Hi ladies, (men can also give their comments.....welcome)
I am a working women too like most of you here. But let's just imagine....if we have a hubby who is rich as well as loving and we have all the money to spend and have servants to take care of our household work. Will you then prefer to sit at home like housewife and give your full time to your children or will you still want to be a working women....I think I would accept to be a housewife.......what about you all........thanks
[question posted by apsara60]
responses and comments:
It depends in what situation the woman is presently engaged. If she is middle aged and having 3 to 4 kids, then it is better to give attention to children which itself is quite absorbing. If she is newly married and decide to postpone bearing child, then there cannot be better way than to keep herself busy with work. It also depends on the quantum of savings to be made and bank balance of her husband. If the family is on solid foundation, then it is better she remains as housewife, taking care of the children, and if still time is left, she can become member of couple of clubs, kitty parties etc. She can have a systematic investment plan and keep track of the same. Still she can have sufficient money to spend from out of the dividends and returns of investment. She can resume the full time job, if the children come of the age and manage things on their own. [ssh123]
ah!!!!!!!!!!! and then they say "MERA DESH MAHAN" what a shame.......even the basic rights of women are still not given to all women.......very sad. [apsara60]
I am also working woman.But yes i can be housewife if the need arises like that.like if i have child & he requires my attention & care more.& yes if my husband has money i can be housewife. [rb200406]
You are right rb2000, nothing is more imporant and precious to us than our children. I am sure you will always take the right decision. Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
I have always been on my own. If I had all the money I needed and didn't have to worry about working for a living, I would go out and do volunteer work either with the Red Cross or through an agency that assisted people in some way. I can't be bothered with housework and I don't have or want kids. [daeckardt]
oh......I am very sorry about all this.....and now if you are 48 , I think you should not have a kid specially if you cannot see children crying....you can adopt a child who is more than 4 years old........even that can give you some happiness, but I wonder if you are strong enough to bear other responsibilities......it all depends on you. Only you can take right decision for yourself. May God bless you. [apsara60]
I consider house wife is better apsara because only a house wife can make a family into a temple where as a working women may spoil the whole love for kids and the family... [maathav]
Rowena if you are a mother and if you work then you will know the real difficulties and not too many children have their grand parents with them to take care of them in their parents absence ... seeing things wont give you a clear idea my friend you should know things bu living them out not by seeing.... [maathav]
It really depends on the woman. If she happen to had graduated in some well known college that caters to professions that the woman happens to be aspiring for, yet is well aware of what she would be putting at stake when she decides to be a house wife, then its her decision. There are really pros and cons about choosing roles, being a working mom does sometimes take time from the family while it helps in keeping the household stable when it comes to financial matters. Though you gave a situation wherein the husband brings alot of bacon at home. Even so, its the woman's choice. ^_^ [ratyz5]
Yes, pros and cons ^_^ Your quite welcome :) [ratyz5]
A rich and loving husband- what more can I ask for? I'll be a full-time housewife then. I will love him and attend to all his needs as his wife, and also, be a good mother to our children. and we'll live happily ever after =) [my_january]
lol.....you just brought out hidden me......:)) That's exactly what I would do if I had rich and loving hubby.........lol . Well my hubby is loving.....but we are not rich and my kids are big now.......so here I go to work every morning.......lol.Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
if i am rich,i would rather hire somebody to do the housework than my wife. [alexcellzx]
IF IF IF IF........YES THIS BIG IF IS THE ROOT CAUSE OF ALL PROMBLES..........LOL, Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
I don't want to upset any housewife here, but I think in all the possible situations it's still better to be a working woman than an house wife. You are indipendent, you are not depending on someone so you can buy what you want and if you want to divorce you are not restrained to do so by the possibility of not having money. Also for me it's a psicological thing, I would like to have a place in the society and unfortunately house wives work is not even considered a work by a lot of people. [RowenaTheWitch]
Dear Rowena........looking at all your bold replies and energy level, there is one thing that I can predict.......Some day you are going to be a very successful career women...someone who will be well know all over the world for her achivements........Best of luck dear. [apsara60]
Probably no one will agree with me but it is a hard fact that God Almighty has created womenfolk for houses and they are exempted from duties outside their houses.For a happy home and good lookafter of children,their presence at home is essential.My wife had done Masters and she was a lecturer in a girls college.I was serving at a far off place.There was no family life and mutual understanding.According to govt policy,husband and wife should serve at one place if they are govt employees.The application for her posting was accepted but could not be implemented by the authorities.So she had to resign.Then we had a wonderful family life.A serving mother cannot look after her small kids.Money is not every thing in life. [Drawmoney]
Thanks for your reply.Softer sex is meant for softer works at home.This is but natural.please get married first and then tell us about your experience.I am an old man,having grown up kids.I have experienced such situation in the past and I know what problems we faced during service of my wife.That was never an ideal married life for me.I was not a rich man,even then I never liked that my wife should serve anymore.You may try it......... [Drawmoney]
I am a working woman and very prould of it. I enjoy being able to make my own money and taking care of my child. If all I did was sit at home and take care of the house that would drive me insane. Who can stand to look at the four walls all day long! I thank God every day for my Health and being able to work. It is not just a mans world anymore! [cynthiamurphy08]
sitting at home and looking at four walls........lol....are you joking dear.......housewives have no time to breath.......Thanks for your reply [apsara60]
i pefer to be a working woman i just dont wanna have to dependent on no one [ladypg]
Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
I would of loved to of been that woman. But unfortunately I have worked since I was 17, I'm now 54. I only wish that in todays world I could afford to retire and be home. When I was younger, I'd of given anything to of been a housewife and cared for my children full time. I would of been content. I am tickled to death tho that my daughter is able to be a full time mom and wife, without having to worry about working. Have a great day! [PamE53]
Dear Pam, I wish young girls here will read your discussion and will understand what is important in life. some girls think only about money and self dependence etc etc and don't realise what they will miss in life. I hope you will find your lost happiness in your daughter's happiness as you have no other choice....time never comes back........Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
I prefer to work, but I am at home now because my husband is disabled and he needs me to take care of him. I enjoy being in the working public. I would never have servants, but if I could afford it I would hire someone to come in once a month and clean. My children are all grown-up but I wish I had one at home to take care of instead of the manbaby lol. [catjane]
dear catjane.......I am sure God is blessing you every second for the wonderful work that you are doing by looking after your disable hubby. My heart sinks dear, when I think about the parents who shower all their love and care on children and finished there lives ,sit and wait till one of their child will do a favour of remembering them and drop for a visit.........it is so sad .....when children do not look after their old parents, I find no meaning in life , in having children and in sacrificing full life for them.......why are we doing all this.........??????? I can feel your pain in your words.......what can I say dear....Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
hi apsara. In my case, even if my husband is very rich and we can afford to have servants to take my household chores, I would still prefer to be at home since my son is still young. I really don't trust other people, especially those who I haven't known personally for years to take care of my son. BUT.... if the situation is that my son is old enough to take care of himself, I'll undoubtedly go back to the work force. I have been a stay-at-home mom for four years now counting five. And sometimes I do miss waking at mornings and preparing to leave for work. And meet other people and see different things everyday. Being a mom and wife 24/7 is the hardest career. But I have great respect for those women who are juggling two roles. It takes a lot of determination and stamina to continue doing both, being a working woman during daytime and a mom and wife at home. [jcj_111776]
I understand that it takes a lot on working moms. Before I got married, I got to work with two women who always try their best everyday to do their responsibilities at work and at home. I see them already very tired from doing an 8-hour job and yet, there are still more waiting when they get home. Sometimes they admit that there comes a moment when they just want to let go of their responsibilities and do whateve they want. But still they continue and are determined to do their best. [jcj_111776]
hi apsara60 i haven't married yet, but my mother is a working woman i think she's the best mom, she's doing the house work in the morning, and then around 8 she go to the family store and running the store and then my father and my mother go back home around 4, and my mother continue do the other house work i never notice that, but one time i realize how hard her jobs i feel very guilty for not helping her my family is a middle class family i remembered once my mom said it's great to be a working wife and make living for the family her words really spirits me up, i'll make more money in the future so that i'll be able to support her, and let her retire and enjoy her old days amen .. !! thanks for the discussion apsara60 .. ^^ [unuzzz]
Dear unuzzz........I am happy that you appreciate your mother's efforts. It is nice that you feel guilty for not helping her , this shows that you have clear conscious and you will be good child of your mother in future. Please look after your parents even when they will not work and when they will be very old..... May god give you lot of strength. Amen......... [apsara60]
yes me too would love to be house wife waiting for my hubby to come in evening enjoying cuddleing loving careing my kids it would be wonderful life thats i think perfect role for women instead going out of house for money [elite19]
You are speaking like a newly married couple...lol.....enjoy your cuddleing dear, I wish we all could be happy and content like you.......Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
For me, housewife and homemaker is sooo much better. I guess it all depends on priorities and what one values. Me? I value my ability to stay home and take care of my husband and home. That in itself is a fulltime job. I've done my tour of duty as a working woman. I worked in the public, for the public since I was 13. I retired several years ago. If I had it all to do over again, I would have stayed home in the beginning. If you compare what you make to what it takes to support a second job, a car, clothes, makeup, childcare, gasoline, lunch with the girls, not to mention the stress, while you STILL have to take care of the home, it's really not worth it. The money always looks good and we end up working to have more, but how can you enjoy it if both of you are working all the time. Trust me, it's cheaper to stay home and be a housewife. Not as much stress or heartache either. If you can manage money well, you end up with more in the long run by staying home. It's not like it's not a full time job to begin with. [terilee79720]
I am with you in this decision of being a housewife or housemaker but, I wish I had enough money to stay at home.........lol. I wish I had money to go on world tour.......lol.Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
i dont think you are right,maybe in my head,the woman is equily to the man,the woman can do many things as man,why need your husband to care your rest time in the life.you work hard and your husband will love you more. [yibamao]
yes all right,men do many things,they are responsiblities,they want to do lots of things,they want to work hard themselves,their wife can enjoy life in the house. [yibamao]
I'm not sure. I think if my kids were very young and we could afford it that I would love to be there with them full time. Once they hit school age tho, I think I'd have to work or volunteer my time or something. [sid556]
Thanks for your reply [apsara60]
It depends on how many kids I have. I do not have any at this time. If I have up to four I will probably still work but if I have five or more I will probably want to stay home at least for awhile to make sure all of my children recieve adequate care and love. [runner0369]
happyI agree with you. Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
I would definately be a housewife,because i think it's important to give attention to my children.To be there for them when they come home from school. I don't mind cooking and i don't mind doing the household.I think i would feel also much more free than having a job. But we'll see about that in the future.First i have to find a hubby. [eyewitness]
My feelings are very much like yours and fortunately when my children were small, I never had to work. I did give them full attention and I am happy and so will be you because......children are our happiness and making them happy is like making ourselves happy..........thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
Well my hubby isnt rich but he has a pretty good job and so I am just a housewife! But I dont sit at home, I work very hard looking after my hubby and our 4 children, getting them to school on time etc. I would love to work, but to pay for 3 children to be looked after would probably cost more than I could ever earn and then there is all the sicknesses that kids get, I would be sacked within a month through being off with them! [gemini_rose]
Looking after hubby, 4 kids and the whole house responsibilities, this job is much more tiring and your family should appreciate you for your hard work.....If you will go out to work, your family will suffer.......you better be with you kids and be happy with them.........thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
All women are not the same. Some would enjoy it a lot others would have to go look for things they could do whether they got paid or not. Some children are better off if they are sent to take classes of some sort or other because they have too much energy to just stay around the house all day. [lotterylover]
hi there, All women are free to take decision of their choice. If women have everything an yet they willingly want to work, as they are very energetic, then they can surely choose to be working ladies. We all are working ladies.....but it depends how much capacity we have. Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
If I had servants to do all the house work, there might not be much left for me to do. As much as I loved being a mother, there are times when I need a break. I don't think I could do 24-7 and not have any outside contact. I would choose to work just to have a diversion. I would need a balance between my children and me.. for my own mental health. How could I be a good mom if I did not take care of me too? So work wins out..at least part time anyway. [OreoCookie3]
yes I agree with you . Every women has full right to take care of herself and this should be her first priority. Thanks for your reply. [apsara60]
I would have my own business. That way I can make my own hours and spend time with the children and hubby of course. Could not sit at home all day since there are maids keeping the house nice and clean. Nothing to do, LOL [sergeantrom]
I wish you luck for your own business.......wish we all could think like your.rolleyes [apsara60]
I think in that situation I would still want to work even parttime as I am not just a mother but also a person I am not just a wife I am somebody I would need that valuation despite all my hubbys money maybe because of it in fact. I think that children who have a mother who has also been in the workplace come to think more of her if she has also been there for them when they needed her, than if she had stayed home all day long. They would see her as a whole person. If I worked part time it would be so I would be home when the children came home from school that way I would have the best of both worlds. [Hatley]
Here in Canada you do not need a rich husband to be a housewife. And we do not have servants to do the housework, nor do we have all the money to spend. So when you are a housewife you are that way because you know how to manage money and we have to do the work ourselves. When we work outside the home, then we have to pay for someone to take care of the children. It sort of balances itself out. I am a housewife, been there since a few months after our marriage, and I can do things quite well. And my husband was a heavy duty mechanic for a railway company and he was far from rich. You might say we are middle middle class. [suspenseful]
If it were a perfect world, I would LOVE to be a stay at home mom / housewife. I enjoy the tasks of being a housewife. Since we don't have the kind of money for me to stay home, I do have to work and it gets tiresome at times. I'm still pretty young though (21), so I am hoping that eventually our jobs will get better and we will be able to save money and allow me to stay home. I would agree with someone else who said that it would also be dependent upon the age range, because if I were older and my kids were grown I would have to say that I might enjoy working just as a hobby or an activity so that I could do something. By then the house wouldn't need nearly as much cleaning and cooking dinner and washing dishes isn't that hard of a task. [CherBear04]
If I had a rich husband and could afford to, I would stay home. I only work part time and have two kids in elementary school. I am lucky to only have to work part time and grateful for it. I don't think I could keep up if I worked full time. I can barely keep up now. I do however, think it is harder to stay at home with the kids if you do it the right way; I think it is easier to go out and work if there is not the responsibility of children when you get home. [lolalolacherrycola]
Well, a working housewife maybe.,I mean work at home, I could use my graphic design ability or learn to do forex trading. I mean, it's good if a husband can provide everything to his family, but I never want to be too depending to anyone, you never know what could happen you know. I always want to have my own money and savings. [ucancallmedissy]
Hi apsara i am male and sure agree with u then women should only work if they have neccsity to do it either financial or have so much spare time to kill otherwise enjoy the liberty Take care [cupid74]
Before my child was born, I was a fulltime career woman. Now I am a stay at home mom and a housewife and I love it. I wouldn't change it for the world. We aren't rich by any means so i don't have any maids or anything like that. But I still love it. [shannon76]
Excellent decision dear, you are the key of happiness of your family. Your hubby and children are lucky to have you. Neither do I have any maids nor are we very rich dear..but life goes on..........thanks a lot for your reply. [apsara60]
Oh yea! i would LOVE to be a stay at home mom i was all last year and the only thing i didnt like about it was no Taxes .lol but if i had a rich husband i wouldnt have to wrry about that. i would anyday of the year choose to be a stay at home mom rather then a wokring mom. [xXxMikesWifeyxXx]
I think it's better to become a working women but you have to bear in mind that your priority is your family. Working women because in my point of view you can develop much self confidence if you are also doing something else aside from household work/taking care of the children (it's a worthy task) and you'll be able to meet people and learn new things. You will never feel insecure because you know you're value. I'm not saying that plain housewife are always insecure and they don't have self confidence but in some time of their lives I'm sure they will feel it. I salute all women in the world, housewife or working women.. I'm sure they're doing their part with all their heart. but I still prepare to become a working women if I'll get a chance to have my own family. [jhoana_joey]
To be a housewife, you need to do the cores and babysit yourself, which is not really an easy job As a working women, you handle stress in worksite, but you will spend more time and attention on your attire and dressing, as a working women you need to be presentable to the public Usually those women who choosed to be housewife will not care much about their image as their children has became the center of their life. weigh the benefits and disadvantages of both options and choose the best for yourself good luck [blazingkidz]
My wife is graduate but chose not to work as she is happy as a housewife.There cannot be a definite answer to your discussion.It all depends on the necessity ,availability of good job,good boss,good ambiance of the work place and a lot of factors. Many of my middle class friends don't work whereas some of my very rich women friends go to work. [balasri]
Very Pertinent Post! I believe it is really difficult for women to handle both the fronts, office and their home together. A working woman always remain on her toes to get the things done. Untill and unless her partner is going to help her in her house-hold affairs, the married life does not run smoothly. Being a woman, she is also suppose to look after kids, since they are born. Such is the mother and kids relationship that kids naturally attached more to their mothers and approach her for their every need instead of their fathers. She is supposed to look after her house, kitchen, kids, husband and office, if she is a working woman. All the responsibilities when added together take a heavy toll on her. Except few jobs, which take less of her time for example 'Teacher', it really becomes cumbersome to handle all the fronts. Given the choice, I would like to have a house-maker, instead of a working woman. [dpk262006]
Hello! The question of which is better..housewives or working women is all really just a matter of opinion. The term housewife to me is so outdated and I myself prefer "Domestic Diva"! I myself have been at home with my children since they were born, ages 2 and 5. My husband and I wouldn't have it any other way. We have actually considered the idea of me going back to work, but we would actually lose money in doing so. By the time you pay for child care and gas money, you are lucky to have much of your paycheck left so essentially you are just paying someone else to raise your children. I consider myself very fortunate to be able to stay home with my children and wish that more women out there could do it, but I do know that is not possible for some. I do have total respect for women that do work outside the home as well as care for the home and children, it has to be exausting and I know I couldn't do that. I also read some of the other comments here about housewives not having a place in the world (sorry I don't recall the exact words used). If you were to add up all the salaries for the various things housewives do, we would be extremely wealthy!! I hope I didn't offend anyone in any way with anything that I said, as that was definitely not my intention. So I guess to sum up my essay here..lol...money isn't everything and can never buy the love and happiness of children and being with them, all the servants in the world could never take care of your household as good as yourself (everyone has different standards), and it is ultimately the decision of the woman along with her spouse as to work outside the home or to stay at home! [BabyBoys0205]
It's the 21st century already, and that men empowerment is no longer existing... Women should not be just content of staying at home and doing the household chores. We should be going out and participating the activities that this world has to offer us. [Janjie]
I was a stay at home mom a domestic engineer. Our country has down trodden the role of homemaker for hundreds of years. They freed the slaves but they still have no place any value on the homemaker. We work 24/7. By that I mean we sometimes get snatches of sleep. We work when we are sick. We don't get coffee breaks and we don't get paid for any of our time and long hours doing the myrid jobs other women get paid to do. Cooking, Housemaid, Laundress, Tutor/Teacher, Nurse, Secretary/Receptionest. Animal trainer and feeder. Plumber, Chauffer, Baker, Seamstress and many others. We do NOT have EQUAL rights. Why should a woman be forced by society, and government and made to feel unworthy unless she goes out and gets a job outside the home. How much do they really gain. Lets see. One more car to insure, gas,upkeep, maintance, Licenses and fees. Daycare fees and less much less time spent with the kids. Cell phone cost, Uniforms or other attire and clothing. Another lunch to fix or buy. Make up and hair care. Where is the savings the extra income? Why? Someone needs to be home with the kids. One young woman on here differs. Let me tell you young lady if you did not care your the exception. 95% of kids would prefer mom or dad one of them to BE AT HOME. Too many latch key kids. To much time on their hands, leads to anger, lonliness, drugs, alcohol abuse, sex way too young, gangs and a lot of other things. As to it being Godly and Biblical it is to a point. God in his bible said women especially young wome should be keepers of the home, stay home raise the kids. However the bible also talks of the proverbial woman she had a buisness, she considered buy fields. She did take care of her home. There was Queen Esther, Debra a judge, Ruth who worked in the fields and Lydia seller of purple. But they also were home. They had buisness from the home and were there with their children. As to having a rich husband that is not what it is about. It is about love, making do, doing without until you can afford it. Cut up the credit cards and save for what you want and buy what you need. My husband got hurt on the job in 1985. He cannot work full time. He works part time. I don't work. I have disabilititys too. We juggle, we do without, we save, we sell scrapmetal and aluminum cans and make things to sell on ebay or flea markets and we pray. But we have love and God provides. I am a stay at home grandmother now. My daughter works she likes to work. Her hubby works too. Sometimes they are both working. When they do I care for the six children. I am there for them and they are loved and know it. Mom and dad know they are safe and cared for and spend weekends, evenings with them. Days off and when one is working and the other not they care for them and I still babysit when some go to town for appointments I watch the others. It is about family and pulling togather and making things work. I went to college and my kids were very upset and angry when I was gone. They were teens. They wanted me home. I did not care for the time and Travel and nothing there appealed more than being with my family. I got two years but did not get a degree. God, then family. First and always. I also care for my disabled 35 year old son who cannot ever work again and summers his two children. I have a job. I do things like write articles for gather. Xomba, 1000 things to do, mylot, and take surveys and sell on ebay and I earn being at home about $4500-$5000 a year. Which helps a lot. [Celanith]
well my husband's definitely not rich, but he makes enough for me to stay home with our 3 young children, we just don't trust the daycare system here in the u.s. nor do we trust strangers and we don't have close family close by. so we budget our money, and manage for me to stay home, in fact i'm going to school online and my husband is going to training once a week so we can both make more money in the future when our kids are all in school. [mgmagana]
i like to be an working woman still. how rich i might be, i like to earn myself and not just sit back at home. i think while i am educated enough ,why should i ruin my career? i will be working. [subha12]
Honestly, ive been at both sides. I was married to a man who has more than enough to not make me work. I did try enrolling at classes that I consider my passions like fashion design, etc. However, there are really times youll be bored especially if youre used to working.I have respect for my aunts who chose to stay at home and rear their children since satisfaction is relative. we define what satisfies us and we choose that. I remarried and ahve a hubby who doesnt earn much but Im happier!!!Now, Im a working mom pursuing mg graduate studies. Im trying to balance things and not feel guilty of the things I cant just do. At least when I go home, my children respects my choices and I try to spend happy weekends with them. [malounicart]
I think it is better whatever a woman likes more...i wanted to be a woman in career...but i fell in love with someone that needs all of my time and cares because of tehir health and that is not bothering me...if one is in love any kind of life works...in teh case you mentioned i would prefer to stay home and take care of the kids instead of going to work and leaving them up to others to take care of them... [JoMarch]
If my husband made enough money that I could afford it, I would love not to have to work outside the home. It would give me more time to spend with my son, and it would also give me more time for things like my writing. Also, if I had the money, I would probably do more volunteer work than I do now, so I suppose really I would still be working outside the home some... just not for money. :) [lecanis]
This jaded woman want to call it quits if possible. If I am ever in the position that I do not have to worry about bills or where my next meal is coming from, I would want to be a stay home mom. I want to be with my kids as much as possible, give them all the attention they require, ferry them about. Even with maids to do everything in the house, I would be the one to prepare breakfast for my family. My ultimate daydream, me and my husband fetching our kids from school, stopping in the park to get ice cream and a couple of rides on the swing. [catmint]
I work from home for many reasons, the most important of them being with my children. Even if I were not able to work from home, and even without a rich partner, I'd prefer to be at home with my children even if it meant sacrificing some material things. Childhood is over in the blink of an eye- I have a 19 year old too, so I know how fast that time went; I wouldn't miss it for anything. [eden32]
If I had the money I definitely wouldn't mind staying at home. There is always something I can find to do -- from watching TV or Surfing the internet to walking the Dogs or cooking something I love. I think I might get bored every now and then, but that's okay -- that's why I have friends. I could also have some children. ;) I think there is nothing wrong with staying at home. If I could stay home, I SURELY WOULD!! Boy, I'd love to win the lotto. *SIGH* [Bethany1202]
In this particular scenerio I would get a part time job. If I had servants and such, and my kids are in school part or all of the day, I would have to have something to do. I am not the type to sit around doing nothing or socializing with a bunch of other bored women. Nor am I someone who can spend the day in the gym or playing tennis. I need my mind to keep busy and with my husband at work and my kids at school I would go crazy with nothing to do all day. [sageivyberyl]
I am currently working on starting my own home based business because I want to be able to be a housewife and still work. I feel that this is the best way for me to have the best of both worlds. I do have a regular job that pays me a steady paycheck while I build my home based business. My husband works outside the home and we both make the same wages per hour. I do have a 13 year old daughter so I don't have small children to spend time with but I feel it's just as important to spend time with her. Sometimes the teenage years can be some of the most difficult times to deal with children. At those times it's a blessing if you can be a stay at home mom. So, being able to provide for the family with money and time is my goal. [ArbonneLady]
In that particular situation, apsara, I would choose to stay home and raise my children because I see so many children who are growing up without proper care. I would never like the idea of leaving my children's upbringing to someone else. Besides, you miss out on so much if you're not a stay-at-home mom. If I chose to work it would only be after they were in school. [worldwise1]
Hello apsara I am very old school, old fashioned when it comes to this and I say stay at home is best, but I would like to be free to work part time if I wish...doing something worthwhile for myself. I also believe a housewife should also have a very good plan as detailed here: http://www.ehow.com/how_2094481_be-a-housewife.html Hope this link works good.:)(((aspara)))xoxoox [TheHairDresser]
I don't think either one is better over the other. It totally depends on the person. For some women sitting at home and enjoying their life when their husband works hard to make the money, might drive them crazy. And some working women...might actually enjoy being home and looking after the family if they could afford to. Personally, for me, I would prefer to be home when the kids are younger....but as they start full time school, I would want to do something....not necessarily a job that earns me money...but anything constructive. I don't have much to do the whole day at home. Without the kids, my work gets done quicker...and I free most of the day. In the scenario you mentioned, I would love to go out and work for myself without looking at the financial aspect. [SViswan]
if my husband can very well provide for us, i think i would prefer to be a housewife and watch over our kids and take care of them and him. happy i think it wouldn't be practical if i work too since whatever he is earning is more than what we need. however, i would definitely engage in some social activities like charity works, or sports-related activities, or neighborhood activities or anything worthy of my free time that can contribute to my self-development and that can make me be a better member of the community. so that when our children are all grown-ups and i don't have to take care of them, i still have some good things which i can be busy about aside from taking care of my hubby. happy [secretbear]
Dearest D, Firstly, this is a very nice topic of discussion. Now me personally think it has to do more with the mental makeup of the person concerned. I truly feel that unless out of compulsion some women would not work ever and some would do it irrespective of it. I hope you got my point right. More than anything else I work for having a freedom from my narrow confines. It could be the vast inspiration outside, it could be the incessant knowledge or it could be the level of monetary comfort. Now the priority keeps changing but then that's other story altogether. Everything is important. Most work to keep themselves constructively engaged and happy thus. Apsara, you said that you would like to be a happy, relaxed house wife without the drudgeries of it all. But, I am sure you would get bored and unhappy soon. We all need things to keep ourselves going. You would rather write poetry, which would make you happy, isn't it? May be publish a book soon thereafter. My point is you still be working, working from home. So, without work we can never get going in life and people who do they are mere vegetable. You take care D. happy [mimpi1911]
I think i can handle both.Perhaps i could adjust my schedule working at the same time taking care of my family so when they grow up and can take care of themself by then i can again adjust my time of working or i can have my own business so i can take care of my family at the same time doing my business. [giePortlandOR_08]
Your idea is correct. In such situation, a lady need not go for paid employment. Any slight irritation in the office will hurt her. On the otherhand, she can spend her free time in social service-visiting orphanages, old age homes, hospitals, and consoling the people there, etc.There are many areas, and many needy people who need our approach. [prasadjain]
So would i Apsara and i think so will alot of women..If you are fortunate to be in this situation you will be foolish to argue it...aslong as its a mutual happy choice then all is well, I do believe women dont have the choice to bring there kids up like they use to as expense is much higher....so working is a must not a choice. [yasmin02476]
This is another one of those questions that is hard for me to answer because I don't have kids. I guess that if I did I would probably stay home and be a housewife, although I might get kind of bored at times. I would have to do some sort of volunteer work or nurture some of my hobbies. [cortney09]
Hi LOl i work school and care for the kids. Although my boyfriend pays all the bills I just thin I need to work. I have no trouble with that and he does not encourage staying at home. he's strongly encouraging me to get PHD. He said it is because he did not have a sponsor to get him going and now he see me as part of him and since I'm still a t school I need to get that. how ever he does not force me in to it just encouragements. I still work and it is hard but I'm use to it [SONIA12MAN]
hello, apsara.iam men.i think working women is better because if the women be a house wife she will be bored and if the husband has given divers to women she can live without fear. [salimbasha]
Whether he will be rich or not, I still prefer to be a housewife and a stay-at-home mom. My mom worked and we were left with nannies, so growing up mom and I weren't close. Well, I do commend my mom for working hard for us, but then, I also experienced not having help with my homeworks, I cannot talk to her when she got home from work because she's tired, so on, so forth. I didn't want that to happen to any of my future kids. Relationships are important to me more than anything. [janujennifer]