I've taken another week off from my work, and I'm bringing my baby to where I stay for this week. I'll be full time taking care of him for the week as a mother and housewife. I really enjoy being these roles, staying at home, taking care of my lovely baby, preparing meals for my husband and myself, cleaning the house, etc.
I have heard from my friends saying taking care of baby is suffering, being a housewife is not a good job, etc. Most of them prefer working. I really love to be a full time mother and housewife, as it's doing for our loved ones, and also I suppose I am a family woman, I really love to do this for my family. Though I do enjoy my work, I enjoy being a mother much more than working. lol
How about you? Do you like to stay at home, be a full time mother and housewife? Or do you like to go to work?
[question posted by kaka135]
responses and comments:
Hi, kaka135. I would rather be a full time wife and mom and still work at the same time. I would like to have a part time job that will enable me to still take care of my family while I can earn money in my spare time. Sometimes it does get tiresome being a housewife and a stay at home mom. But, the rewards down the road are beneficial. I am able to spend more time with my kids rather than always dropping them off at the daycare. I am able to be my own boss, with no frustration. I am more independent. I don't have someone hanging over my shoulders dictating me or my accomplishments. I can be flexible and multi-tasked whenever possible.happy [cream97]
I am a stay at home mom and a housewife - that IS my work! I don't have a "job" in the true sense of the word . . . but I do intend to go back into the working force when both of my children are in school full time (which means about 5 years from now!). I do enjoy my role at home . . . taking care of a almost 5 year old and a newborn - it is a lot of work - but I wouldn't trade it for the world. I'm glad I can put my all into family life for now as my husband and I think that these are the most crucial years for our children. I don't think I could really concentrate on work anyway right now . . . my little ones REALLY are a handful and keep me busy. I know some people who say they'd rather work than be at home with their kids too . . . they say it's too much work, but not in a positive way - and that to me is sad. [much2say]
I am retired. I think that if you have nice, normal children it is common for mothers to feel the way that you do. But, if you have troublesome, or kids with issues this may not be the case. I can relate to the mothers who enjoyed their work as aposed to being a house wife. There were plenty of times that I felt like it was a vacation getting back to work. [celticeagle]
happy When my first child was born and then her two sisters, I stayed home full time, most of the time, and I loved it. As they got older, I worked part time, and then full...but my most fulfilling job back in those years was being a mom and a homemaker. Then I knew exactly what kind of care my family was getting :) I do love my work now, though. Karen [PeacefulWmn9]
welllll, I never wanted to be a mother, and didn't particularly want to be a house wife, but working... noooo, didn't want to do that either now, if they could pay me to sleep.... [ElicBxn]
Hi kaka, You are so blessed to be able to work as a full-time mother and housewife. Most wives/mothers have to go out to work to supplement the household income. Besides, you enjoy taking care of your children and husband. So keep it up. [JamesKYTan]
me and my wife work together in a band. she is a professional singer, but since the day she gave birth she decided to be a full time hands on mom. i had mixed emotions about it for i know she is good in her career, and on the other side i am happy that my child will grow in good hands. if other women says that they prefer working than being a stay at home mom then that is their opinion. there are woman who can be moms but it is hard to be and to act like one. with heart and soul put into it. just my opinion. good for you that you enjoy and love taking a break and giving time for your son. its a hard work with no pay and no day offs but it is much more rewarding that working (thats what i always hear from my wife) [se7enthbird]
Hi kaka135,Yes,i am.I am happy being a wife and a mom to my children,not only for 1 week but in my whole life.I am a full time wife and a mom to my children.I truly love my role plays in my daily lives.I enjoyed so much in what i am doing and I love to take care of my family.Although it's hard sometimes but the important is you love what you've done to take care of your love ones.Have a nice day! [Hazelrose]
I'm happy with your words, although I'm a husband. In my opinion to let wife stay at home to take care baby and family members stands a love of a husband. I describe this according to my situation. As you know we have to take buses to office and there are always massive people taking busies, it's difficult for a man to board a crowed bus. Therefor we should wake up early to take busies, in consequence you have to sleep less. If a husband wants his wife stay at home, he will keep these difficulties from his wife. In opposite side, your house would be clean and tidy if a wife in there, as a husband you would have a good mood to see anything are ordered, then you haven't worry about others and pay more attention to your working to fuel family. [StevenZhu]
I had my 1st child in feb. and then went back to work for a month or two and got laid off. It was the best thing! I have been staying home with my son ever since. I love it. There is nothing more I could ever want to do with my life. It is my work, but it is also my joy! I feel very lucky to be able to stay home. Things are tough as far as money goes but it is worth it to me. i have more time to do things like make dinner and play with my son. When i worked it was always so tired. I worked an hr away from where i lived so by the time I got home I made something quick to eat, only got to play with the baby a little bit and then it was time it get him ready for bed. I pretty much lived for the weekend. And now its like everyday is the weekend! :) [Ambreya3]
I like to be a full time mother, playing with the baby and cooking delicious food for her. But I don't like to take all the other housework. I am lazy.I like working too, but the time with my baby is more enjoyable for me. The bad thing is that I have to work to earn money to support the family. So weekends and holidays are the happinest time for me. [kathy714]
i love taking care and watching over my kids as they grow while they are exploring and learning new things everyday. its like a daily accomplishment. its true that its not that easy but you wont be seeing them as a baby or young kids your whole life. and if you miss it, there's no way that you can bring back time. by the way, im a dad. happy new year kaka135 [drakesuyat]
My dreams are little bit different, actually anybody can say about me that jack of all master of none, I want to carry on my job as well as to lookafter my home and also fulfil my desire what are my desires simply want I want a single true tear only just for me when I die for this I enjoy to help other people [talatgulzar]
although i like to stay at home,but i dont hope that i become a full time mother and housewife.i think that i couldnt be fit for this work,if i only pay my time for my family and husband and could not finish what i want,i feel uncomfortable with my life,i think that people's time is limited,i wish i can finish what i want,at the same time i can look after my family and husband,so i can find happy and perfect life with my family.rolleyes [bingchen]
I was not able to stay home without earning money when my kids were young. We needed the money. Rather than go back to my job at the office I took on some kids to babysit for extra income. I also worked part time when my husband came home and was able to be with the kids. I did enjoy taking care of my babies and cooking and cleaning etc. If you are able to financially stay home and if you enjoy it then that's what you should do. You can't compare your situation to that of your friends. Everyone is different. Some women have to go back to work....some want to. It's all in what works for you and your family. happy [sid556]
Hi sid: I completely agree with you, at this moment it's better to dedicate some time for the sake of the babies if you can and I have always heard that this is one of the best moments for a mother to take care of her children. Thanks for your answer sid. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro [starsailover]
I am so pleased to read your post. I am with you on this one. i love being home with my daughter. I love cleaning up the house and doing other chores. it can get tiresome at times. But,over all your right it is for our family. it is so good to do things out of love. happy new year [SharonJohnson]
Hello new mom. Its all depend on how you feel plain and simple, I have 2 boys a 7 and 6 years old. I stay home the first 3 years it made more sense than to pay someone else 1/2 of my check to take care of my kids. I have to say, it was hard for me to ask my husband for money i always took care of myself and he never offer so i endup asking for money for simple things for the house and i mean necesity, like dish soap it was frustrated i though maybe he knows to give me since i was home with the kids. I did enjoy been home, cooking and cleaning it was great the love that the kids developed was rewarding and wonderfull, i took care and nuture my kids and that was good enough but when it was time to wake up and smell the coffee i was back up on bills and stress out i found me a job at a bed and breakfast near my house so i could keep the home together and keep up with my duties as a mom and housewife it was rough after that i stared looking for a carer change and became a personal trainner i make my own hours and i get to cook, clean, and spend time with my 2 boys. Hopefully u dont have to worry about finances like i did and that would make it a beatiful experience for u and baby. b best of luck isa [chabella1]
Hi kaka: I don't know much about this but I simply admire the job every mother and housewife do, it's a really hard work that requires a lot of dedication. I congratulate you for this feeling that it's sometimes difficult to find in the new mothers. I think both works are very important without a doubt so don't worry for your friend's opinion and do what you consider it will made you proud as a woman. Thanks for sharing with us what you think about the subject. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy holidays. Take Care. -Alvaro [starsailover]
Hi Kaka, I am sure you will be a great mother and a great wife if you hold such kind of opoion to take care of the family. I could not stand to stay at home only with the walls, furniture and served as the nanny to my hub. I just did not feel safe if I stayed alone at home. I am scared that my hub will dislike me if I did not earn money. I'd like to be equeal with my hub for the household that we should take care in the daily life. Economy independent is a must for me in my life just in case any dispute in the future. [sasalove]
I was blessed to be able to be a stay at home mother and raise my two sons. It was the best time of my life! It is a shame that the mothers who want to stay at home cannot do so because of money. I'm so glad you had that week with your child! [dragon54u]
I am a full time house wife and mother with a sixteen year old son.He still needs me there.If you can stay at home then please do ,you will be repaid five fold.My son is not in trouble with the law,or on drugs,he goes out with his mates,downloads music and over spends on the phone bill.He is perfectly normal.There is nothing wrong with staying at home although it may not suit some.I have had part time jobs at certain times but never considered full time work while my three kids were young.You say you would rather stay at home then work.Staying at home is a job on its own,sometimes boring.Sometimes you are so busy you wonder how you ever fitted in working outside the home.I think there are many woman who would love to stay at home but these days two wage packets are essential.To be honest I don't know why some woman have families if they don't want to look after them,I really beleave if you can afford it,staying at home with the kids is the best thing.I will probably get shot down in flames,but many of the woman who bag stay at home mums have no choice but to work and recent it.Each to their own just that I have brought up three kids over 35 years and have never had any trouble from any of mine.Normal teenage problems sure.I have seen working mums living in massive houses work for the sake of it while their kids get up to all sorts,being a pain to the neibours ,they need to be looked after properly,they deserve better from their parents,No I am not rich infact going without is a sacrifice I am willing to make,while the other kids got massive,expensive presents,mine were pleased to have something smaller but to have me there,in actual fact the rich kids as we called them used to find friends with my kids so the bullies left them alone. [suzzy3]
kaka no I really enjoyed being amom but few of us have the luxury of just staying home as it often takes two checks just to pay rent and u tlities and live,so I mommed and worked parttime and loved it, as I was not just a housewife also an employee as well as mom and wife. we need to know we are us as well as the other hats we wear. someday soon you will be seeing your children grown up and getting married so you have had a job so now you can really give it more attention. [Hatley]
i have done both. I have worked and home and been a full time, mommy, wife and work at home mom and I loved it. If I could work at home that would be great. I work outside of the home now and I hate it. I'm not at home when my six year old gets home from school and I hate that. My daughter picks him up at the bus stop. the best job I have ever had is being a home, it is more rewarding than any paying job out there. when the kids get older they begin to see why you did what you did and you smile..... I love being a mother. I wish I could have been a stay at home mom but it just wasn't in the cards. [jkcokley]
Hi, kaka135. I love to a full time mother and i am now. lol I love to accompany my baby, play with him. It's really fun to see him playing so happily. The moments together with him are so precious. And the most important thing is i can accompany him growing up day by day. I love to prepare the food for my baby and it's such a great time to see when he enjoys the food that i made for him. Also, i love to be his teacher, not only as a mother. I like to prepare the teaching materials for him. Even though i need to spend much time on it but it's worthwhile when i see he knows what i have taught him. happy I think i am not a working woman but a family woman. Have a nice day and happy mylotting. lol [lulumartin]
Hello my friend kaka135 Ji, I have always been house-wife, ever since my marriage, before that I was a teacher in Girl's college. I never had any ill-feeling, whay at all I left my job. What I would have got after my earning, I got much more than that. I brought up my children that they showed me the world.I get everything from them now, though I have sufficient of my own. So I feel,the way you are with your son, will add another feather in your life. Lady has many roles to discharge. My compliments and best wishes with you. May God bless You and have a great time. [maygodblessu44]