Nowadays girls are sit same high with men and what the men do the women also can do it.It is seem like women is more indenpedent nowadys.For me i think that girl should stay at house to be housewife.Because i find if girl go out to work that mean the children will become bad and they will go to cyber cafe and without proper education !! So i think it is important the girl do as housewife and look for children.DO you agree with me? And why you agree/disagree?Please share with me!
[question posted by sabahking]
responses and comments:
no way could i be stuck at home all the time with just children for company it would drive me mad, women have rights too, we have a right to be independant, to have careers and anything else we want in life, i think the only problem men have with this is that they either still living inthe middle ages or cannot handle the compotition [barbie84]
I totally disagree with you all because we always hear that love from mother is the most important things for children.Without that love children cant grow properly.So i think women should prepare to sacrified for their children.We need to back to the traditional times. [sabahking]
i think if i will to marry someone and will ask me to stay home and look for kids all day, i will think twice in marrying the man...i speak for myself, man should respect my independence and that will carry on until marriage... oh by the way accroding to reent statistics on divorce..the rate on divorcing a housewife is higher than working wife... [petiksmode]
Maybe your statistic maybe is correct because when women stay at house there is a lot of chance for men to find another girl.But my opinion is girl should stop work when they have children to give them proper education and take care for them.So that children will love the family . [sabahking]
I will not agree with you sabahking..I believe, women is the "Light of Home"..But For me, i'll become a housewife until my kids grow up and went to elementary stage already..Women, want to go to work in order to help their family in their financial needs..How if your husband is a small earner of money from his job? You can't afford everything to buy for your family needs..Even you are working mother, you have the duty to give time and care to your family specially children..Mother still knows best for their Children.. A very interesting topic. [norman7]
what my idea is what you say in your response.So i think women should stay at house to take care children when they still young.So that children can get enough and with proper family and will not go to smoke or....!! [sabahking]
Hi sabahking, Well is nice if mothers can stay home with their childre while husbands work, but in this day and age sometimes mothers have to work because of the cost of the cost of living is high but mothers wotk part time so when the children are back from school they are there for the children, we don't have cyber cafe so much here as most homes have Computers and the children in the house on the computer so they safe at home. Tamara [tamarafireheart]
So i think other country is better than malaysia.In malaysia there is a lot of cyber cafe i even can see small kid around 7 or 8 year old already play Games in cyber cafe. It is really not good for them and inside cyber there are a lot of peopl who is smoke .i think it is really not good for their grow up. [sabahking]
I disagree with you, I don't think that a woman has to stay at home with the children for the kids to be good. Nowadays there aren't that many men that will really take care of a housewife like they should. I think a lot of women need that independence. Personally I don't ever want to be a housewife. Not to mention the cost of things today, everything is expensive now. The cost is just going up and up. I think that a woman is very capable of going to work and still having time to spend with the children. [o2bnocn]
i think that women can go for part time but is really not suitable for full time job.Because when children back from school who is able to comfirm that they will back home in time and not go to other place.I think it is responsible to parent.So communication between husband and wife is really important. [sabahking]
I don't agree at all. I think it's great that women are becoming more independent. That way, they're able to support themselves if something happens to their husband or they have to leave their husband. It's very good that women aren't required to stay at home and be bound, unconditionally, to a man any more. I know of a lot of families where the men actually are the ones that stay home with the kids! I know a lot of people that have great careers and lead happy lives who were raised by single working mothers. I also know of a lot of people who have a 'traditional' family where the woman stays at home and the kids are hooligans and total brats who get into a lot of trouble. It's not whether you're at home or not; it's whether you actually take the time to talk to your kids and work with them. A parent at home isn't required for that. [fluffnflowers]
I disagree about women being free to do anything. If a woman is at home, she has NO options to do anything but stay at the house. That's not good for the woman or the children. And trust me, if someone is going to give an excuse to not raise their children, they'll find one whether they're home or not all day with them. I think you should do some family studies and see that what you say is a bit backwards. lol Studies, these days, show no increased rate in delinquency in dual income homes as compared to singe income homes. If people stopped having children for show and had them because they actually wanted them and were responsible enough to care for them, you'd eliminate most of the 'bad kid' issues. [fluffnflowers]
in my honest opinion,i really believe that women have a different structure than men.for one,women pay very much attention to details.they do so well at home,and can take care fo the house and home better than men.i am not saying that all men are irresponsible/what i am saying is that women in general are better.for the men,since time began,men have always been the one to go out and work.even in early times,men would do the Hunting for the family to have something to eat.this is why men are built to be more masculine and stronger.however,lots of women nowadays find it a part of life and society to be working.for the others,it is actually the financial hardships that pushes them to work.i have total admiration for these women. [globaldoc2001]
surely then, this attention to detail makes them thorough and organised contributors to the workforce, and capable of doing well in fields like science or Medical work. [Galena]
I think it's not necessary for girls to stay at house and be housewives in order to give good education to their children. It's all depends on how the parents teach the children. Both parents who are working outside do not mean that they can neglect their children's education. Parents should always have good time management on both careers and family. For instance,like me,I was grown up in a family where both my parents are working even now, they can manage their time very well with their jobs and our family. I think it all depends. [yenwie84]
Hi Sabahking, I'm surprised that you would think that if women stay at home as housewives, this will solve the problem of delinquents. Is there any statistics that show a higher percentage of delinquency among children with working mums? I'd be interested to know. Well, if you can earn enough to take care of your wife, the children and all the household expenses, mortgage, education and so on, Then, I suppose your wife can afford to stay home and take care of the children. Most wives work nowadays, as the husband's income alone is not enough. And also, it's your wife's opinion and decision - whether she feels that she can contribute better as a housewife, or as a working person, bringing in more income so that she can provide better care for the children. [lazeebee]
I think it would be nice if women stay at home not only as a housewife but as a mother to the children. The children will be guided properly and their needs will be attended well. I feel empathy for children who grew up with both their parents working. I grew up with my mom at home. I really feel I've been taken cared of well and nurtured properly. I also feel loved that way. In our country, mothers are said to be "lights of the house" for all those things they do. They love, nurture, guide, and care. On the other hand, if a mother is able to do so, she can balance work with family/children. Women also have rights to have careers and attain professional development. Work can give a sense of accomplishment. And, mothers need to work too because they need to provide for their families too. It really depends on the type of household and what a woman prefers to do in her life. [EnslinPorter]
o i think that man and women should not split the job in 50 50 ut both do 100 percent the man and the woman should both cook clean work and takw care of the kids they should do equal Parts :) [XXTYCHABBYXX]
Hi sabahking, I am not in favor of this statement!happy..I have known a lot or parents who are both working yet they have and were able to raise a successful and responsible kids! so, basically it depends on the Parenting they have at home.. I had a landlady before who was a full time housewife yet she can't control her son for hanging out with friends even up to dawn and will leave the house without asking any permission..happy So, it's just really the way these couple raised their kids..No matter how busy they are at work as long as they spend enough time with this kids and teach them with proper values and talk to them everyday about life and experiences..It will help a lot!happy [checapricorn]
I think people, rather it be a man or a woman should do what makes them happy. I have been employed at the same job for nearly two years and was just recently dismissed due to new management. My husband is OK with me sitting at home for the rest of the summer and taking care of the kids (17, 14 and 8). But I am bored with it already and have been job hunting since I was dismissed. [tammytwo]
Not really, just get a nanny and she'll take care of the rest, and it depends on the agreement or interest of the female, if she agreed upon taking care of the child then that's her responsibility, if she wanted to participate in the financial aspect of the family, it's still cool because either one of them can take care of the child or refer to what i said a while ago(nanny). [davidlee7]
Men and women are humans. As humans it is both their duty and right to earn their living. Children belong to both the parents. I don't beleive that a working woman's child become bad.Again going to work and not going to work cannot be made in to a hard and fast rule. My sister lost her husband when her kids were very young.Since she was a working woman it was possible for her to educate them. They are well settled now. Where there is need allow them to work. In some countries men prefer to marry working women. So who are we to agree or diagree about peopeles life? [daffodil1949]
If the wife wants to concentrate on her family it would be fine as long as she chooses it. However if she intends to work and earn as well, she can. I knew some good children who is raised by a working mother. [adoremay]
I'm not married. But if I get a wife, surely I want her to be a good housewife. Wife go to work? Maybe not. I prefer stay at home. Why? There are cruel world out there. Conflicts, stress, crime, problems and much more out there. Then handling housewife job? So tired. I won't give any uncomfortable to my wife as I can. Let me handle the problem. But, if it's come with money problem, then a wife can work. Just not the hard work. [Wolverine85]
I'm all for equal rights, but I'm really tired of all these hardcore feminists who expect to be treated equally and yet they get offended if you walk through a door way before them, or expect to be able to hit a guy but he cannot fight back. I think that they should choose one or the other: chivalry or equal rights. Not both. So yeah, I think it's up to a woman if she wants to work or not. I believe that she should because it's better to have slightly misbehaved kids then to be living on an income which you cannot sustain a family with. Both my parents have worked since I was young and I'm perfectly fine as I am. Plus, it makes the kids more independent. [andrewe99]
honestly, i think its not at all ideal for women especially the married ones to stay at home and become a plain housewife and maybe just take care of her children and do the household chores! women's role is not just as mother or wife, rather, they live as a person same as men, with the right to do what they want to do in life, the right to work, and strengthen their ability and potential in the world of employment and grow through it! women want to have the sense of own identity, well actually all people do irregardless of what your gender is! having a sense of identity drives the women not to be in control by other people even her husband.. women are hoping and looking forward to the fulfillment of their skills, ability and potential as a PERSON and not only as MOTHER to her children OR WIFE to her husband! and one more thing, i don't think its the mother's responsibility alone to take care of the children... both of you are the parents of the children, thus, fathers should also take part and be involved in taking care and parenting of your children! if only the mother will take care more of the children, that might cause a difference on how they'll treat you as their individual parents, as mother and as father! besides, both the mother and father have the unique and important role in the overall development of a child! ...this is just my own view!!! ;) [leizlmarie]
When I first got married I had no idea of staying home and being a housewife and mom. Then I got pregnant with my first child and decided that would be the best thing for my kids until they were in school. When my youngest started full days I went back to work. Now I miss being home so much, but we can't do it on just one income. I think its important for a parent to be with the kids full-time, whether it be the mom or the dad, but many people don't feel the same way. I don't think two working parents will create a bad child. Bad parenting contributes to that. I know plenty of naughty, delinquent kids who had moms at home. Those parents are blind to their child's behaviors, and excuse they way they act and blame others. That is far worse for a child than having two working parents. [earthsong]
I disagree with you. We're moving towards a new era where women are definitely more independent. Having your own source of income doesn't necessarily mean that you're going to be a bad mother. In fact, many business women are also able to juggle in household work. I think if the husband supports his wife by helping to take care of the kids as well, then it's possible for women to have both a career and a good family. Constraining the woman to the house is saying that women are weak and inferior to men. [mimico]
hi friend,i think if girls can find a good way to do the jobs,not only they can be independent in economy,but also they can take a good care of the children.Like we are doing now on mylot.If the girls can do some jobs on internet at home.don't you think it is a good idea? I think man and women is equal.But As women,i think taking care of children is better than men.so women always take the responsibilities of taking good care children,But except this, if you still have free time,why not surf online to making some eztra money.lol good luckhappy [successlog]
Dear friend, I do not hope girls are only to in house to stay at house but there are talented girls or girls with just a small push could go high. I hope there are also good husbands who can look after the home and childerns better than women too. Hence I feel women are much capable to do more other works are men used to do and men are also capable to do much of women works were women were used to. I except breast feeding men could hand a baby as women could. It all depends how well a men could behave to a child and how well a women capable to handle other works.lol [SHAMRACK]
i disagree. I'm actually a mom. I just gave birth to my son 2 months ago, i'm still staying at home now. but only because i dont have anyone that can take care of him for me, or else i would've been working already. I think having my own career is very important, even if i Am a mom. being out there in the world can show me lots of different things, and i can learn alot. I think learning more things thats going out in the society can help me communicate with my son better later on when he gets older. and also have more knowledge about things thats going on out there. and i think as long as we communicate with our kids better, and be friends with them, instead of annoying parents that yells at them for everything, then they will love to hang around the house, and stay away from trouble. [berthacai092]
Men and women now a days are equal. Having a family now is very hard if only one just work the husband. It's a case to case basis if maybe the man can provide the family well maybe the woman can stay at home and just be a house wife. But what if the husband can't really give her family sufficient life. Women works also cause to help his husband and give a nice future for their children. Now a days you think how everything ends meet and how to survive life cause the cost of living is not the same like before, everything is costly and expensive. Have a nice day! [n30wing]
No i don't think that girl should be stayed at home as housewife..they have the equal to right to go out of the home on work and earn money..girls should also be self-dependent rather than depending on their husbands or family.. [Ricky007]
yeah, u are right! there are some arabian countries whic doesn't allows girls to move out of house..we can't do anything coz its their law and we can't change the law of those countries. [Ricky007]
I do not think women should have to stay at home and be a housewife. first of all, she may be the one with more earning power than her partner, be more capable of a higher paying job. she may enjoy working more than her partner does. or they may need both incomes to live comfortably, as is often the case these days. children will not be more likely to become bad or miss school. there may not even be any children. marriage does not necessarily mean a couple want children. I'm marrying next year, and I never want to have children. men and women are equally capable of working and equally capable of looking after children, if they decide to have children. I think that if we go around defining our roles by what we have between our legs, we're castrating the human soul, which is something that cannot be defined by male or female. [Galena]
I think the concern that a skilled parent be there for the children is a valid one, and mothers often have better understanding of human nature and children than many fathers do. If a father was a skilled a parent I think he could be the one to be there for the young kids. Being a stay-at-home mom (or dad), though, is a separate thing from being a "housewife". Mothers can stay home before the children go to school, and they can do things like work part-time or from home once the children are in school for full days. Before women have children, and once the children are in school and properly supervised after school, or else grown, that's a different thing. When women have careers and small children, though, they can often find excellent care for the children; and not all children of working women become "bad". In fact, sometimes the lifestyle that a professional mother (and her income) offers children can be affect children positively. Children with a professional mother may be more likely to attend college (and higher) and become professionals themselves. Although a high socio-economic level doesn't guarantee anything, in the US it is usually those of higher income families who are less likely to become "bad" than those children of uneducated, low-income, families (in general - there are a lot of kids from low income families who have strong mothers and present fathers and turn out fine). [LisaHW]
Yes! I do agree with you that women should stay at house and be a housewife... for the betterment of the children.... But once they grow up... i dont feel there is any harm... for women to go out for work... She has her rights and should be given to choose what she wants...happyhappyhappy [venkygec]
Each one is different. This is not a black and white world, more many shades of grey. If one feels she want's to be a housewife, then that is the right thing to do for her. For one who despises the idea of being a housewife to support the hubby, then that is clearly not for you. There is no right and wrong here, it is a matter of what is right for you. Cheers Frank [fmuldowney]
Well., I am not old fashioned, and as I dont have kids, I certainly do not wish to be a housewife without someone who shares the choirs involved. If I choose to be a career person then I will share both roles. Like some said before each persons version is different. [susanne1mc]
In our country it really a big help if the wife will also have a job. Now a days poverty force many wives to find also a job to help thirr husband. It is because husband's sallary is not enough to sustain family needs. Specially when a family has many childrens. [reckon21]
Before when i was working my decision is to stay working if i had a baby. Now that i had a son i realized that the mother should stay in the house to take care of the baby. The children need all the love and care of both parents. Since the father is working. It's up to the mother to take care of the young ones. It's just my opinion based on my experienced. raspblink lol [lyzabelle]
First, i am a girl.I do not agree with you .Looking after children is not the job only for girls.A family should be taken care by all members. Stay at home is not just for girls,nowadays,there are many "houseman" ,husband stay at home ,take care about child,do housework,wife go out to work.Women should not be limited at home.Man also have the obligation to look after children. [LarienOB]
I think it is up to the girl if they can afford it or not is the first thing they need to look at then if she can be at home all day long with the kids and give up her life as a worker. Its hard at times to stay home all day long with the kids. Think about it when you get home sometimes your kids drive you nuts. They are so full of entergy and you just want to relax b/c you just got home from work. Then think about all that entergy happening all day long. As far as their education since both parents are working there are many good daycares out there that will also teach the kids besides just watching them. [mflower2053]
I do think it is better if the girl stays home with the kids because they are just better cared for. Daycares have there place put the best place for a child to get good care is at home with their Mom. But if it makes the girl happy to go out and work that is fine. What she needs to do is do a very lot of research on the daycare. Another thing is popping into the daycare at different times of the day so that you can get a good idea of what's going on at all times. Don't let them know when you will be dropping in. Just walk through the doors and say I am here. There are reasons that a girl may have to use a daycare. If she is a single Mom she has no choice. There are times that both have to work to make ends meet. But be very careful in choosing where the kids are left. Kids are our most precious gifts that are given to us. [sunshinelady]
She should stay at home do all the claening and cooking and find a man and have a baby and shut up. Yer, in your dreams, what today, just wont happen, HICCUP/ [hiccup]
i don't think that girl stay at house and become housewife. girls are mentally stronger than men. she has a capacity to manage house and office. she look after her children too. [vijayamr]
The days of women being expected to stay at home and being housewives are long gone. Now it is the choice of the woman as to if she wants to stay at home with the children or if she wants to work, some women do not have the luxury of choice as they HAVE to be out earning. I am lucky in that I had the choice of being a stay at home Mum or working, I chose to stay at home and look after the children because I had been a single parent with my eldest child for some years and I had to work, me working caused a lot of problems for him and he was always in trouble. I decided that I would be at home for the other children that I had. [gemini_rose]
Thanx for BR XX [gemini_rose]
No, I don't think so. The girls nowadays should have their own independent income. They should have their own social life. But if mentioning about the kids, true too. If possible, female should have their own career which is work from home. That will be perfect. [meiyeec511]
I do not think there should be a law saying women need to stay home but , for me personally, I am a stay at home mom and wife. I LOVE IT!!!! I used to work while my kids were in school but at night I would come home do homework, cook, clean, etc...I felt like I never had time for my family. Now I can get all of that stuff done during the day and spend quality time with my family. Trust me, I know it is not for everyone. Somedays I feel like I am going to lose it if I don't get out of the house but other than that I enjoy it. [4ofmyown]
These days both girls and boys have to be brought up to be responsible for their own lives. Evey girl should learn a trade or study for a profession because there may be a time when she will be the only bread winner. Children also do well in day care if the mom cannot stay home and look after them. [Lindalinda]
Hi friend, I think you should try to change the situation..Women has equal capability now in the society with men..Many countries now has a woman leader..Women also help the family by earning incomes too..Staying at home, is the best choice if the woman don't even wanted to work..I disagree with you..No offense my friend.. [rochelleRN]
No girl will be willing to marry if anyone keep this thoughts before marriage. There is no area where girls are not reached. I have seen so many girls doing well with their kids & making their best career also. [vaishalik]
There is a thin line between these two . Well,i don't agree with you entirely . I've seen a lot of boys who had their mothers or grandmas with them throughout their childhood but ultimately became worthless creatures . It's all about controlling the children . Why can't men do the housekeeping and women go to the work ? [sodraja]
i don't think that,now many girls are doing well for many domains.and they are better than man.if they don't do it,the society with lose a lot.so if man that not better than woman,he must stay at house and do house work instead.he must looks after the children,and children will be more better,because they need the care more by fater than mother,they will grow like their father more strong and more independence.do you think i have told are more correct to you? becasue i have lots of experience about it.and the childre not only need the care of mother also need the care of father.so man would more importan role for children than woman.and for the better of children,man must do more house work and more carefull about the childern. [fwangaa]
No way would that be fine with me. After 15 or more years in school learning about the world, and skills, and language (and actually doing better than men), we're just going to be stuck at home? Why did we even bother with education then, if we can't use those knowledge into action? Besides, is it only the job of the mother to look after the children? Don't you think that the father should share the responsibility as well? And what is the mother going to do anyway when the children are in school, just wait 'til they come home? And not all children with working mothers turn out bad. It's the parents' fault (both mother and father) for not looking after their children properly. Just because they have jobs doesn't mean that they should forget about their children. They shouldn't have had children in the first place. Especially fathers who think they can get away with the responsibility because he's doing the looking for money part. [swirlz]
Nope. I do not agree with you. If I did, my family would starve. My husband worked until he was disabled, then worked another 13 years after that before taking the disability pay. He is screwed, and can no longer work. So HE stays home with our son and I work, and I go to school, and my gender doesn't have a damn thing to do with it. Sorry, I'm starting to get angry with this small minded, 1955 attitude you have brought to your discussion. If I was your wife, I'd leave you. [visitorinvasion]
I think it's a personal choice. I've been working for 11 years now but all i really ever want to do is find a part time job that would allow me to spend more time with my growing baby. I guess it's because I've always been famiy-oriented. But a career-oriented woman would never be happy doing that because she would want to succeed where her career is concerned. She may be struggling and juggling between family and work but she will be okay because it is her choice and that is what will make her happy. I agree with you that looking after the children is the top priority but I believe that there are ways to balance it all off. And working parents should not compromise the family's wellness and should always exert extra effort to bond and spend more quality time together. [michele_villasenor]
I have two answers. First, I agree that housewives need to stay in their house to care for their children so that they could know what's happening on their children. If their children are growing for their own goodness or growing for worse. But in someway, I disagree. Because every woman has the right to do what they wanted to do. If they want to work, I'm sure they will do that for the sake of their children. For them to have good future, and so that they can buy all the things they want to buy. As a woman it is important that you're not only staying in your own house, most especially today that economics in our new generation is getting poor. Housewives should also think that it is not enough that their husband is the only person who is working, they should work also for the sake of their family. [melizabrogada]
What are you, a cave man? Me man, you woman. Geeze, its not the middle ages, its the modern world. Why don't YOU stay home and be the housewife and let the woman work? In this day and age we women are perfectly able to work, AND take care of our home and children. Many men on the other hand still seem stuck in the past. [TessWhite]
I absolutely do not think women should stay at home and be housewives, especially with the economy the way it is. You need 2 incomes just to make it. Just because mom and dad are at work doesn't mean the kids will be 'bad'. [Danesmommy]
I totally disagree with this very old way of thinking! In my opinion it is up to her what she wants to do. If she is well educated and wants to have a career, then she should do that. There are good daycare for kids nowadays and proper education is given, sometimes much better than most parents could educate. If she wants to stay at home and be there with the kids, then again, she should do that but only if that's what she wants for her life. The days that women could be forced to stay at home is long gone..time for you guys to start accepting this fact of life now.. [Marleysa]
I agree with you about Nowday girls are more independent but doing housework full time i don't agree because girls are more stubborn nowdays they will not longer listen to their husband. sorry for my words. just want to say the truth. [Johar_ahmad]
I am a mother of four wonderful children. I have experienced being a working mother and also I have experienced staying home (currently). In my oppinion it is easier on me to stay home with my children while they are still some what young. I guess everyone is different. I will much enjoy going back to work when they are older but for now I do not want to miss anything more in their lives. Not to mention after I come home from work I go straight back to work. I agree that children have to be looked after but that responsibility should come from the father also. Too many men take advantage of their wives by expecting them to be the only responsible parent, working or not. The issue of becoming naughty children does not only lay on the mothers shoulders but also the fathers. [cmathias12]
I think its up to the couple involved,and if thats the way that they choose for it to work then thats their choice.I dont feel that there is a right or a wrong way,but thereis a way that works for every couple and that way may be different.in some relationships the man is very happy to let the woman go to work and provide for the family,and in others the male feels that he must be the provider.I myself thing that there is no right or wrong way of doing this,each couple need t work the way that is the best for themselves [ruby222]
Based on how I was raised, I believe absolutely in a woman's right to choose whether to stay home and raise kids, or go to work. I think its a shame that sometimes women feel pressured to work, when they would be happier staying home. But ultimately the options are open, and that's very important to me. I know that in some cultures it is different, and I wouldn't presume to comment on that. Maybe there are areas where it is assumed that women will stay home and raise children? And maybe this is satisfactory for everyone involved? [soooobored]
I believe that this conversation will split upon cultural lines. Those cultures that have more conservative, values will agree. Those cultures that tend to be more progressive will be offended by this. Frankly, I do not agree with this logic. It to me is the logic of a third world country that teaches repression and submission so that someone can maintain control. I used to believe that men and woman were equal- anything a man could do a woman could do too, except women were the only ones that can have children. Now in the US, it appears that Men can have babies too. [wallstreet]
It is my understanding that the term third world means countries that are still developing. I hope that that phrase didn't offend you. I think some of those countries that are still developing have leaders that repress their citizens so that they don't reach their full potential. Look at the woman who dared to think that she could be president, only to be kidnapped and held hostage for five years. More than what country you live in, I believe it is what culture you subscribe to that defines your beliefs... [wallstreet]
I would be very happy if you told us what the father of those children should do. I agree that children must be tended to. The question is how. I will not say "by whom" because I know itīs the responsibility of both parents. Not that they should do the same jobs (I canīt imagine a father breast feeding his babylol) but both jobs have to be as important for the child. What do you propose as the job for the father? Happy posting [atacamaval]
oath matey they should all bee barefeet an preggers [macksnake]
Nowadays, all the things here are getting expensive and I don't think that only one member in the family can support all the needs in the family.. So, I think wife also need to have a work to add earnings in the house.. It is not because of anything else but for the future of the children.. I think it is unfair for the husband to work alone.. In my opinion, wife should also have a job.. I know that it is her responsibility to take care of the children but then she still have the right to decide whether she will help her husband in the expenses in the house or just be a housewife.. And if I am the one will choose, maybe I'll choose to work.. Actually, i don't have a kids and I am not married.. But in the situation nowadays, I can say that the economic is getting down and everything is getting expensive so I think if a husband don't get a high salary then it will really find difficulty for the family to have budget the daily expenses.. happy It is just my opinion, I will understand if you don't agree with me.. lol [kissie34]
I think girls should also go out & work for the sake of better future of children.Because in today's era the most costly thing is education if you want that your child should study in a good & reputated school & you want to give all the facilities than you & your spouse should work out.And because of the rising prices it is very difficult for one to make the facilities available for the children. [mansig]
Impossible!!Girl will not stay at house although after married. Girl should have their own carrier and own life. Although she works she still can be a great housewife.This is because girl nowadays manage to balance up between the social,work and family very good. Asking your wife just sit at house it just like looking down to girls. [moodygal]
NO! I do not agee with you. A woman can go out to work and come home and still care for her family and INSTILL principals and values in ehr kids that can see them growing up to be something. How cna kids become bad if the mother is working? To me it sounds liek you are saying the mother is the only one who can give values and principals to kids now. Well the fathers too have a role to play and they should also be looking after the well being of children. Not all kids go to internet cafe, some have ocmputers at home and TV's and what's not - it lal ahs to do how they make the most of their time and education. [gtdonna]
You can't be more wrong. It is not that time when the woman was only slave to the husband, children and the home. I am a man, although I believe that women deserve more respect, after all they are the mothers to our children. How can we love our children if we do not love and respect our women. cool [pecevec13]
Nowadays a wife should share with the finances.With the high commodities houseband and the wife should work hand and hand. ;p [pinks17]
I think that the girl should decide what she wants to do with her life. If she wants to be at home and take care of the house and children and not work outside the home, then that is the choice she should be able to make. That isn't always possible with the economy the way it is and many times both the man and woman will need to work to keep a house together. If the woman wants to work outside the home that should also be her choice and it has nothing to do with the children being bad. The children can be bad whether the mother is at home with them or at work. If the woman does what she wants to do the home will be a happier place for everyone to be since she will be happier. [idowrite72]
I think mother play a important role to guide the children.So women should stay at house to take care the children.So that they can make a good family. [sabahking]
I think this is up to the female in question. I would personally love to be a stay at home wife taking care of the house and doing the typical "wife" duties. I love to cook. I love to clean. I'm happier making a happy household than I am out slaving in a dead end job! [welikemoney]
In this modern wold I don't think a girl should stay at home and serve her family only. In today's world, girls are playing very important role in everywhere, be it in education, technical or political. Girls already have proved that they are compitable to men in every field. So, this question shouldn't come when he are gradually heading to a nutralized world not a male dominating. [debjit]
well done sabah, I agree with you. Oflate guys prefers housewife as existed in early 90s. It's good thing becaz the children will have due care rather than at cruch and with ayas. The IT call center culture slowly dyin g nowadays where from the year 2000 guys preferred working partner. But the world has seen that no. of cases has increased in the family court. Becaz husband goes for night shift and wife goes for day shift and vice versa. After returning from work, they are tired and where is the question of mutual understanding, expansion of family. So they get irritated with each other and goes for illegal means and divorce. But yet, however, in these days of acute price escalation, inflation, cost of living has gone up. Hence it may not be a bad idea to have a working partner to lead a comfortable life without tension. In that case, the husband should cooperate with the wife by sharing 50% of her house works. We were long back having the culture of united family and now a days after marriage the couples departs from parents/elders and prefer a lone living. That's not healthy. Anyway it's depends on inviduals situation at home. The terms and definitions may vary. But we should do everything that is required to lead a peaceful life. Gud night. [gorajan]
Though I like to stay home and take care of the family, I disagree to the part that kids become bad and not have a proper education if their mother is working. That's definitely not the case. It all depends on how one raises the child. I have seen lots of cases where kids have turned out the way you described with the mothers staying home and taking care of them. In fact, in such cases the mother tends to pamper the kids a lot more while some mothers who are working and discipline the kids well raise mature independant kids. I quit working when I had my first child and changed careers when my older one was around 5 years. He is a well disciplined boy and also is good in studies. Since he was in first grade I only supervised his work and never sat and taught him anything as far as academics was concerned and he is a class topper....who actively participates in all the activities at school and wins prizes in all of them. I now have a 20 month old and I am working too. Discipline does not take a back seat and even the younger one is encouraged to do things on his own (whatever is physically possible). [SViswan]