I cannot imagine my wife to do the same thing at the same time and I do feel hard for her to work as a regular worker in one of the company and when she will be at home she is doing here Household chores and a simple wife for me and a Mother to my lovely Daughter and I really feel pity for her but we need to tackle things to give all of the children a good future..... What about you Guys, Do u also have the same way my wife does or you are a full Mother to your children...////??????
[question posted by iyah10]
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I am a full time mother and I think it's harder to do that than to work and be both. I used to work and be both. When I did that it wasn't so bad because it gave me time away from my duties. When you are at home you are always working. I have five children and the oldest is only 9 years old while my youngest is 3 yrs. old. I don't have friends or breaks to relax. When I got a part time job my husband would ask how soon was I coming home because he was tired. He works full time. I keep telling him he has to be on a constant watch over them. He couldn't even call his mom without getting interrupted by a question from the kids. Either way it's a hard job but it's so much worth it. wink [andalond]
I do see this way with my wife as well and it is really difficult but she still want to moved it on despite of all the challenges she have from work and even when she will come back home after the working hours...... [iyah10]
I think it involves a lot of planning and helpful from your partner. You have to plan your time carefully. Have a schedule which enables you to maximise your time. The husband or partner should give a helping hand in house chores too and in other things that a housewife requires to do. © ronaldinu 2008 [ronaldinu]
Absolutely I do give my wife a helping hand but sometimes she would just tell me to take care of my Daughter especially when the Nanny is off duty during our off day..... [iyah10]
Hi ya iyah10 It is really hard to be a working mother and housewife. I am lucky in one way that I am a stay at home mum and can clean my house and be there for my kids when they come home from school. As you know I am a single mum and at present can not go out to work but will as soon as my youngest is at school. I admire women who hold down a job and look after the home and family but then it is important for the rest of the family to offer the support and help her to do certain jobs. [Humbug25]
Absolutely, I do agree with you that being a Mother and a working at the same time is such a very hard way but I guess my wife could do the same way as you do in the future when we will have the exact saving...... [iyah10]
I am a full time mom to my three kids and I can just imagine how hard it is for your wife. I h=don't work and still I find it hard to manage my chores here, it feels like I am always on rush and always the need to finish things. Well I guess you can help your wife by lending her a hand, may it be in cooking or cleaning the house or minding your daughter, or even on a simple task as flushing the toilet (which a lot of man don't and which makes an irritated wife turns into a hulk!) [pehpot]
For that way I always volunteer for my help but sometimes she would just tell me to stay with my Daughter especially when the Nanny is off duty during our off day. [iyah10]
I know that it is really difficult to be a wife,mother and a working lady.I am not yet a mother or a wife but I can see and understand the difficulties most women face difficulties when it comes to home management and career. My mom, she is a working lady.I had seen her going through lot of difficulties when we were still young and in school.Of course, my dad used to helped her lot both in household chores and supported her always.Although it was really difficult for her to managed between home and work, she did her duty as a mother and wife very well and maintain a good balance between the two.Many told her to leave her job and become stay at home mom but she didn't.She wanted a better future for us(kids).She is one brave lady just like your wife.No fear to face ups and downs in life. [brisk123]
I absolutely agree with you as well that it is a difficult part to have it together and I salute to this kind of woman like your Mother and to my wife as well........ [iyah10]
It's definitely really difficult to be a working mother and a housewife at the same time. You don't want to neglect either responsibilities. The key to balance it is to have a proper time management. When you are at work, you have to fully concentrate on your job. When you are at home, give full attention to your family especially your kids. Don't bring work from office to home. [jamesme135]
Absolutely I do agree with you that time management is really important in any case of our life.... [iyah10]
Hi, as of now i am a fulltime mother to my 10 months old son. Of course being a mum and career woman at the same time is very difficult, you going to work for a living and then doing household chores and then spend time with your family and kids. So im not sure how i handle and manage my time when i get work oneday. Happy posting. [rainmark]
My wife also passed that way of being a full housewife and now she is already working for my daughter is already 18 months old and being a Housewife alone is already a big burden how much more if it is together in one time..... [iyah10]
I was a working mother too, yes it is very hard but you have to do what you have to do for whatever is right for your family [winterose]
U are absolutely right that we need to do things in our life especially when it is really needed in time..... [iyah10]
i can relate to your wife. i'm a new mom to a 10 month old little boy and working at the same time. its so hard to juggle time between family and work especially in my kind of work. i work in the marketing department for one of the retail companies in manila and it entails me to participate/sponsor in various events which requires me to be there during these events. its so difficult to be physically present at work but your mind is wondering about how your baby is doing at home. its a blessing that i have a wonderful husband who takes care of my baby during the night or whenever he wakes up at night. my husband has been very supportive of my career even before we got married. [tengfrancisco]
It's hard to be a working mother and a housewife at the same time. It would be great if a mother/wife can manage both of these well for her family. Thus,you have to really appreciate your wife and share all tasks with her instead of letting her doing all the things alone. Lol. I think everything is worth doing if you love and care for her more than anything in your life. Have a nice day. [yenwie84]
Hello iyah, it is so wonderful that you have acknowledge that your wife is working hard. I am not a mother but when I was living with my boyfriend and was working six days a week we do the housework together. We get up early on sundays and while I am washing he is hanging out the clothes on the line. Cooking and house chores are done together so after everything is done we are able to rest together. You see you can take turns in doing things so that it does seems as it is only your wife is working. These things also strengthen the relationship too. [kerriannc]
I am doing this right now... i work full time... i take care of a daughter and do all the household chores... my husband is working abroad... so there is only me and my two year old in the apartment... we cannot afford to hire someone to help out... so i just try to cope up with everything... good thing my current work is not that demanding at the moment... and i have flexible time... I do not worry about getting to work late... or leaving early... so that is really a big help for me... doing all those things is hard... but when one gets used to it... it is quite okay... [aseretdd]
My appreciation for husbands like you because you appreciate your wife.. I am a working mother as well, I have two kids. Two year old daughter and a six months old son. My working is a decision agreed by my husband and I, because we want a better life not only for the children but for the future of our family life,, we wanted to retire soon that is why we make use of our time to work and earn at the earliest possible.. Being a working mom entails a lot of time planning, decision making and a lot of energy. I make sure to give my best and having a very supportive husband is very helpful to working mom like me and your wife.. Have a great day! [aj2006]
Most family like yours in nowdays,me too but no kids,the costing of family on the rise very quickly,only the earning of husband is difficult to raise a family,in fact your wife take in hand something that traditionally it's yours.so you need to share the pressure of your wife on household duty and educate your daughter? [armada8213]
i am a working mom. Its really hard to be a working mother and a housewife at the same time. i had to manage my time intelligently. but despite of all of that, i' enjying my life as a mother and as a wife because I love my family. i want to give them everything i can. [gladysjanem]
I'am not a full time mother,it real makes me feel regret to my daughter. But I think it's necessary for a mother to have something to do, as a fulltime mother makes someone lose a lot. A woman is able-minded for her family.But a considerate lover is enviable. [vicky771210]
I am a full time mother to my 3 kids. I am not sure how I do what I do. I am looking for a job and it has been discussed that my husband will have to help out more around the house and give up some of the things he does. It is not easy. I have full days and I am a student as well. At the same time, I love being able to be home with my children and make what little money I can online. [shortbunny1980]
yes i agree its not easy being a wife and a mother.sometimes we forgot ourself just to taking care of the family. [bombshell]
hieveryone, i'm new to mylot but this topic really touched me. I keep a full tieme job and am a mother to four children all below the age of i 8, my husband has to commute to work everyday and leaves pretty early returns pretty late. he tries to help but sometimes it still doesn't feel enough. i am priveledge to have a house keeper but as soon as i walk in she walks out dont really have any down time for myself. it tiresome but rewarding at the same time. my family makes my day everyday [castlemar]
Being a mother is hard work..period. Doesn't matter if you work outside the home or only at home. Why don't you help her with some chores or atleast take care of your daughter to lessen the burdan? [SViswan]
Hi iyah, I'm not working I'm a full time mother. And I do admire the women like your wife that could keep up with working and doing a great job at home . Mostly the working women I know is unbalanced, they think they have done enough by working full time so when at home they won't do anything and have a group of maids to get things done at home. The children are losing their mother's touch and only have their nanny around all day. During weekend, those woman whose supposed to have a quality time hang out with their children, again need the nanny's help to take care their children's need because they won't feel comfortable doing it by themself. Say hi to your wife, and also hugs for the little barbie princess. [HiLia2008]
hi iyah! it is really hard to work and at the same time take care of the house. I am a working mom and a wife. I work monday - friday. so weekends is for cleaning the house, laundry, bonding with my baby. on weekdays, i will wake up extra early in the morning to cook breakfast, our lunch usually until dinner. i will prepare snack for my son before we bring him to my mother-in-law's house(she takes care of him while we are in the office). and when we get home, we will eat, do some simple cleaning, and have a little chat/play with my son. its hard and tiring, sometimes i lack sleep but i love it anyway, i can help provide for the family and my son understand it. my husband helps me sometimes especially if he have his day off. take care [red_amethyst]
it is hard and challenging. but one woman needs the support of partner and family. also in this case the household cores can be shared by husband so taht she don't have to do all alone. [subha12]
Hello iyah10, How I wish my husband will think like you! I am a working mother too and sometimes, it is just not easy. My daily schedule starts right after I open my eyes at 5.30 in the morning and it will only end when my son and husband go to sleep. Sometimes I can't even sleep because I feel too tired and sometimes, I just can't lift my eyes at all. Life is not easy as a working mother and even if I decided to be a full time mother, I don't think it is easy too! [gr8life]
Of course it's really hard. And it is even harder when the mother works fulltime and has no help at home. When I woman has to juggle being a mother, a housekeeper and a career woman all at the same time, it becomes a hard job for her to have enough hours in the day. Many times she forgets to take time for herself, which is just as important as all the other things that she has to do with her time each day. It is important that those around her remember that she had many hats that she wears and that she works hard at all the jobs that she has and needs time to have fun away from all those jobs. [idowrite72]