Hi everyone! Lots of my friends complaints on their husbands being a lazybone at home. I am one of them actually, for over five years I can't remember my husband do the house cleaning, cooking, washing the dishes, dumping out the garbage, doing the laundry and go to buy food & groceries. In few occasions, he will cook when I'm not around otherwise he will get starved! He usually sits in front of the TV and lie asleep in the sofa while I am going around the house. But when I started conceiving I did some tricks on him and surprisingly he did it all, except for some instances when he feels so exhausted from work. What about you? Are you asking your husband to help you out with housework? Or you are fortunate that he tends to help you out without asking him?
[question posted by seanbryan]
responses and comments:
Hi seanbryan, I feel that most husbands today share the housework with their wives, including the cooking, but there are always some who feel that it isn't there job. I agree that this should be the case especially when both work outside the home.If it's the wife's choice to be a homemaker and let her husband be the breadwinner, that a different matter, she should do most of the housework. Blessings. [Pose123]
Pose, you have said that very nicely. There is alot of men that think it isn't there job more than there is who thinks it should be part of the relationship. I like mowing grass and often will help him do that and in return he helps me with the housework. Smile [rosepedal64]
You can really say that I am among those who are so fortunate to have married someone who helps me with the housework even if I don't ask him to. We actually work like a team not only around the house but in everything that concerns our family. [blungel0830]
Same here, thats how we like to run our household i find it works really well :) [polo_princess]
happy Hi there. I am not married any longer, but when I was, in the days when I was home and raising our children, I did do almost all of the housework, cooking, paying bills, and some of the yardwork. But even when I began working outside the home, most of the housework I still did. Sometimes, though, he would help, so I cannot say he never did. It is nicest of all when people do help one another as needed. Karen [PeacefulWmn9]
Hi karen! So we are the typical homemakers, anyhow still we must be thankful that our husbands are trying to help us out with the housework. Thanks for responding dear! [seanbryan]
Hi Seanbryan, When we were newlymarried, we made a pact to share the houseworks, and indeed we did - I was incharge of the cleaning of the house and cooking, he preferred the laundry, cleaning the bathroom, and washing dishes. But he didn't tell me he has allergies from chemicals like detergents, dishwashing paste, etc. Then I noticed his hands developed rushes and eventually small wounds that get worse with every washing he did. So I told him to stop doing them. But I can't trust him with the other chores, he just can't do them the way I wanted them done. So I ended up doing everything myself. [doryvien]
doryvien I know what you mean my husband has problems with bleach cleaning. Maybe you can give him some other chores that doesn't include the chemicals. Maybe he can sweep the floors,fold the the towels and take the garbage out, ect. [rosepedal64]
My husband is already retired from work so he spent all his time at home. He cooks whenever my daughter is not around but mostly he do clean the backyard and the front yard. Trim the bermuda grass and pulling out weeds. Sweep the leaves at the backyard as well. He helps a lot whilst me i do the laundry. He do all those as means of exercise. [Vicay_theMom]
Hello Vicay! It's nice to hear a family helping each other when needed. Seems you have a perfect one! Thank you for responding...happy mylotting! [seanbryan]
Used to my hubby would do the dusting and vacuuming for me (though I had to do everything else.) Now he's started washing the dogs, and I have to do the dusting and vacuuming along with everything else. Except, when I was washing the dogs they got a bath EVERY week, now they are only getting one about once a month. I don't think that's much of a fair trade as far as the amount of work being done. [nonersays]
Hi nonersays! At least you can rely on your hubby for some housework, still its fine than doing all of it by yourself. Thank you for sharing... have a nice day! [seanbryan]
My boyfriend loves cleaning...LOL. I'm one of the lucky ones. We do share the housework but we don't have too much seeing how we are in an apartment. [dreamr802]
Hello dreamr! Congratulations! Hope your boyfriend will be the same when you get married. Thank you for responding... good day! [seanbryan]
When me and my first husband fist got married i had to constantly remind him of things that needed to be done around the apartment, and we'd argue bc, i've been unemployed for a while and he feels i should play housewife and do everything. Not so. After a while we came to terms and decided to split the chores. But now that im 6 months pregnant, i dont really have to lift a finger. All i do is buy things for the house such as cleaning supplies, etc and do the grocery shopping and clean the br. Not too hard on my part. But i'm really appreciating the things he do while im pregnant bc im sure with my child on the way in nov, i'll have twice the workload. He'll be working, and i'll be caring for the child and picking up on all the chores again, and finding a part time job in the process. [lilmoma09]
hi lilmoma! Good for you! You did the right thing of reminding him of doing his part for the housework. I think i forgot that thing when we started our life together, same as you I've been unemployed for some time and I felt that housework should be my sole responsibility as he is the one earning for us. So when I got employed, I was so burdened of the housework as my husband was used to the old set-up. Congratulations to both of us! I am also pregnant with our first baby and may we have a supportive husband all the way...happy mylotting! [seanbryan]
Household work should be equal to both partners. Its a husband and wife thing, chores should be divided among them according to capacity. A wife is the partner of the husband for life, not a slave or a maid. A husband should do the repair or fixing things at home, emptying the garbage, shopping for food and groceries and so on. We all know that husbands are the bread winner in the family but it doesn't mean that he has to make his wife a slave for him. I am still single but I will talk to my future husband that household work should be equal to us when we get married. [sophie_dfuss]
Hi sophie! Very well said! Yes I agree with all your views, honestly I was mistaken of not reminding my husband of his share with the housework when we started our life together. But anyway it's not too late for me yet to do so, i really need his helping hand more than ever with the coming of our first baby very soon. Thank you for sharing! [seanbryan]
My husband and I split the housework... we've both done all the tasks when we needed to. Usually, though, he does most of the dishes and I do most of the cooking... I'll organize the garbage/recycling and he'll bring it out... we both pitch in for laundry and groceries because we don't have a car and we have to go to the laundromat, so both those tasks require both of us to carry stuff. The general cleaning around the house usually gets split up fairly well, too, but that's just whoever gets to it first, really. When I get into a cleaning mood, he generally pitches in just because he's afraid I'll overwork myself, lol. [OceanLady]
my husband, in fact my boyfriend,is good guy.Usually, he do more housework than me. sometimes,when i am not fell good, he will do all of the housework [xiaoyu09182]
hi seanbryan ........... i am a lasy hubby i cant remember that ever i have shared any thing with my wife any time...but had shared a thing that is.i often make some innovative dishes and serve to my wife...i got some mixed comment but all of there is good .....so for me its 50/50.........whats about you.............?? [johndevis1234]
Hello johndevis! How sweet of you serving food for your wife! Yes, housework should be divided fairly with husband and wife especially if both are working outside the house. Thank you for sharing...happy mylotting! [seanbryan]
Chores and tasks around the house generally should be 50/50. Being married is a partnership. You do things as a team. My husband and I do everything as a team. I cook, he cleans the kitchen, loads the dishwasher. He vacuums, I do laundry. You really have to work on the idea of a "team". [incredibleDNA]
hi incredibleDNA! Sounds your a smart wife! Yes I am with you, housework should be shared fairly as if a "team" for both husband and wife. Thank you for sharing... good day! [seanbryan]
Guess I'm lucky! My husband and I take turn to cook on Sundays! He is so helpful with the house-hold works. I hate to keep track with my laundry..and he is good at it like washing and drying and I do the folding and ironing! He hates to mop and I hate to sweep so the days that I'm tired he'll help me to sweep and I'll happily mop the whole house! He is my best friend!! [candy2306]
Hello candy! Nice idea! Maybe I also need to befriend my husband so he'll help me out everytime...lol.... thanks for sharing...good day! [seanbryan]
Hi there,.. I'm grateful that my hubb want to share the housework with me. Cause we dont hire the servant to take care the housework. My hubb often doing the laundry and sometimes cleaning the room too. Mine is cooking, bathe children,and ironing. So nice to be compact with my hubb. [shimanaja]
Hi shimnaja! You're lucky having a hubby like him. I'll try my luck maybe when we already have our baby boy soon. Thanks for sharing....good day! [seanbryan]
In my house, my mom do most of the housework, she is lovely to do it for her love child and husband. So I think we should combine our motion for family with all kind of housework, then it is not a hard period [earthquake_boy]
hi earthquake! You have a nice mom, help her out with the house chores so she will have more time with you and your dad. Good day! [seanbryan]
my husband would do the housework when he feels like doing it. the days i am unwell he will do cooking and washing but not cleaning or marketing. At times when he is having a nice mood he will prepare coffee. but it always depend on mood. when my child was born at that time he used to do a lot and i didn't have to remind him .But generally everyday chores he doesn't do. Te's not that he doesn't help but when he will help that you have to keep guessing. [mrittika77]
hi mrittika! Maybe you have to talk to your husband to be helping you all the time, I'll do it too when my husband stops doing his share after I deliver our first baby. Thank you for sharing... good day! [seanbryan]
My husband will share the housework with me . We often cook together and it seems funny to us . We feed our small boy together at night . We do share every housework as cleaning , dumping out the garbage, ding the laundy , ect. We won't have any complaints about the housework . The one who is free will do most of them. Well i feel lucky. [grace118224]
hi grace! Congratulations! You really have a nice hubby, you must be very thankful having him. Thank you for sharing.....good day! [seanbryan]
I do share my house work with my husband. I don't force him to do anything unless I am in a hurry or sick so that I can't do the work. He is good at cleaning compared to me. So, he takes care of sweeping and moping the whole house weekly once and he cleans the restroom. I help him in cleaning sometimes. I am good at cooking. So, I do most of the cooking and washing of vessels, but helps me sometimes especially on weekends and if he gets home earlier than me. He hates doing laundry. So, I do that most of the time. He hates ironing. So, I do that. He is good at planning and executing thigs properly so he does that. He is in charge of paying rent on time, paying electricity charge, ordering for water once is about to get over, ordering for gas when it is about to get over, collect the clothers from laundry person (heavy clothes we give out for laundry) and he does a lot of grocery shopping. [daliaj]
Hi daliaj! So yo belong to the lucky wife category, you've got a nice husband helping you out with many things. Thank you for sharing...good day! [seanbryan]
Nope, he is simply hopeless at housework, such as cleaning dishes, laundry and even moping the floor. He has helped me clean dishes before, and made such a mess that I had to wipe and dry the cleaning area. When he helped me mop the floor, he was like a fairy dancing with the mop. So I finally gave up on asking him to do housework. However there are some jobs that I am determined that he does - taking out the garbage, fixing lights & anything, and general maintenance. If not, he would have to pay someone do these jobs! [lazeebee]
Hi lazeebee! Have it come to your mind that your husband may intentionally do the housework disorderly so that you'll not ask him to do it the next time...? Lol... You shouldn't give up on him instead teach him of how to do it properly. Seriously, we the wives should not overworked ourselves with housework, I am thinking of asking my husband to hire somebody to help me out if he can't do his share at home..fair enough! thank you for sharing! [seanbryan]
uhm,i don't have a husband...so - no! lolZ! [patofgold23]
maybe more like--it's gonna be the other way around...hhehe [patofgold23]
My husband doesn't like to clean but occasion like when we fight he cleans as a way of making it up to me. He cooks and takes out the trash that's really about it, but he wouldn't pick up a single dog hair from the floor, but he doesn't have to, I usually take care of it all [j92mike]
Hi j92mike! Whew! so you always have to fight with him so he will make up each time, how is it? ...lol... actually my husband do the same when i am giving him the silent treatment, i won't do anything except lying in bed and no choice is left with him so he has to cook and clean his mess in the kitchen. thanks for sharing! [seanbryan]
Oh my gosh!! I guess this is kinda of a trick question. Will explain. My husband is laid off and I am not able to work. I usually do all the housework except on those days that I don't feel best in the world. He will do dishes, sweep and cook some stuff if I am sick. Otherwise I am the main housekeeper in our home. If I am okay with my health then no he doesn't help. I guess he feels he has to enough when I am sick. Men you need to help it out. SMILE [rosepedal64]
Hi rosepedal! Then you have to make some trick on your husband to make him more deligent with housework...you both stays at home right? So its fair enough if he shares his part of the chores with you not only when you are sick. Cheers! thank you for sharing! [seanbryan]
hi seanbryan, housework/chore is always a shared responsibility for us. i am proud to say that my husband iron clothes better than i. he too helps me do the laundry and clean our room and the bathroom. he also cook but hates dishwashing especially the casseroles and pans. he loves to do market which i hate especially going to the wet market coz i really can't stand the smell. i am so lucky for having such a responsible and wondeful husband. [msfrancisco9369]
Hi msfrancisco! So you belong to the lucky wife category, you are blessed to have a husband like him. It's really nice to hear that only few wives in my lot community complaints on their husbands being lazy on housework. Stay lucky! Have a good day! [seanbryan]
With regards to housework i would say that i do around 70% and he does the remaining 30%, however we do split the household up and he tends to do the more "manly" jobs and that leaves me to do the cooking and cleaning. Sometimes on a Sunday we have a mad blitz too where we both just clean up. I find this wat works really well because we are working as a team. [polo_princess]
good for you polopricess! your lucky with your husband, he knows the responsibility of being a good husband.both it's relieving when you share the housework with your partner especially when you both work outside the house. good day! [seanbryan]
hello there! i'm so lucky with my hubby because he really helps me with house chores all the time..he does the grocery most of the time and he does the cooking--we both love to cook and we're all gourmet eaters. really i'm so proud of my hubby because there were times when we don't have house helps that we have to wash our clothes together--we have 4 kids...wub [mjmlagat]
hi mjmlagat! Nice to hear that! Indeed you so lucky to have someone like him. Not all wives are blessed with a hubby like yours, you've chosen the the right man for you. you must be proud of him....congratulation! [seanbryan]