Whih one do you prefer? To be a housewife or prefer a career woman? Many woman do like to work nowadays for many reasons. I did work years ago when I am single, but I quited few months after I had a bf that turned to be my hubby 6 years ago. He wanted me to help him with his bakery. But after I gave birth, I become housewife. I want to say that I like working too but that doesnt mean I dont like to babysit my boy. Babysit and seeing my baby grow up is the best thing I want right now. Besides now I dont have to attached by the time. I go wherever and do whatever I want without have to wait until day off.
[question posted by viollet_ry]
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I am a house wife and I love it. I used to work full time and I was always tired and the house was always a mess and my husband is no good at cooking or cleaning or any of that so he needs a house wife. :) [Nykkee]
Ok, I don't want to insult your wife in any way as she is not even participating in this discussion, so I will say there are many things about teaching that can be stressful, however, teachers get to sit alot. Every job I ever had was 8 solid hours standing, service, housekeeping, fast food, labour, at the last one I had to wear steel-toed shoes and lift large heavy objects all day long. I am 5 feet tall I weight about 100 lbs. 2 doctors, a chriropractor, a massage therapist, and my husband told me to quit repeatedly before I actually did. At home, I clean the house, do the laundry, care for our pets, run errands, handle all household matters such as bills, taxes, banking, etc, keep track of the events such as birthdays etc. occuring in both my family and my husbands large family and make sure that we have Gifts and cards ready, I repair my husbands clothing which he damages almost daily at work, I care for our front and back yards, I do minor home repairs (he enjoys doing the big ones, he likes his tools), I cook and bake all of the food eaten in my house, I prepare lunches for my husband to eat at work, I search out recipies and information tohelpmyhusbandwith his bodybuilding or anyhting he is doing at the time, I find Coupons and deals to make the things we buy more affordable and save a significant $ each week, and I do things online to make extra $ when I can find the time. I am sure I have left something out of generalized something too much there but anyhow, I would like to see you work full time at an airplane production plant dragging around 100lb+ objects all day wearing steel toed boots and then come home and do all the things listed about, everyday. My husband and I are living the life we both want. Hypocritical, overly opinionated people that only find joy in crapping on others are one of the things we try to avoid in our lives. [Nykkee]
I like to call it a homemaker, not a housewife. lol Just makes me feel better about it. Just thought I would make that point. lol Anyway, I like being a homemaker. I enjoy staying home with my son and watching him grow up. I don't want to have to send him to a babysitter all of the time while I work. I would rather be the one who is there with him. I'm sure when he gets older, I'll probably be bored and want to get a job but for now, I love what I do. [jnallen_487]
I hate the term "homemaker" too. When my wife and I got married, we had to declare our occupations. Seeing as how she had just graduated from college and hadn't get gotten a job teaching, she said she was currently unemployed and they assigned her the role of "homemaker" I thought she would leap across the counter and strangle the woman putting it in. Homemaker is such a degrading 1950's term, in my opinion. Besides, you're not a "homemaker" or a "housewife" you're a stay at home mom. The difference is you have a human being to take care of. A housewife basically just keeps the house clean and cooks, but what does she do with the rest of her day? Wives who stay home and don't even have kids yet created the stigma that women who stay at home sit around "watching soap operas and eating bon bons", but being a stay at home mom is a 24/7 job. [hob684]
I am a retired housewife and like it like that really...I miss my job - exotic dancer - the way it was yrs ago but the industry has gone heavily downhill over the yrs so I ended up retiring in 1998 then I owned my own business for 2 yrs but gave up that...now I just like being a SAHM..Mind you I started working (had to) when I was 13 yrs old so I figure I've put in my time in the working world ya know. LOL [Ravenladyj]
You have got so many experinces being a career woman. Well I can say being an exotic dancer is not easy. [viollet_ry]
I am a working woman and some days wish I wasn't but then again if I was a housewife I would want to work. I am childless so I don't worry about kids it is just me and my hubby. [whywiki]
I think its better to work if we are still childless. I will do so too if I am childless. Its better than sitting doing nothing. [viollet_ry]
I guess both roles has advantages and disadvantages. Having a career will allow a wife to bring in a 2nd income into the home but that will mean time away from family. No career means less money but more time with family. I used to work before I was married. Now, I'm a stay-at-home mom to our 2 year old son and I'm loving every minute of it. I do miss having a career sometimes but nothing can replace the time I get to spend with my child. [Married2aMarine]
That is absolutely true. I can miss that too. But knowing that family is more important thing to spend our time with, makes me stay home more often. Besides I can go anywhere or taking my boy out whenever we want withouth have to wait till weekend time [viollet_ry]
I would love to have the opportunity to work from home and balance homemaking with my small business, research and other interests, but I'm the main wage earner in the household and I think we would not be able to pay the mortgage and bills if I gave up work. I think the cost of living is much higher than it was when our mother's were young women, and its much harder now to justify working from the home unless its bringing in a decent wage, and thats even with being very frugal. [nancygibson]
Thats a great idea thinking of that. We can get both being a career woman while we can still manage our home life at once [viollet_ry]
I enjoy being a stay at home mom. I like being here for my sons and husband when they get home from school, or in case they need something. I like being able to keep my house cleaned up. I haven't worked since I had my oldest over 8 years ago. I'm content and so is my husband. He likes me being at home. We get to spend time together, plus if something comes up I can run errands or take him something if he forgets it. I do admit, though, that sometimes I'd love to have 5 minutes to myself. My husband and kids even go to the grocery store and doctor with me. I can hide in the bathroom sometimes, but that doesn't always work. lol Sometimes I go stir crazy, as well, if I haven't had to go anywhere for a few days. I'll make up an errand just to get out of the house. 98% of the time, though, I enjoy being home for my family. [lisado]
I can see you have a nice and caring family. And that is a good thing that you and your family can still go anywhere together. Thats owesome I can say. Yes, you are right. Spending some time outside sometimes is needed. I do the same thing, especially I feel bored and got something stuck in my mind. By going out make us relax. Thanks for sharing... [viollet_ry]
I don't call Housewife but Domestic Engineer Sounds much more like a Career LOL You are lucky and fortunate to be able to stay home with your son. I wished I could have done so. I had no option but to work and earn income. So we could make ends meet and have money for the kids. I raised 3 sons. Going to a baby sitter never hurt them in the least Although I know I missed a lot of things when they were younger. Keep up the good work and Bless you for being able to do that Wendy [wenfri]
I bet you want to spend a lot of time with you kids so much. Sometimes the situation and condition do make us cant do what we want. You can spend your time with them on weekend still. Hope everything will get better for you. [viollet_ry]
To be honest I don't know which one to choose because I enjoy being home with the kids but I think I need a break sometimes from it all. I kind of miss get dressed and going out to face the corporate world. But I think I'm going back part time. My kids are all at scholls age level now. I just want to be here when they come home from school. So I don't think the housewife is for me. I jave no problem with still doing my wifey duties like clean and cook. [hardworkingmom]
Doing nothing at free time make us bored sometimes. Why dont you find a part time job like you say. An also you can find work that can be done at home. So you will get both of it. [viollet_ry]
I think everyone has their own idea of what they should be in life. I am a stay at home mom and I think it is the best way for me. I love to be able to raise my kids, but it isnt easy raising kids on one income either. I understand both sides. [happythoughts]
Being a home mom is not a bad thing. And I am sure raising and babysit a child is the toughest to do. [viollet_ry]
I was in the dental field for over 14 years and because of such a hectic schedule and spending so much time away from my family I decided to stop working out side of the home. I have been at home for the past 2 years and I have to say I love it. I am a military wife and have children and it's wonderful to have the freedom to volunteer at school or be involved in church, community, and other activities. About a year ago I did start to miss the hustle and bustle of a career woman so what I decided to do was start a virtual assisting business from my home. It has been awesome to work when I want and still be able to put my family first. I highly recommend moms to look into a work at home career. It's probably been one of the best decisions I have made thus far. [espiritu]
I agree with you too. We can still watch our babies growing while we too can work. [viollet_ry]
I have been a stay at home mom for almost 14 years.....and well while it is rewarding it is tough and has its downfalls. The days I have migraines so bad htat it hurts to blink are days that my kids take advantage of me. It would be nice to have the extra income, however I have to say that I would pay more in child care costs and daycare costs having special need children. The pay to being a stay at home mom stinks, but the benefits outweigh that of what any company could ever give me. Mooch [oneandonemakesix]
Btw the idea of giving name of housewife is kinda brilliant. Family manager... I like the idea you give to make a housewife to become a nice position. [viollet_ry]
Hi ya I'm both. I am a stay at home mom and housewife but I also sell Avon!! As well as watch kids and sell stuff on ebay etc etc. So I bring in some money too. [MzTiffany06]
That sounds great. There are so many housewife who have done work like that. [viollet_ry]
I have to work in order to help pay the bills. However, I would love to just be a housewife and mother. I home school my children and work outside of the home about 30 hours per week. I also help my husband with his new company that he is trying to start by keeping up with his paperwork and entering stuff into the computer for him. Maybe some day, I will get to stay home. [carolscash]
I am sure you are kinda tired there. But you are a tough woman who can work, be a housewife and still can help you hubby with his work. I hope you can be with you kids all day like you want [viollet_ry]
I would so love to be a stay at home mom but now a days who can afford it? Maybe if I ever won the lottery then I would consider it lol [djbizmonkey34]
That is kinda difficult wish to get lol. But who knows, maybe one day you will win a lottery. Wish you luck.... [viollet_ry]
I had to work mostly because I had to, but I also enjoyed working. It took me a very long time to not identify myself with my job. I have been a stay at home mom and became very bored and complacent. I have found a happy medium by working part time, on the hours that are good for me. I can send my daughter off to school and be home for her when she gets out of school. She is older and doesn't require as much one on one attention as a smaller child does. [mamasan34]
Yeah, it is very nice that I can manage to do both at the same time. I am very fortunate! [mamasan34]
I would really rather choose to become a career woman rather than housewife. Of course I really want to pursue my career as 3D animator and I want to see my child on how to work hard and earn something. I don't want to stay at home or else it might be bad for me since there could be a possibility that I could be a home sick. I had this feeling that if I am gonna be a housewife well I am gonna be depressed. I want to see myself also helping the family. I believe that both of us wife and husband must pursue a career and work hard for the family. [Power_of_Angel]
Hope you can be a successful career woman. Good luck.... [viollet_ry]
I am a stay at home mom now but I also was in the working field up to about four years ago. My kids are all teenagers and I felt that I needed to keep an eye on them more now then when they were little. I love it and wouldn't change it for the world. [bearfan]
Teenagers need more attentions from their parents than they were smaller. This is the toughest time to get thru I can say. [viollet_ry]
whenever someone asks me if i'll be a housewife or a career woman, i would always say career woman. well, i wouldn't labor for more than four years in college just to let it all go to waste. i excell in my academics, and it's something that i'm really proud of. and i want to get a nice-paying job when i graduate. but having read your discussion. i suddenly thought it over.. and i realized that being a housewife is not at all what i thought it would be. you shed some new light into my perspective. thank you so much.. i might actually consider it now because i also want to see my children grow up. i want to be there when they first walk and talk. [mesmerized]
Thats great mesmerized. Being carrer woman is good but being a housewife is also interesting position in family. It has its own speciality. I am glad that you can see that seeing your children grow is such a special experince in your life, as you can see there a lot of women too enjoy their parts being a housewife, the family manager.... Hope you will have your own experiences being a housemom... [viollet_ry]
I am a career woman. In fact I like to be a housewife, because it's a heavy working pressure once you have to work. However, double income is much more important. I want my child to have a better life, so I have to work hard. When I am home, I like to play with him. So I try to balance my work and life well. I want to have family time whenever I don't have to work. That's my happy time. [youless]
Thats nice youless. You are a great mother. And yes every parents want the best for their kids. Thanks for the response. [viollet_ry]
As a guy, I would prefer a career woman. there is nothing sexier then to see a woman in office clothes. I mean, society is evolving. WE are evolving. We cant just expect women to play the role of housewives and child bearers. I dont mind having an equal to contribute to the family instead of being given the role as the sole breadwinner [vampoet]
That mean you will have a career woman as a wife and that you will let you wife to stay working instead of staying at home :D But stay away from starring women in ofice clothes... :P [viollet_ry]
I stay at home with our son and I love it. I also keep two other little boys in my home to make a little extra money. But they are so good I really have it easy. I can take them and go to the park or take them out to lunch, etc.... And I really like it. I used to work and I liked working but it's really nice when you can be at home and be able to do laundry, cook, clean, etc... whenever you need to. [sweetgirl_k1]
That is a nice thought. Thanks :D [viollet_ry]
It is wonderful to be a full time housewife, but it always depends upon the person what she really wants to be. Others find fulfillment in either way. For me, I want to work as a housewife but I also want to have something to work with during my free time to boost my self steem,to keep my mind active, and to prove to that I still have worth outside my family. [kate635]
That is such a nice thing to think of... [viollet_ry]
I am a housewife and would want it any other way, I take care of our house and our child. I do plan on getting a job delivering papers as soon as I get my drivers licence but that would be really early in the morning before my husband and so wake up and its only until my hsband joins the police academy. I would love to have a career as a child psycologist but thats not until our child and future children are atleast in middle school. [tattooedcrafter]
Well, you can find some work that can be done at home until you get your career as a child psycologist.... [viollet_ry]
i prefer to be a career woman. i am educating myself to be one. i can not imagine myself as a housewife i guess. i would fell like i am missing something. i would bored i guess. i think of it that not everybody can be a housewife, you have to have the right character. i don't have it. [alnilam]
You're not a housewife, you're a stay at home mom. BIG difference. I don't like when women are JUST housewives. They don't have kids, yet they don't work. I think that's really lazy. Unless you have kids, I really think there's no reason to stay at home. What do they do all day long!?! It doesn't take all day to wash a few clothes, keep the house tidy, and cook dinner. I have a full time job and do all that stuff too. [mkirby624]
Yes, you were right that you do not need to wait just to take an off, but as you said now a days everybody is facing economic crisis need a work, if I can do both ways I will but I am trying to be a good Mom also even I am working now. [cherylal]
i just got married 4months ago and ive been a house wife since then i wanna try how to be a career wife cause being a house is not easy u ant earn enough money and lonely to be left alone in the house.maybe if i try to be a career wife i can compare which is better to be a housewife or career wife. [ajyukie15]
i dont' want to be a housewife or a career woman. if i have to make a choice, then i will choose housewife. i like working at home, not in an office, and i hate get along with my colleagues. but i like work. and i think a woman should has her own business, although she earn too little. a housewife is too boring for me. i like houseworks, but it doesn't mean i like to be a housewife. when my house is clean and tidy, then i will be in good mood. [wonderful1]
when i was a kid,i was dreaming to be a successful career woman.but now,after i experience how hard i had to struggle in my career life,i really wish oneday i can be live as a housewife. in that case,i don't need go to work 8' clock in the morning every day,off work at 6.i can enjoy my shopping or beauty class,my gym time..... [lisa_wxy]
Hello viollet!(",) I'm not yet married but if someday I will be, I would prefer to be a housewife. I just wanted to be hands-on when it comes to taking care, guiding and disciplining my children to be. I guess, I should have a small business also as not to get bored. Take care! [lani0529]
hi This is good idea for discussions i like more house women. because is like then [jovanovjoce]