 7 years ago) can be attributed to it.However, if the husband works and the wife stays home, it is only fair that she does the majority of house chores, if not all of them. [irene3184]
If both the husband and wife have jobs outside home, they can share all work. Men can help in cooking, help children with their studies, and a lot more they can do. There is no rule that the household work is for women to do alone. [tingtong]
Hi friends, I don't mean to brag.....yeah I DO. I have the best husband in the world. I am currently unemployed, for 10 years lol. Anyway..I am home all day. Hubby works all day and then yes, he comes home and cooks the dinner for the 5 of us. I do my part by cleaning up the mess from dinner, but that is a small price to pay for such a wonderful man. I found when we moved from the city to the country (in the city I was always a working mom) everything really changed in our lives for the good I think. I always had dinner on the table at 5:30 for him and the kids. My husband and boys are quite picky eaters, so I got so fed up trying to please everyone all the time, I just eventually said "forget it... you do it". He's been doing this ever since. He doesn't seem to mind.. in fact I think this relaxes him. He has a couple of beers and cooks dinner at about 6:30 and I have noticed, don't get in his kitchen when he is cooking. That is fine by me!! I know eventually with the economy as it is, I will have to go back to work. Blah, just the thought of it makes me ill. I have really gotten used to being out of the rat race and I don't want to be a rat again. Anyway, whatever works for your family.... go for it. I did. Cheryl [cher8558]
My ex did. He was a carpenter and when weather didn't permit him to work and he had reason to be at home during the day he would clean, do the wash or whatever needed to be done. And he nearly always did dinner. If a husband is around some of the time during the day I don't think it is too much to ask for him to do some tidying up or a load of wash. All men are different and alot of them think women should do the housework. In my case,it usually was my job and he took care of the yard and such. [celticeagle]
I think both have need to do the house works. It depends though who stay at the home more. The person who works out side from home obviously doesn't get much time and also remains very tired after the whole day of work. But whatever time he/she gets should help other partner. After all the house belongs to both. Just need proper routine and good understanding. You feel happy when you make happy your loved one. [SouravRC]
First of all let us no forget that many women work outside of the home these days, and there are now men who stay home to take care of the house and babies while the wife goes to work. I think if a couple has an arrangement where one goes to work all day and the other stays home to take care of the house then each should do their job. My husband works very hard and I stay home (and work at home), so my responsibility is the home and the kids. I also earn some money but my first priority is the home and the kids. My husband is tired when he gets home I don't expect him to do housework. I have his dinner ready and waiting when he gets home every night because he deserves that after a long days work. My job is to make sure he is ready to go to work every day and gets to relax and have some downtime when he comes home. The only thing he does during the week at home is sometimes take out the garbage, but I do that most of the time too. He does mow the lawn though on weekends and takes care of some yard work, but he enjoys doing that and he gets some fresh air, but other than that he does not do house work nor do I expect him to. [ladym33]
I work all day and my wife works all day, so we both share the housework. When I grew up my father didn't do housework because he was out at work all day, my mother's work was in the house, so she did that. Things are different now though with both partners working and I think it is only fair that if both share the financial commitments, then both should share the chores. happy - Derek [derek_a]
Yes times have changed. My parents were the same. My mother did not go back to work until we were all grown up. These days things are so expensive that it takes two incomes to pay things off. If both people work then it is necessary to share the chores or one person ends up worn out. [sharra1]
If the wife is not working and the husband is working full time then maybe no. But if the wife is working full time as well then why should he not help. If she is working full time and has young children then asking her to do all the housework, cooking and child care is asking the impossible. That is a recipe for a work out wife. The trouble with this is that the men expect to come home to a glamour wife who waits on them and instead they come home to a wife who is worn out from working two or three jobs, paid work, house work and child care and they then end up having an affair with a woman who does not have this work load. I have seen that happen many times. If the wife is a full time house wife then doing the house work is her job. So it really does depend on the work load of both people. I find it odd that you only mention a working husband. I do not know any women who are full time housewives, they all hold down full time jobs. There is nothing worse for a woman to come home from a busy day at the office to a dirty house and then have to start cleaning it and cooking the meal while the husband and sons sit around and relax. When I was living alone it was hard coming home to an empty house late at night and have to cook. I used to cook a dish that lasted me all week and just heat it up but it was so boring. When I shared with my brother, he used to always have dinner ready when I got home late after working overtime and it was so nice to come home to a nice dinner and a Glass of wine. He worked part time so he was able to do this. [sharra1]
Hi dear! I think if husband and wife both are working, there is no harm if household work is shared between both of them. It would be wrong to give the entire responsibility to the wife alone, after all she is also a human being and she has got her own capatity and limitation. You are right many a times boys who later become husbands are not imparted any training by their mothers about executing household tasks and this leads to bitterness between a couple. If a husband shares household work, his wife will feel better and would love him more. [dpk262006]
Yes housework is in deed hard job. Wives should be rewarded for theirs works. But they never valued.It's very unfortunate.If their works are converted to money value their salary will be double than their husbands salary.At least on weekly holiday husbands should do housekeeping and relieve their wives one day in a week. [bhanusb]
Yes, i believe there is nothing wrong with the working husband helping out in the house. Especially so when the wife has a job outside also. Or even if the wife stays at home but has a lot of children. Its true many men do not understand what all the stay at home wife and mother does. They think it house work gets magically clean with a twitch of the nose or something. LOL!!! When i was raising my kids alone every saturday morning i would put the kids to work helping me clean the house. My daughters home they have rotating jobs of washing dishes. One or two nites a week the husband has cooking night. He is lazy about that so he will go get take out food or order pizza. Cleaver guy. LOL!!! Both of them work. [jdyrj777]
For me, if a working husband would do a little share of house work ( and is voluntary on his side, not by force) then I think it would be ok. But i think working husbands has already done their part on going out early in the morning and going home before dinner, everyday, working hard to feed their family. As a wife, to serve and love my husband is my job :) but if my husband isn't working.. well that's a different story lol! [chiepao]
i really think that depends on if the woman works outside the house also. if she is a stay at home, he should never have to do anything housewise. unless its a special occassion as a treat to his wife. both my hubby and i worked outside the home, so i done the most of housework since he worked longer and more hours, but many times he shared it and helped out. luckily he had been a bachelor for 6yrs and had to do for himself so he pretty much knew how to do it all. [bunnybon7]
I totally think they should participate. I'm a working mother, so why do I have to do all the work?! My hubby is pretty good about it. He'll clean up our bedroom and fold laundry or anything else I ask for. He also helps watch the kids while I'm at work once he is off. I would think it's totally unfair if we both worked and I had to do all the chores around the house. [harmonee]
Yes! there is no big deal if husband participate in household cleaning and cooking. Because there are husband really get in touch with that...although they are tired from their work. They can do something in their home due to their love with their wives...Most Filipino husband doing that. [aerous]
We both work full time but my partners work is more physical than mine so don't expect him to do any houswork or cooking or such like specially as he does the house repairs. However it does annoy me when he gives me unessessary work such as leaving towells and socks on the floor or gets stuff out and doesn't put it away or leaving coffee mug marks on the table - I draw the line at that. [snugasabugxxx]
Yes, I do believe that the working partner (if one partner is at home) should help out at least a little on weekends and after work. When I worked full time, which was 50 hours a week and my wife was at home, I still did the clothes washing on weekends and the dishes. I would help out with looking after our kids as well. Both partners deserve to have some rest from their work on the weekends! Now we both work from our home, but my wife does more work in our business, so I do the majority of housework. As she is far better at food preparation than me, she does the evening meals, but I do the clean up afterward. [RawBill1]
Yes, I think husband and wife should help each other with the house chores. My husband helps me and he does work all day. I also help him in the summer with yard work and seeing as we now have a self propelled lawn mower it is easier for me to push it. The only thing he does not do is cook meals but he does help with the dishes. [happy6162]
Hey getbrowser! I'm not married, but my boyfriend does help me with the housework! And I don't work either because I have some health problems! He is very good about helping me with the cleaning sometimes and running errands for me. But, I don't like to leave too much for him to do because he does work hard and long hours. He just happens to be the type that likes to clean and likes to have things done HIS way! I think that is why he prefers to clean sometimes rather than let me do it! When I do it he always finds things wrong and then I get angry so I tell him to do it himself! [Opal26]
In today's world, it seems there are more and more two job working families and less families in which only the husband works outside of the home. In this case, I am sure that the husband should feel some responsibility to help. Also, the wife should help with the outdoor chores around the house as well. It seems there are so many women who think that the outside belongs to the man. Well, this shouldn't be true either. Back in the old days, women were not afraid to get their hands dirty. Then again, if a man helps his wife do the chores at home instead of sitting and watching tv while she works, she will be in a happier mood. And I think there is an old expression that states something if Momma is happy, everybody is happy. LOL I hope you understand what I am trying to express here, and that this information will be somewhat helpful to you. [kykidd]
Maybe I am of the wrong generation, but I don't know any stay-at-home wife who expects her husband to do housework. Babysitting while I went shopping would have been nice, but it never happened. I survived. Now if the wife works the same number of hours outside the home that the husband does, housework should be shared. Teaching a man to do quality housework is something I have never accomplished. There were times when I believed that he was sloppy with whatever I asked him to do just so that I'd stop asking. I learned to bite my tongue and accept his idea of clean, I frequently do it over when he's outside or asleep. [bellis716]
If the wife is a homemaker and does not work outside the home then, the husband does not have to do house work. he will be responsible for the yard work. It is not fair for him to be working outside the home and then come home to work again. [mizcash]
Hello getbrowser, If the wife is a full time housewife and the husband works hard to support the family, I agree that as a wife, you can't force your husband to share the housework equally. It is alright if the husband helps here and there. But, if the wife is working too, it is necessary to share the burden of the house hold work together *smiles* Just imagine, a wife wakes up early morning, rushing to do everything before she gets to work, comes back in the evening and continues with the house work... It is a never ending work for a working woman! I am a working mother and have to do every single house chores without asking for help from my husband. My 'working time' is from the time I wake up in the morning until I am able to get some sleep, late at night. My husband is working too. He wakes up when I wake him up in the morning, get ready to work, come home in the evening, play with our son for awhile, continue his work in his computer room and sleep when he is ready to sleep. Guess, my duties are more than him! [gr8life]
working husbands should participate in doing household chores. i do remember that children as early as 3 years old can be taught simple chores like putting away his toys or even putting his dirty clothes away in the hamper. so, where are all these going if older men wouldn't even carry out a little chore or two? children go to school and yet in the manner of instilling discipline and values parents encourage or even oblige them to do chores. so, husbands working or not should do chores. otherwise women should not work because they do housework. sounds bad? because it is happy. it's just the other way around. [Ritchelle]
This is a misconception that husbands work more in offices. I myself was working for 25 years and the male colleagues were always going around, playing cards even after lunch time was over, but women employees mostly kept to their seats only. At that time I used to wonder that I do all the work before coming to office and again will rush to kitchen after reaching home in the evening and similar will be the problem with other working women. But these males boast that they go to office and earn money to look after the entire household. But in reality compared to women, they do just 20% of the work. Whereas for a woman it is 24x7 job. Even the woman who does not go out to work has more than enough to do at home. So my feeling is that men should take responsibility for some of the household work. [vanitasuri]
My answer is Yes, I do help my wife for some houseworks when I come back early after finish my job, as my wife take care the child by herself, it is very hard to do the house work all by herself, so if I can help, why not? For simple things like washing dishes, or I also help feeding milk for my child and playing with my child too, let my wife enjoy her meal, or take a bath. [my125125]
In my opinion it would be better if both partner in a marriage would contribute house works. Doing the said tasks does not just fall on women. It is with the commitment that they will go together through tick and thin. Added to that fact husbands sharing household builds more emotional bond with her wife and children. Family is much closer and you've got to enjoy working together, learn from one another in dealing mistakes and appreciating performance in household tasks. [jenzai]
I think a woman should not marry a man who does not know how to clean or cook. If a woman works outside the home too ,then her work is as important as his is. He should come home and just jump right in there and pick up after the kids, himself, his wife, and do dishes if there are any and cook too. There is no laws that says a man is exempt from house work. We just need to train our daughters to marry men who know how to do the house work and value their wives efforts in the home as well as brining in a pay check. [quita88]
Hi, Yes, I definitely agree that husbands should share in helping out in the home. It is definitely quite tiring running the home 24 hours, especially when the children are very small. And this without a break. If the husband can help out a little at least, it would ease things for the housewife. In case the wife is working, then it goes without saying, both should pool in equally. I think if there is love and understanding between both, it will automatically happen. If the husband has an ego, then God help him and his wife. [trixyteddy]
Yes,a working husband should help his wife in houseworks.Maintaining house is not easy.A wife gets fed up with the monotony of routine works.But if the husband is tired and unable to work,the wife understand his difficulty.Such issues can be dealt with mutual understanding. [saumitrakumar]
I feel that the husband should help out with the housework, regardless if he works or not. The wife should not be the soul quicker-picker upper. I know that I get irritated when I'm the only one doing the cleaning. However, in my house, it doesn't always work out that way in my house. I've come to learn, if I ask my husband to do something while I'm at work, I'll be lucky if he does it. It's not because he thinks it's women's work, but he forgets, or is busy with the kids, or is just plain lazy. Sometimes, I don't know what to do with him. I guess I'm glad I can get things done during the week when he's out on the road, and I can have a clean house at least for a little while. [CRSunrise]
Yes working husband should share house work with wife [satishscp]
...Hi getbrowser, When two people get married, I thimk they should be willing to do whatever it is that will keep the relationship thriving. If both people work and are each contributing to the household budget, then both should be willing to share the other things such as grocery shopping, housework, caring for the kids if there are any, yard work. It should be a sharing to make it easier on both. Traditionally it has been the woman who does the housework, but it is great to see men willing to help out as well. Love to hear that a man is cooking dinner as well for the family. It adds to that man, does not take away, in my opinion. That he is strong enough in his manhood and secure enough to do what some would call a woman's job. Take care. [artistry]
...getbrowser, just to add, if the wife doesn't work, then they should talk it over and come to a mutual agreement about the housework. He could make sure the trash is taken out :o). [artistry]
It's an easy question for me: My father worked. My mother was a housewife. So my mother did all the housework. It was - together with looking after the children - her job. That's fair. My husband works. I work. We share the housework. There is no reason why I should work and do all the household chores alone when we both work the same hours. That's fair. So if both partners go out for work, they certainly should share housework as well. [taraelocin]
My husband and I are both a little lazy. Let me reiterate, My husband and I both have different levels of laziness. We both tend to procrastinate until the last minute when it comes to chores. We don't have our own house yet so haven't had to experience doing all chores. I've moved out on my own before I met my husband, but I was living with roommates and we split the chores. Though even then we were both a bit lazy. Well I suppose that when my husband and I do have our own house we'll try to do the chores on a scheduled basis. That is all of our chores that are trash related will be done on Wednesday's for the trash collector to come in the wee hours of Wednesday night, Thursday Morning. Then we may try to do chores on the Weekends as I will be off on the weekends hopefully. I guess it's not something to worry about until we have our own place! [SomeCowgirl]
interesting.housework is definitely not simple and light,if a husband can make out it,he will more respect the value of his wife's work,instead of regard it as worthless,which depresses the housewife .in addition,it's a kind of amusement to do housework together for a couple,which can also harmonize the relationship between them. [CathyLee2009]
If both spouses work outside the home, it seems only fair that both pitch in on the housework. Even when the wife stays at home, the husband shouldn't expected to be pampered and should at least pick up after himself or help when needed. That being said, the problem I ran into when my boyfriend and I lived together was that when he tried to help out, I would either tell him he was doing something wrong, or I'd go back and re-do it after he was finished. This isn't the right thing to do. If someone offers to help, let them do it their way. If you constantly criticize someone's efforts, it will discourge them and they will not want to help you anymore. [Picquarian]
Hi Browser, Most of the family should has good and mutual understanding on their family and also both are well assist on this household work. Most of the husbands used to helps in the kitchen and also on some other works too, in order to assist to the wife in the home. This was much appreciated and well respected because all the husbands are worked in outside for long hours and then again would like to helps us in the home. So when we are having the assistance from the husband, in the home which was really appreciated. Have a wonderful day. [Binthu]
a good husband is helping his wife clean up the housework,because the burden of his wife's work [dodiapriani]
If both couples work yes. And if just the husband works then only sometimes. It is nice to give a break once in a while I guess. I personally work two jobs, my wife works none, and I still do most of the housework. But that is how it goes sometimes. [CJscott]
Well it is only fair that the husband does his fair share of house work in an household where both parties are working as this will make the work load much lighter and prevent one party from being oevrloaded.I think the man and woman shoudl come together and decide how they will share the work load and what the man can do well .It may even require a crash course for the men as like you say many men were not groomed to do housework.It may also be a case where they may decide for the man to do the yard work like cleaning up the outdoors,the trimming of edges and cutting the yard .This must be considered as part of the housework too. In the instant where only one party is working then it must be understood that the party who stays at home should do most of the housework.It may even require that the woman may even have to learn how to do yard work. [ronnyb]
happyWhen my husband was still in the country, I wouldn't compel him to share household works. He would just do wahtever work he likes. He would usually fix broken things at home. Now that he is abroad, I do things by myself.happy [dorisday1971]
Hi ! friend it is believed that husbands works hard, but nowadays most the wives also works hard to run the housed. It is good to hear that husband cook and do house work and make the house work less burden on the wives. Sharing works with the wife if very good. Have a nice day. [nini89]
Hi getbrowser.I think if husband does that it will bring the couple together.But as you said it is difficult to do all that after a tiring day from the office.Well then I guess the husbands can at least share the work at weekends.I am not sure about cleaning but things like gardening,maintenance and cooking,men can definitely lend a hand.Anyways have a nice day.. --whistleshameswhistle-- [Shames]
Well, I wouldn't insist on the husband doing the cooking and cleaning if I was at home and he was working outside the home...unless he wanted to do it. But I do insist that he helps out by being considerate and putting things in the right place and reinforcing it in the children. Even when I was working outside the home, I was the one doing the cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids. Sometimes it would get to me. Though I wouldn't insist that my husband does the chores, I would prefer him giving me a helping hand when necessary. There are certain days when things are real bad...and I would want my husband to help out on those days whichever way he can. [SViswan]
Well, I favour preaching only what I practice. I am a working person. Still, I try to help my wife with the household chores. It is much more important now, since we have a 3.5 months old little daughter. Many a times, my daughter is only comforted by my wife(especially when she wakes up from deep sleep and no one but my wife only is able to comfort her). I might not be too perfect, yet I try to be cooperative. [ptrikha_2]